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How do I keep myself from dwelling on things that I can't change, or that I realistically have no control over?

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Last Updated: 07/28/2020 at 6:46pm
How do I keep myself from dwelling on things that I can't change, or that I realistically have no control over?
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Top Rated Answers
June 25th, 2016 8:32am
To keep oneself from dwelling on things is to be mindful and to realize that you may not change happenings but you can manage how to react to such.
October 20th, 2016 6:04pm
It sounds like you have anxiety. There are many things you can do to work on that. Check out the self-help guides about anxiety.
June 26th, 2016 6:24am
Try to distract yourself more often with fun activities that you enjoy, and surround yourself with people you like.
July 13th, 2016 6:10am
Once u know that u have no control over those things, why should u dwell on? As it is common feeling, u should take control of ur mind and thoughts on such situations. It takes time to practice the act. Once u start controlling ur mind and negative thoughts u will never have that bad feeling
August 8th, 2016 6:20pm
I look to the future, look forward to things that I will appreciate. I also look at the past- at problems I had very little control over but still overcame.
April 4th, 2017 9:47pm
Live with the moment! It is life and stressing over the little things will just make the little time on this earth less enjoyable. Enjoy every second and find healthy ways of coping through the bad moments. Stay Strong, Life may be hard, but it's life.
June 27th, 2017 10:09pm
If there is truly nothing I can do about a situation, then I shift my focus to something I can control, which may be as simple as breathing. For me, yoga practice is a great way to shift my state of mind and bring myself back to my breath.
July 28th, 2020 6:46pm
The best thing to do is to focus on things you can change. Focus on the things that you do have control over. Focusing on these things will give you less time to dwell on other things you have no control over. As you improve in other areas and become better and better there may be a good chance that they will have some kind of carry over to the things you are dwelling on. In addition, becoming better in other area may help you become better suited to handle other and more difficult things. This certainly won't happen over night but it will be worth it in the long run.