Traumatic Experiences Community Check In - Sunday August 27th 2017
We may not have a support session today, but never fear, daily check in is here. So come in, feel free to chat, share, just say hello.
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Haha!
Seems I'm all alone.....
@DeborahUK
Not much going on today. I did some cleaning and organizing. It's also raining here. And I'm sad for all the people in Texas. Scary!!!!!! I guess I'm also just feeling down today. But tomorrow will hopefully be better.
@KLM3278
Texas? Is this the hurricane? Yeah, that's dreadful isn't it? Just shows the power of the weather is pretty matchless, even for an advanced nation like the USA. I hope you're well away from it and hunkered down.
I guess if it's been a pretty quiet day for you, and miserable weather outside, that can make your mood feel a little down too. What's guaranteed to put a smile on your face? Cat videos for me, though I also love looking at cake disasters! Don't ask me why, but some of them are oh so funny 😂
@DeborahUK
Cake disasters! Oh wow! That's funny!!! I am not near Texas! And yes, it's scary and sad. The news said some areas have over 50 inches of water so far and more coming!!!!!! It's horirble! Yes. Rain outside makes me feel more sad.
@KLM3278
50 inches! Oh goodness, that is pretty scary isn't it? I'll join you in a prayer KLM, asking to keep everybody safe 🙏
@DeborahUK
Yes. We need to pray! A lot of people are hurting and have lost everything. :(
Hey @DeborahUK! How's your day going?
@BeeLeigh
Yay, company!
I'm good thanks Bee. Got home earlier after a few days away, so appreciating home comforts. How about you?
@DeborahUK
Oh it's always nice to come home after a trip isn't it?? I'm doing pretty good! I think my new medication is helping to balance things out pretty well, so hopefully I'll be able to keep up this feeling of "pretty good"! I've got a few assignments left to finish and submit today, but other than that it's a pretty easy day! 😊
@BeeLeigh
Oh no! It sounds like you never get a day off? It's a bank holiday weekend here in the U.K., so lots of people have a bonus day off tomorrow too :)
Good that you're feeling things are levelling out for you. That roller coaster gets pretty wearing after a while doesn't it?
@DeborahUK
Oh, no, I don't ever seem to get a day off! I take time for myself throughout each day, but that's the best I can do, cuz otherwise I'd be running myself ragged all the time! And yes, the roller coaster gets rather tiring! I'm really hoping I melt down a lot less this school year than I did last school year. I feel more prepared for it this time around, so hopefully I can make it happen without wearing myself out as quickly as I did last year!
@DeborahUK Is waving back at you too, just so you know your not alone 
@dancingRainbow45
It's like waiting for a bus. Very quiet for so long, then two of you turn up at the same time!
Good job I had Trees, 🐝 and KLM to keep me company ❤️
@DeborahUK You were in good company then from the sounds of things :) but yeah it is a bit like our british buses LOL
@DeborahUK welcome back. hope you are well. hugs
@inventiveOrange1
Aaw, thanks orange. Yes, I'm doing much better thanks. Just a wobble!
How about you. How's your bank holiday break going?
@DeborahUK good to hear.
Having a tiring one. Mums bro critical in hospital, hubbys bro wedding prep, my parents and brothers anniversaries and we managed to go to the cinema too. Pushing through, mask on unless with hubby.
Been hard as we got a letter to make a decision on frozen embryos from 3 years ago. Just can't think about it. Was at a different clinic but if we destroy them if feels like another loss. Not ready for that again. Another option is to donate but even that would need alot of thought.
Just tired of deling with stuff . Constant reminders snd flashbacks make sleep very hard to maintain.
Feel deeply for everyone on here. Much love.
@inventiveOrange1
Then take your time Orange. You sound like you have a lot going on right now, so take it at your own pace. You're being gentle on yourself remember? It's good that you can be yourself with your hubby. How does he cope with his feelings? Are you pretty in tune? I learnt during my most recent wobble that sometimes you have to shut other people's needs out for a while, and really evaluate what's important to you. That can be hard if you're particularly empathetic (empathic?) of others, as you seem to be. Don't forget to put your needs first sometimes ...... a lot of the time :)
@DeborahUK . Thanks.
Not really gentle on self. Quite the opposite. Sh may b escalating a bit as not just at work any more.
Hubby doesnt know about it but is much better at expressing how he feels to me and family. He always has been. Hes never felt the need to protect them from his depression as i have. And he never complied with meds or much therapy. He doesnt want therapy now though ive noticed his temper is a little shorter which scares me and he did get a little trigerred visiting my uncle on icu- he said it reminded him of almost losing me which was hard.
I tend to shut everyone off when its bad which isnt so helpful i guess, esp since no therapy this week or next couple of weeks while we away. I guess the break will be hard cos its when they were due, but being away will help.
Am always grateful for the support on here though. Am still here trying because of it.
@inventiveOrange1
Just a thought, but are there any aha moments that have come up in therapy that you could reflect back on until your next session? Or do you have any self help books you could work on during your break? I used the time I was having counselling as an opportunity to get to know me better. So between sessions I continued to invest in my physical, mental, emotional and spiritual health by reading lots, and attending various groups. I'm not suggesting we all follow the same path. Maybe my way was overkill - it was certainly an intense time! But is it right for therapy to be your one oasis or time to reflect? Can you create other times to try and understand yourself and your feelings better?
@inventiveOrange1 big big hugs, Orange. And forts. ⛺⛺⛺
@melliotm hugs melli and thanks. How are you today?
@inventiveOrange1 Spent yesterday exhausted and struggling with inner criticism and having racing thoughts. despite waking up several times from weird dreams, I slept better last night, so hopefully Monday is less taxing on me. ❤️
@melliotm hope that for all of us. Playing d nd with in laws. Mask on, cider out. Tight hugs.
@inventiveOrange1 Aw please always remember that you never have to wear that mask with us. My thoughts are with you, dear Orange. *Tight hugs back*
@DeborahUK
reporting for duty checkin 
very lil sleep and lil xrta humor
having a good day today dispite the missed sleep ive been having over the past week been avg.ing about 3hrs normal is about 10+, ready to see my lil ones tomorrow miss them alot of the weekends, feel lucky to love my job
@Autismaunt14
Yawn, yawn! I feel tired even reading that. Gone from ten hours sleep to three?? Oh my goodness, you must be exhausted. What's caused that, do you know? That's one of the things I've found so crippling in the past, when my sleep has been shot to pieces. I can't imagine you're thriving on it either. So take it easy, and go easy on yourself. You may feel irritable with yourself and others, but that's the lack of sleep talking, not you. I hope you soon settle back into your usual pattern, and begin to feel more like you again.
Sorry Trauma support family. I have been away from the forums. I hope everyone is doing well though.
@philosophicalShip9444
Good to have you with us again :)
But youve time travelled back to August! The most recent thread is here
@DeborahUK Thank you for the redirect :)
