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Can women be perpetrators of domestic violence?

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Last Updated: 06/08/2020 at 9:24pm
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April 2nd, 2018 10:08am
Anyone can be a perpetrator of domestic violence. Although society paints a picture to us that it is a male behaviour, females are also in that mix. It is a smaller percentage and we hear less about it in general as patriarchal societal views tell people that men in the victim role are shameful.
April 7th, 2018 11:32am
Anyone can be a perpetrator of domestic violence. Regardless of their gender, sex or age.
June 26th, 2018 5:06pm
Of course they can. They can be just as prone to being an abuser as a man. In society though, most times when people think of domestic violence, they think of a physically battered woman with an aggressive man. Although that trope is a true one, domestic abuse can come in all different forms. When women are abusive to either other women, or men, statistics say that they are more likely to participate in digital abuse, controlling and jealous behavior or who you can and can't talk to, and verbal and emotional abuse- putting the victim down and damaging their self worth to make them feel as if they deserve what came to them. They can also physically abusive too though, and may use violence (pushing, punching, etc.) physical intimidation (throwing things to scare their victim) or threats (threatening to kill a pet, their victim, or themselves if they leave them.) Women are also less likely to go in the "making up for it" phase where they act nice and sweet in order to draw the victim back in again. People who are abused by women, statistically more men, can easily be put to shame and made to feel stupid. The abuser can play the gender card to win their way and make it seem like they aren't abusive, or make it seem like the victim themselves are abusive. So yes, women can also be abusers in a relationship, and it's for the same reason why men do it. For control, and to boost their low self worth.
July 3rd, 2018 2:00pm
Of course. Both men and women can hurt others, although it's horrible to have both men and women hurting others.
June 8th, 2020 9:24pm
Yes women can be perpetrators of Domestic violence. It’s is more common to see men as the perpetrators however this is for many different reasons. For example men are a lot less likely to tell anyone, or report the abuse for multiple reasons. Therefore, especially in the media, it is very much portrayed as the woman as the victim and the man as the perpetrator. If someone’s partner is being abusive (whatever the form) it is domestic abuse no matter the genders of the couple, it could be two men, two women or a man and a woman and any of these people could be the perpetrators of domestic abuse. If you are experiencing any sort of abuse please reach out and get the help you need.