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How long are you "clean"? If you aren't what is keeping you back?

Hello everyone.

This forum post is for all those people self harming.

  1. How long are you "clean"? How much time did it pass till the last time you self harmed?
  2. If you are still self harming: what is keeping you back?

All of you answer those 2 questions sincerely! Don't be afraid! Share your story! 

And let's all of us congratulate those people for fighting and trying their own battles!

Well done!


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User Profile: Amanda84
Amanda84 May 15th

@cheerfulKiwi1776


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User Profile: cheerfulKiwi1776
cheerfulKiwi1776 OP May 15th

@Amanda84

Thanks for actively telling us you are here for People who need it.

You are great.✨️

Thanks 💜

Take care and be safe🫂

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User Profile: IzzyGamer
IzzyGamer May 15th

@cheerfulKiwi1776

I've been clean from sh for 3 days I think. 

And something that is keeping me from stopping is that it's really the only thing that helps me to cope with how I feel. There's a few more reasons as well but I think that's the main one. 

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User Profile: cheerfulKiwi1776
cheerfulKiwi1776 OP May 16th

@IzzyGamer

Hey I m really proud of you for being clean for 3 days! I know the urge to cut is big but try something healthier! I believe in you and I know you can make it. I m really proud of you💜

Take care, be safe and if you ever need anything text me🫂✨️

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User Profile: 7Bear7
7Bear7 May 16th

@cheerfulKiwi1776


*"*"*"*"* TRIGGER WARNING *"*"*"*"*
Okay so I just finished writing this and I knew it would be tough but holy wackamoly I used to be a mess huh. . . 

So here is the warning,

1. It's a lot more than just vague mentioning SH, it's a lot of harmful mental thoughts and and habits put into words.

2. Direct mentions of idealizing and hating scars.

3. This is not how I feel or act or understand myself currently, I lot has changed so please don't read if you think how I used to be can affect how you view and treat me. I've been through a lot of bad mindsets, but most of them are directly towards me and I have for longer than I can remember only wanted to bring love to others not pain or hate. How I view(ed), treat(ed), and thought myself is not indicative of how I view, treat, and think about others. If you still choose to read this know I love you, and thank you for taking the time to









I am clean since some time in February, at least I think? I know it's been at least 2 months cuz I don't remember anything in March or April.

Humm since I am somewhat clean, and hopeful (at times at least) that it will stay that way, the second question doesn't perfectly apply to me. However I'll answer it in a past tense sorta way with probably a lot of rambling to cuz ya know I do that.

I had/have a weird fascination with scars in some ways I think they are beautiful and others I think they are horrid. This applies to both intentional and accidental scars on me and others. So part of me wanted scars but another part hated them and just wished I could rub/itch/erase them off. So the part of me that wanted them wanted a fesher, redder, "prettier", louder scar they brought me back some or at least wouldn't let me forget.
 
Another big reason was dissociation, I can't always feel things, emotional, logical, sometimes even my physical senses fade to an extent. Pain cuts through the fog letting the built up emotions out in a way that didn't harm others or my relationship with them. It "helped" me feel when like I was drifting through space, it "helped" me breath when it felt like there was no air around, it "helped" me escape when the world felt louder, and brighter then my senses could handle. I guess paradoxical it both made me feel more and feel less, like I could let out me emotions without dealing with the world making more emotions than I could let out, a sorta vent system or something idk. 

The last big reason was I did (and sometimes still do) hate myself. It was a sorta of way to punish myself, a way to make up for wrongs I had done,  To feel like I didn't get away scottfree. A mark that would forever hold me accountable, that wouldn't let me forget how horrible I could be and how much wrong I can do, how not controlling myself leads only to pain and suffering even if I don't see it I'd make myself feel it.



P.S. some of these reasons I have been scared to share with anyone (even on cups here) so if you respond please be kind cuz I am still kinda scared to share how I used to think. Thank you again for reading 
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User Profile: cheerfulKiwi1776
cheerfulKiwi1776 OP May 16th

@7Bear7

Hey there! First of all I m really proud for you for opening up here and thank you a lot for that. I really see what you went through and probably sometimes still going through

First of all, well done for that long period of not self harming. I m really proud of you for achieving that

Secondly, I know exactly how you feel. I know how dissociation feels like and I totally understand you.

