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I dreamt about kissing someone of the same-sex, what does it mean ?

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September 24th, 2015 10:44pm
If you dreamt about kissing someone of the same sex, it could mean lots of things. It could be just a dream, or it could mean the start of having feelings for the same sex. Do you have a desire to actually kiss someone of the same sex? If yes, consider talking to a close friend about how you feel.
May 3rd, 2015 2:20pm
It could mean something, it could mean nothing. You're the only person who can figure that out. Don't stress about it too much, It could have been nothing more than a dream, if you feel like it means more though, it's perfectly okay to try to figure out what those feelings mean.
September 10th, 2015 6:00pm
It doesn't mean anything anymore than dreaming of say, racing a gorilla wearing a banana suit would. Dreams are just dreams. Now if you enjoyed it, that could mean you do in fact like girls, or maybe you just feel lonely and want the affection.
September 3rd, 2015 10:28am
What do you think it means? Questioning your sexuality can he daunting and scary, however it doesn't sound to me like you are there yet. It's most likely just a weird thing that happened in your dream. Dreams don't always mean something. On the other hand, if you think it goes deeper than that, maybe that's something to explore and think about? It's hard, but keeping an open mind can be very useful. Additionally maybe you are curious? What do you think?
August 23rd, 2015 2:17pm
Often times, dreaming is a way for the subconscious mind to speak for itself. What you do with this dream depends on you. In your case, your subconscious mind is telling you that you might find someone of the same sex attractive- you have the option to act on this or not.
January 7th, 2016 9:47pm
Dreams don't always mean something. I identify as gay, yet I have had dreamt of kissing girls before. I'm not very attracted to women, but I still had dreams about them. Dreams aren't necessarily reflective of your sexual identity, but it is definitely possible since dreams sometimes can show what is going on deep in our minds. It is important to focus on how you feel about the same-sex in your daily life. If you feel attraction to the same-sex, that may be a part of yourself that would be good to explore.
August 28th, 2015 5:59am
This can vary quite a bit, it may be anywhere from a simple and mild curiosity, a potential fear, or even a hidden desire, i would be able to help more with more detail.
August 30th, 2015 4:58am
Dreams don't always mean something. It could mean that you have been thinking about this while you're awake, or it could just be a random occurrence. Unless you think about the same thing in your awake state, it's not something you need to dwell on :)
August 19th, 2015 5:37pm
Dreaming about kissing or even having sex with somebody of the same gender as you could mean a number of things. It could mean your curious about your sexuality. Sometimes people who are completely heterosexual fantasize about having relations with people of the same gender, and it doesn't always mean anything! It doesn't necessarily mean you're gay. Dreams don't always mean anything. Do you feel sexual attraction to people of the same gender? if so then that'd be an indication that you're not heterosexual. Dreams are just dreams sometimes!
March 29th, 2017 4:45pm
Lots of people do, even I do and I'm straight! Yes it may be a bit bizarre but there's really nothing to worry about, we all dream of weird things
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August 30th, 2015 4:18pm
Whatever you want it to mean. Dreams are weird. They may come from recent experiences or feelings, or even based on your hormones, or they may be completely random. What matters more is how you feel when you're awake. Do you feel a pull or allure toward that gender when you're awake and aware? If so, you may be feeling a type of attraction. If not, your dream was probably just one of those odd dreams, or has a meaning completely unrelated to what actually happened in it. It's up to you to decide.
July 3rd, 2018 12:50pm
it can mean so many things, maybe it just a dream. for me it kind of strange cause Ive been having these dreams of kissing same sex many many times.
September 5th, 2015 12:05am
It probably doesn't really mean anything about your sexuality, sometimes in dreams you are a completely different person. You know what your sexuality is, you don't need a dream to choose how you feel for you. :D
March 23rd, 2018 11:09pm
It means whatever you think it means. If you think it's just a one off then maybe it's just one of those different, out of the ordinary dreams that most people get. If not, and you think that it may mean something in your real life, whether that be you're gay or bi or just questioning, you have to try and figure that out yourself. It might be hard but you could come out better off.
