Alone, Stranded, and Bankrupt!
Hello everyone, I’m new here. I’m posting this thread because I feel like I’m going crazy! I live alone in a large house on 2-1/2 acres, in the woods. I have four vehicles that don’t run. I’m going through bankruptcy and living on snap benefits. I have less than two months to find a place to live, and pack up, transport, and store my belongings, as well as sell three of the four cars. Being this overwhelmed, stressed out, and lonely combined, has put me in a constant state of panic!!! I’m not a tech savvy guy, and I’ve got multiple attorneys and a realtor wanting a ton of information from me, in ways that I can’t provide. My WiFi and cable were shut off months ago, and I’m struggling to keep my cellular service. I’m doing my best to scan, PDF, file, and use a digital signature. I’m literally having to have Gemini Ai teach me how to do this stuff as I go! This past Wednesday morning I received some Emergency alerted emails that completely threw me over the edge. I’ve been completely paralyzed ever since. I can’t answer the phone, I can’t look at emails, I can barely force myself to cook, and I lye in bed with my eyes closed, but can’t fall asleep. It’s currently Sunday evening, and the anxiety of being bombarded by these people is building. The worst part of my anxiety is, it feels like a a large magnet is trying to pull my face off!!! So, there’s all that going on but, I feel like the loneliness aspect is in the Danger Zone!!! I have some credit left on my Uber account. I think I’m gonna Uber to the sports bar down the road from me. I haven’t walked into a bar in years, and I might end up being too anxious and intimidated to speak to anyone, but I just Have To Get Out Of Here! The only place I’ve been to in the past two months, is the grocery store 🥺 I’m desperate for human interaction! Does anyone have any advice on what to do about this situation???🙏🙏🙏
@HelpMeSmile26
With the four cars that don't run, can you try to see if you can sell them for parts to a junk company? Also do you live in the USA if so can you contact 211 for community resources?
Thanks for the advice. I’m probably going to list my cars on *** marketplace. From the research I’ve done, I should be able to recoup enough money to buy a newer car. I just need help getting my head straight, and leveled out, so I can tackle all of this. And I’ll check out 211 thanks 🙏
@HelpMeSmile26
I really hope you are able to! 211 can provide you with financial assistance as well as housing assistance and emergency housing.
@HelpMeSmile26. It sounds like you’ve already taken some solid steps by doing your research and making a plan. I can help you sort through your thoughts, get your head clear, and stay focused so you can tackle this with confidence. We can break it down together and make it feel more manageable.
@HelpMeSmile26 I'm really sorry you're going through so much 🙁 I'm rooting for you. You're not alone here, and you truly matter 💖 Sending you lots of love ❤️❤️
Thanks so very much! I’ll take all the hugs and love I can get!🤗
@HelpMeSmile26 💖💖
@HelpMeSmile26
Really Sorry to hear you are going through such hard times.
I wish things works out soon for you.
Sometimes I think anxiety kicks in when our activity declines and brain works exponentially not in a desirable manner.
I have been anxious as long as I can remember but I learnt that 1 small action can compound pretty fast.
Breath A positive thought [ Yes it is bad, but I can figure it out ]
Go for a walk in park or even streets work. Just be in present and you will be just fine Trust me.
I hope that helps : )
I’m gonna try doing that right now, thanks so much!
Hugs all will be good
Hello how are you doing
My biggest accomplishment yesterday was forcing myself to go outside and get the mail 🤦🏻♂️ I lost a workman’s comp case a year ago, couldn’t pay my bills, and have been terrified of the mail ever since.
I’m really sorry I don’t have advice but I want you to know we hear you and have a huge hug for you if you want it! You’re going thru so much.
@HelpMeSmile26
Hi, why did you change your pic? It was promising to see you smile.
I’m not an expert but I have a thought.
You are going through a storm now. It’s crazy to the point it triggers the overwhelm and anxiety.
We can see from your posts that you are taking things in your hands and being resourceful. Good job! Really huge respect for getting this far and still moving forward!
Does it sound reasonable to say this situation is not permanent? It will change even if you won’t do anything. However, by doing the difficult things now you are shaping the future to be a better one for you.
You will sell the cars and get a one that works. You might sell the current house and move to some small place closer to people. We don’t know how bad the way there will be, but it ends somewhere else. You might even have an idea how soon you will need to move.
What can be good on the other side? Are your actions getting you closer to that?
Would you be able to remind yourself: “It’s bad but I choose to do the next right thing cause I am not staying here”?
Thank you for taking an interest 🙏 It really helps knowing that I’m not completely alone in this. 🥰
Thank you for coming here. It’s a privilege to be here with you.
You did the right thing by reaching out. It must be overwhelming to have all those things happening in such a short time, so just take it one thing at a time. But just like writing your message, any action is better than no action. I bet you will feel better if you are able to get out of the house and be around people for a while. Always look on the bright side of life, just like Monty Python said.
I have no advice but I understand. I am going through foreclosure and have nothing to live on and no where to go and it is so debilitating
Thank you for sharing your support like this. I believe that a presence of someone who really understands so well is most powerful. Most of us can only imagine. Your words here are huge. I see your stepping in to help. I send you a warm hug and a big “Thank you”. Keeping my fingers crossed for both of you.