How do I forgive myself for all the mistakes I have made?
Last Updated: 12/23/2019 at 7:09am
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We all make mistake, some times small and some times big. To forgive is not an easy thing but you need to understand that, if you don't forgive yourself the grudge you're holding inside will keep you stuck in a place like self hate. To forgive yourself, you need to accept that it was your fault/mistake, and try to make a change in the situation by trying your best to not make the same mistake again and look at the good side of what you did. Understand that why you made the mistake and try to reason with yourself as to how you felt after committing the thing. If you are able to accept it and say it out loud half of your problem will be solved, the other half will take time, but don't waste your present loathing the past, accept it and move on.
It might be cliche, but you have no control over the past anymore. You can change the future, though! Instead of blaming yourself for choices that you made in the past, use them as a learning experience so that things turn out better this time around. Sometimes it's easier to pick out your mistakes in retrospect, but just remember that you didn't have that experience at the time. It can be difficult to let go, especially when your past mistakes affect your life today. Try to recognize that you can't go back in time, and that the only thing you can do is to take your mistakes and improve upon them. Turn them into something useful!
You have to remember you are only human. We all make mistakes. Your mistakes shape you and who you are. Forgive yourself because the only person who really knows you is you. If you can’t live and forgive yourself, then how can someone else love and forgive you. Keep growing and becoming the best version of you. You are an amazing person who deserves the world. Remember that. Remember who you are as a person. Remember that everyone makes mistakes. Let yourself prosper and not worry about screwing up. Be the best version of you. Mistakes and all, you are an amazing soul and you deserve to give yourself the world.
Forgiving yourself may be one of the most difficult things to do. I have had times that even seemingly small things really pressed on me. I had to realize that I have a savior that knew the mistakes I'd make and loves me. On my end, an apology can be a game changer, but even at times I have been more upset with something I've done and the other party didn't even remember the situation to begin with. I just have to learn from the experience. A problem is only a mistake if I don't take it and use it as a learning opportunity. If I learn from it then it had value and I can just look at the bright side sometimes... it could have been worse and I'm grateful that I learned this lesson now.
We are all humans and we are prone to that. Acknowledge the situation you where in and know why you did what you did, think what you could do better and then forgive yourself and give yourself a opportunity to do better next time. If you want to correct it, if you are willing to do better you have to give that opportunity to yourself by forgiving you. Don't be hard on yourself, don't beat yourself, be kind to you and you will be the best person and really fit to help others. Just give it a try and you will see
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