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Is it normal for me to have recurring dreams about my rapist (even though the incident happened years ago)?

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Last Updated: 04/10/2018 at 5:20pm
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- Expert in Domestic Violence
April 15th, 2015 11:52am
I personally had recurring dreams for 4 years now, or maybe nightmares is more the word, from my rape when I was younger. They have definitely become less frequent, and I have realized that I have triggers that I can trace (certain laundry baskets, people who look like him on the train, guns) and connect to it, so when I encounter those things during the day, I try to spend an hour or two thinking calmly and bringing myself out of hte past and into the present, where I am safe and happy. It doesn't work all the time but it works enough that it has really helped me overcome the pain that came with having those dreams a few times a week sometimes. So yes dear, it's normal and it is an awful thing to keep experiencing so I am sorry. *hugs*
Anonymous - Expert in Domestic Violence
May 23rd, 2015 12:38pm
Yes. Unfortunately, it is horrible and unfair. I sought counselling and practised meditation to help
July 27th, 2015 7:59pm
Yes. Rape is a traumatic event for anyone at any age or at any time. Stay strong. This too shall pass.
August 24th, 2015 7:26pm
Yes. You cannot control your dreams and having this one might mean you are just working through a tragic event.
September 14th, 2015 10:41am
yes. It is absolutely normal. But do seek professional help if this dream persist and/or disturbs your sleeping experience.
September 21st, 2015 4:29am
If you are having difficulties with a past traumatic event perhaps you should seek the advice of a healthcare professional like a therapist or counselor to help.
September 28th, 2015 1:36am
Dreams are often your minds way of trying to process events that are confusing or painful. They can be really horrible to experience and if there are distressing talk about them with someone you trust, is there something you haven't dealt with?
April 6th, 2016 12:31am
It's completely normal, you're not alone, i was raped 3 years ago and still having nightmares.
May 13th, 2015 6:53am
Yes, because it will still be traumatic, you could also get a doctor or talk to a friend. If you need any more help, contct a listener
June 7th, 2016 5:26pm
Absolutely. It's common amongst victims of severe trauma to relive those moments. As terrifying as it can be, it's always going to be a subconscious experience.
November 3rd, 2015 6:24pm
Its probably normal x When you have experienced something serious like that, it might be hard to forget though how hard you try x
December 26th, 2016 3:54pm
Rape is an extremely traumatic event and yes, having recurring dreams, even years later, is common. If these dreams are causing you grief, please seek help from a professional who specializes in PTSD.
April 10th, 2018 5:20pm
It's absolutely okay. Sometimes these things comes much later after the incident happened. It's a way howyour mind try to protect itself. I'm sorry you have to go through this. Did you try to talk about it with someone?