@Espejo
How to Respond to Disrespect?
Short answer: Don’t.
I find it to be the biggest, most loudest response to anyone behaving in a disrespectful manner. People who act a certain way, are always seeking to get a reaction from you, when you don’t give them that, you took away their power to affect you and that’s an answer enough!
Other times, where absolutely necessary, communicating boundaries and addressing the future approach to interaction can be helpful, yes!
Great ideas here!
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
Yes, absolutely! My default is to ignore disrespect, but as an K-8 educator, I do also call it out with students, colleagues, etc. Remembering that others actions is a reflection of themselves ultimately helps to extinguish any feelings of embarrassment, resentment, etc. :)
Hope you are having a great day Sunny!
@Espejo
Just a thought. If we do choose to ignore disrespect then first we must be absolutely sure that disrespect was their intent otherwise they will not learn and may go on and do the same to someone else.
Ignoring someone is a non-reaction, perhaps even an ignorant action.
A lot of us dislike confrontation, I personally hate it and do my best to avoid it; by walking away, or ignoring something. But now I can see the effects of when I have ignored disrespect, or rudeness, or bad behaviour and I don't like the direction things have taken.
@Espejo
Essentially hehe!
Sometimes it becomes important to address things, especially if you are supposed to continue interacting or work with the same kinda people, because truth be told, the “silence” can sometimes turn to resentment for many~ and if you’re the kind that feels lighter by putting across your point then it’s important to!
Also sadly some people mistake lack of response to “being weak” but it’s not, it’s plain assessment and reminder that not everyone is emotionally equipped to see your point and if there’s lack of mutual consideration; there’s no point in discussing things~ for me!
It’s nice to always acknowledge that people have different experiences and that helps shape their opinions and future course of interactions. Also that different situations and bonds with people can get different responses from us based on our experiences or emotional reliance.
My absolute go-to mantra for the times when the disrespect is absolutely uncalled for, is to visualise a wall when I’m talking to someone who isn’t on the same page as me, it’s not even about being confrontational or open to “talking”; simply the fact that, if I bump into the wall (the inconsiderate, disrespectful, mean behaviour on-purpose or without change despite a mention couple of times) then the wall is going to remain intact but only I’ll be the one getting hurt and I don’t allow myself that ~ let alone anyone/ anything else!
I’d rather let people think they “won” if I get to disengage, distance and choose my peace over their baseless drama. Little “losses” sometimes mean big victories in the bigger picture scenario, I feel.
And absolutely well said about not taking things personally, because yes, how people react and what they think or say truly is their projected reflection and not really anything about us. 🥰 Thank youu, friend, hope you too!
@Espejo I don't look at it like ignore disrespect, but more how to handle disrespect. Some people treat us unkindly, so sadly not responding to them is sometimes the best answer. The way we treat others is how we will be treated for the most part. Great thread. Thank you for posting. This is a topic many of us go through and have to understand how to cope/ handle it.
@Espejo
Great advice, thanks for sharing 💜🥰
@Espejo
@Espejo. I like this chart thanks for posting.
@Espejo Thank you for sharing ❤️
@Espejo
Dealing with disrespect to me is depending on the circumstance. Many times I have witnessed situations that were misread or taken out of context and got out of hand. In those cases walking away works. Those who feel they must act to teach someone a lesson are gas to a fire of miscommunication.
the chart sounds like dealing in a work/ school setting etc.not personal relationships that have more nuances.
@Espejo
Thank you for sharing this. This is a good way to remind ourselves about how to set a proper boundary to protect us. It shows good examples and I appreciate it 😄
@Espejo
True, thanks for sharing😄
