Forgiveness
Are you a forgiving person towards others? How about towards yourself?
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@amiablePeace77
Yes I'm able to forgive others. Not forgiving someone that has wronged you and holding a grudge only hurts you. It's too much negative energy. I'm in a good place now that I can forgive myself and learn from my mistakes.
@Rhiannon65
You came a long way 👍
@amiablePeace77 I can be. Honestly, it depends on the person and the wrongdoing. I know that I need to forgive but sometimes it takes time. I do eventually come around though, because I do it for me. It's healthier and easier on me when I forgive, let go, and heal. ❤️
As for forgiving myself, yes. I have to. I make many mistakes and I have to show myself grace. ❤️
@YourCaringConfidant
Caring, we all make mistakes. I do a lot too and find it's crucial to forgive myself.
I really like that you can see that forgiveness is good for our well-being.
@amiablePeace77
I am forgiving towards myself because I ultimately know we aren't perfect and I'm trying my best 🩷
I forgive people when they are genuinely sorry, and own it and take accountability and don't continue to repeat the same actions.
But it's a personal thing, some things for me are unforgivable 🩷
@amiablePeace77i am both towards myself it’s hard with others it’s my sexual offense my female bully it’s my dad it’s a very tough thing to do the other thing you can never forget
I do end up holding resent and I can't fully forgive someone if I've been deeply hurt. I'm not very forgiving towards myself either. I can despise myself for my past mistakes.
@trueconfidant123
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@amiablePeace77
Are you a forgiving person towards others? How about towards yourself?
I’m a very forgiving person to others(probably more than I should be haha) and definitely to myself yes.
It really depends on what was done but overall I honestly don't think I'm as forgiving a person as I used to be. Which is sad, but that's not to say I won't forgive. It will probably just take me a bit longer to do so, as my trust in others and their intentions has dimmed significantly due to various reasons.
@cafedaydreams
Past experiences can make us hesitant to forgive. I'm happy to hear that you still want to forgive, even if it takes you more time.
@amiablePeace77
Focus on the present, not the past or future. Forgiving them for they did not know better, for they only did what they could at the time. Forgiving them also decreases the fuel of anger in myself - seeking inner peace.
@ArtisticAngel999
Great point about forgiveness and inner peace!
@amiablePeace77
i learned that forgiving others is setting you free from holding on to what they did and that in it self helps in my healing letting go of wanting to get even ect i also learned it better for my mental health too
forgiving myself been harder but in most cases i can do that now will say that still hold onto some things i not forgiven myself for that i still working on
so forgiving others i find easier then forgiving myself in the long run some time the acted of forgiving has to be repeated when new memories come up too so it a on going thing in my healing journey
@stormieandpaws
I'm happy to hear that forgiving yourself has become easier for you, and I hope you continue to be kind to yourself as you work on forgiving the things that still need it.
@amiablePeace77
Well, life can be hard on many people and my reaction depends on the personality of the perpetrator - is it a one-off mistake or a pattern? Generally, I will write to the person who has made a mistake to point it out, but try to keep the relationship going anyway once I made MY peace. I can criticize a friend who has betrayed a secret and let her have it, but also let her know that I still love her.
Generally, I do not take the bait. There might have been a miscommunication and how important is it really?
Now, forgiving one self is something that I do less and less nowadays because of what life has taught me - the pitfalls are easily avoided at my age.
Are you a forgiving person towards others? How about towards yourself?
@Fradiga
I believe in second chances Fradiga but when I detect patterns the door closes.
@amiablePeace77
I agree. There are cases however when the door was reopened and it worked out