I cheated on my boyfriend while we were on holiday, I was drunk I don’t even remember it. We live together, should I tell him? I won’t do it ever again.

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Last Updated: 08/06/2019 at 4:47pm
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August 4th, 2019 6:42pm
While being open and honest might seem like the right thing to do, the decision you make should really be based on what you can live with. The ideal situation is that you're honest with your partner about being unfaithful and you work through the issue together. But If you know your partner will be unforgiving, and that coming clean will destroy the relationship, it might be better to keep your guilt to yourself. But can you keep it? Or do you want your own peace of mind? It's your decision. Keep in your mind though that cheating threatens a relationship and hiding it threatens it even more.
August 6th, 2019 4:47pm
the only thing I would ask you is, if he had done the same thing to you and never told you, what would you do and how would you feel? Put yourself in the other persons shoes. Also, the feeling of guilt when hiding something from your significant partner is a terrible feeling. And the longer you wait to tell him the truth, the more problems will arise later for your relationship. If you tell him now there will be a better chance to work it out. But if one day down the road you tell him, he will have even worse trust issues towards you because it took you long to tell him. Also, if he finds out in a different way that you cheated, then that would be terrible. Just put yourself in his shoes and see it from a point of view that is from his eyes.