You are so strong for going through all this and I hope you are better now💜

I m really proud of you for sharing those things.🫂

Please if you ever need anything be free to text me 🙃

Lastly please take care and be safe. ✨️

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User Profile: 7Bear7
7Bear7 May 17th

@cheerfulKiwi1776

Heywo! o/

Thank you, it definitely was a lot and still is. But it somehow feels less? Maybe it is less, or maybe I grew up some? Who knows I suppose 


Thank you so much! There are still days where it's still so hard, thought pass through my head, and I contemplate, but so far I haven't 


Oof, yes it sucks to deal with, especially cuz it makes your wonder if you even have emotions at all, or if you're faking all of them, or how much are you faking or exaggerating. . . I hope you have a good way to deal with it and that it gets to a better place in your life 🩵


Mmm thank you, strength was something I always wanted as a child, now I have a small amount, and realize the weight that you have to hold when your strong, it's very heavy, and sometimes you fall down under the weight, but the path to greater strength is training and getting back up is one of the ways to train I suppose?


Thank you, it was both weirdly difficult and easy to share, it definitely feels a bit better knowing that kind and loving others (like you!) can see that part of me know tho,

🙃 You're so wonderful for helping so many people 🩵


Of course of course, I try and you as well, stay safe and be blessed! ✨🩵

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User Profile: cheerfulKiwi1776
cheerfulKiwi1776 OP May 17th

@7Bear7

I m glad things are a bit better and I m glad you are trying. I hope you become the person you want. I am proud of you for going this far and I wish you the best. If you ever need anything text me.

Take care and be safe🫂

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User Profile: iulika5977
iulika5977 May 21st

@cheerfulKiwi1776

The feeling of unworthiness is keeping me back. Still proud for people who are clean.

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User Profile: cheerfulKiwi1776
cheerfulKiwi1776 OP May 21st

@iulika5977

Hey there! Thanks for sharing this. I appreciate it. You don't need to feel unworthy of something but I know sometimes we just cannot control it and let negative self talk take over the positive one. I will definitely recommend the gratitude app. Also, if you are a member I am open for a 1-1 chat if you ever want any help.

I believe in you and I m proud of you. ✨️

Take care and be safe🫶

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User Profile: iulika5977
iulika5977 May 21st

@cheerfulKiwi1776, I am an adult, still thank you. 

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User Profile: cheerfulKiwi1776
cheerfulKiwi1776 OP May 22nd

@iulika5977

Oh I m sorry! Still you can reach out to other adult listeners please! 🫶

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User Profile: Sadshaznay
Sadshaznay May 21st

Been clean 4 years.

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User Profile: cheerfulKiwi1776
cheerfulKiwi1776 OP May 22nd

@Sadshaznay

Oh my god! I m so glad you are clean for 4 yearssssssss! Well doneeeeeeeee

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User Profile: pinkiepie1724
pinkiepie1724 May 21st

@cheerfulKiwi1776 i have been clean for less than 24 hours. i don't think i can say ive "stopped" i just havent had an oppotunity to do it recently. The control aspect is whats holding me back. It feels like it mine and only mine. i know its unhealthy. i just have some recent truama and family issues that cause me to feel like i don't have much control.

this is my first post btw, you guys all seem so sweet!

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User Profile: cheerfulKiwi1776
cheerfulKiwi1776 OP May 22nd

@pinkiepie1724

I m really glad you opened up and talked about it. I would be more than happy to have a chat with you so if you are a teen please feel free to text me and we can talk there! Also, please take care, became safe and you are amazinggg

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User Profile: ar1ee
ar1ee May 29th

i remember the first time I started I was just 10 years old. Which is crazy now to think I’m 23 now and thinking of a literal child even getting to that point makes me so sad for myself. But unfortunately it’s something I cant seem to get out. My thoughts just overwhelm me and i get scared of what i’ll do so I just resort to self harm. I always thought cutting was the only form but its developed to hitting myself which i do without even realizing. But as cutting the last time was 2 weeks ago

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User Profile: cheerfulKiwi1776
cheerfulKiwi1776 OP May 29th

@ar1ee

Hey I see its tough and I m extremely proud of you for opening up. Please please please contact someone to help you. You need help. I believe in you🩵✨️

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@cheerfulKiwi1776

I have been clean for 2 weeks. I think what holds me back from not thinking about it at all is social pressure to be more cut. 

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cheerfulKiwi1776 OP May 29th

@helpfulComputer5071

I m glad and proud of you for being clean so long. Please reach out for help as well✨️🩵

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@cheerfulKiwi1776 aww thank you so much!

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User Profile: cheerfulKiwi1776
cheerfulKiwi1776 OP May 29th

@helpfulComputer5071

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@cheerfulKiwi1776 I cut a minute again 😞 I was clean for a week tho!

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cheerfulKiwi1776 OP May 30th

@reliableWest2298

Hey I get it it seems tough. But I know and I believe in you because you can and you will make it. If you are a teen feel free to message me. If you are an adult you could go reach out at an adult listener. Thanks. Be safe and take care please

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@cheerfulKiwi1776 I cut a minute again 😞 I was clean for a week tho!