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...See more Welcome to part 1 of the Way of the River series [https://www.7cups.com/forum/siteupdates/GlensNookCommunity_547/IntroducingTheWayoftheRiverSeriesMasterpost_367734/]. We are going down the river of life in our kayak. At the start, it may feel unnatural or a little clumsy. Maybe we lose our paddle or get stuck on rocks, but with more experience we gradually learn to read the water. With a little more experience we can begin to feel the current pulling us. Sometimes we might not want to follow the current. Instead, we might have our eye on a beautiful spot across the water on the side of a river bank. Many of us will work really hard to cross the river to get to that spot. It will require a lot of extra paddling because we are going against the current. One sad, but instructive experience happens when you finally make it to that hoped for spot and realize it is not as good as you had imagined. You were sure it was going to be beautiful, but somehow it fell short of that beauty. This is frustrating because it took so much energy to get there. Some of us are stubborn, slow to learn, or both, and we have to make this same mistake many, many, many times. Eventually, however, we too learn how to read the water and follow the current. Sometimes the current leads us right past the spots we wanted to go and then surprises us around the bend with a far better spot. These are great situations. Oddly, even though we shouldn't, we often give ourselves credit for finding the new spot, when most of the credit should go to the current. Still, these are great times and should be deeply enjoyed because they do not happen all the time. Other times the current can lead us down more treacherous waters with rocks, eddies, and sticks that can be tough to navigate. Sometimes we lose a paddle, flip the kayak and get wet. In particularly tough times, we may even get injured. We don’t usually take “credit” for our role in these situations and instead happily blame the current. Why do these more challenging times happen? I believe they happen so that we can learn. Nobody wants to feel the anxiety, difficulties, and sometimes pain that happens during these times, but these are indeed the times that teach us the most skill. We don’t learn to become master kayakers when the river is smooth. We learn how to be master kayakers on the rapids. Adversity challenges us to overcome. So, what is the right approach? The approach is one that goes against our natural impulses. It can sometimes feel like it goes against everything that is within us, especially when it is painful and not what we had hoped for. The stoics were master kayakers and they have a statement, “the problem is the path.” They encourage us to steer into the challenges and to trust the current. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) [https://www.7cups.com/act-therapy-techniques/] encourages us to see the challenge as an opportunity to learn to solve a problem that we’ve been ignoring. These are wise words. Abraham Maslow, another master kayaker, tells us to go further. He instructs us to see the challenges as a gift, to embrace them like we would a friend, to listen deeply and carefully to what they are telling us, to listen to their whispers. He encourages us to see the challenges as ends in and of themselves; and warns us not to look past them as a means to an end. He wants us to see and appreciate them for what they are – independent, difficult, and beautiful experiences. The river of life brings us smooth, deep, and troubled waters. Thankfully we do not paddle alone. We find other kayakers on the water that also teach us lessons. Most of the lessons come down to following the current rather than insisting on our own plans. This key lesson is a lifetime lesson. Reflection question: We have all gone through challenging times, or rough rapids, and overcome them in the past. What would you tell a friend going through difficult waters now? I’m thankful that I have found all of you on the river. Thank you for paddling alongside me 🙏✨❤️. ------------------------- This post is part 1 of The Way of the River Series. Find the complete information and all related posts here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/siteupdates/GlensNookCommunity_547/IntroducingTheWayoftheRiverSeriesMasterpost_367734/] ------------------------- Reading the theory is just the map, but the real progress happens in the water. Apply to join the exclusive closed group here and kayak together! ------------------------- >>> Proceed to Part 2! [https://www.7cups.com/forum/siteupdates/GlensNookCommunity_547/PartIINavigatingYourOwnKayak_367866/]

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