Me and my bestie got into a HUGE fight. I called her and she said she forgave me. I feel like she’s pretending not to be mad. She denies being mad but What should I do?
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Anonymous
September 22nd, 2020 4:46am
Take time! Let her digest whatever the fight was about. Let her analyse about it. She will slowly forgive you. All you have to do is keep doing better as you were doing already. Try being happy with her. Try being normal cause your goal is to be normal. But keep expressing her that you have learnt your lesson from that fight that happened and you are gonna keep in mind to not hurt her anymore. Make her feel special that you are thankful atleast she is talking to you. At the end be calm, she is your bestie. You will get better with her.
Trust her. If you two are truly best friends, then there has needs to be trust. If she says she isn’t mad, then trust her. Don’t call her out about denying it, it will only cause more fights in the future â¤ï¸
It sounds like you stepped up and apologized, good for you. Sometimes, when people are hurt, even after you apologize, they need some space to process their feelings. Give you friend a few days and then reach out to see if you can talk again if she is still acting angry. Suggest she explains how she is feeling and let her know you're concerned because your friendship is important to you. Tell her you want to work on having open communication with her to help resolve issues before they escalate into a fight. Each of you should have a set amount of time to talk without interruption and make sure you are giving the talker your full attention.
First of all, good for you for taking the initiative to call and check in with her! It sounds like you really care about her and that's fantastic! You cannot read her mind, so you can either believe her and move on with her, or ask her if she's sure and then move on. Anxiety about other people's emotions is not unusual and is certainly expected in a relationship that means so much to a person! You are deserving of forgiveness. Allow yourself to accept it. You can have a conversation with her about how to avoid similar future conflict, if you feel that would be helpful! Good luck!
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