February 23rd, 2015 4:57am
It means you're curious. NOW HOLD UP! Just because you dream that, and I say that means you're curious, it DOES NOT mean you actually are. Your brain thinks of crazy things, and maybe it could be nothing. Or it could possibly be something.
October 7th, 2015 1:28pm
A dream is just a dream. The significant issue is your feeling after the dream. Were you happy? Were you disgusted? If the kiss felt right and you want it to happen in real life, then you might be liking a person of same sex.
November 27th, 2017 4:26pm
This could mean so many different things. I think the most important thing you could do is to validate the experience you had and reflect on what you're open to it meaning for you. If you are beginning to experience feelings for someone of the same sex, you are not alone. There is a whole loving community of people here for you. Be accepting and honest with yourself. Research the possibilities and learn which ones you resonate with the most. Your journey to self-discovery is so unique and so special.
July 24th, 2018 12:55am
I've done that in the past, and soon afterward I found out that I wasn't straight. It doesn't necessarily mean it is the same thing for you, but that was my personal experience.
March 15th, 2015 2:33pm
It means you're human. Sexuality is fluid, and no experience needs to be perceived as "bad" or "wrong". Having said that, however, just because you dream you kiss someone of the same sex does not mean it holds any truth or points to anything about you. I have dreamt of seriously injuring someone in my dreams before, and that doesn't make me any more likely to do that in real life. Be kind to yourself!
October 23rd, 2015 11:47am
It doesn't necessarily have to mean anything. Dreams are a weird concept. It's possible you saw people kissing before you fell asleep, or someone told you about it, and it affected your dream. But it could also mean that's something you'd like to do. You can do whatever you want with it, think about how it made you feel and how you'd feel about doing that for real, and perhaps act on it if you want to. Follow your heart :)
August 27th, 2015 12:22pm
Nothing particular. Dreams are mainly a way for you brain to process what happened during the few last days. Most of the time they don't make sense and that's it, no need to try interpreting a subliminal message, there's non. If it the 20th time in a row you dream about kissing the same person though, maybe there's indeed something you trying to tell yourself ;)
November 22nd, 2017 11:20pm
It means nothing, dreams are parts of memory or fanticy. Dreams really are just random thoughts put together
August 29th, 2018 4:48am
The dream itself means absolutely nothing. Our mind is constantly coming up with the craziest dreams, and this one is not any different! The really question is, how did the dream make you feel? If you enjoyed it, maybe you would be interested in exploring the possibility that maybe you are attracted to the same-sex? I would just take the dream with a grain of salt. Don't focus too much on what occurred then, and maybe try to focus more on how you feel now that you are thinking about it
March 21st, 2015 6:25pm
Dreaming doesn't always mean "wanting". Sometimes our thoughts go to wild places, but it doesn't mean we have to. Unless you are having recurring dreams like this, its usually nothing, but experimenting with your sexuality is a totally normal and natural thing to do.
September 9th, 2015 3:50pm
Dreams don't actually have as much meaning as some want to think, not with secret symbolism and all that. It most likely means that your a bit curious about the idea.
November 1st, 2015 1:32pm
It means that you had a dream. It does not "mean" anything just because it was had a sensational topic. Go back to sleep. God loves you. :)
December 17th, 2015 4:20am
Sometimes dreams mean something, other times they mean nothing. It doesn't matter what I think it means but rather what you think
January 7th, 2016 8:24am
The subconscious mind is like a bubble rising to the surface of our consciousness, and is an amalgamation of experiences and thoughts which have been collected throughout life. These are not always applicable to our everyday waking self, but can serve as an internal mechanism for us to question our true beliefs in life. If I should have a dream about a new experience, which I would never ordinarily have in my waking life, then I am able to experience that, and derive a lesson from it, without the consequences of actually committing the action. In essence, dreams are ways in which our minds can approach different subjects, which it may have deep emotions around, and attempt to resolve any issues with, while suffering minimally due to the dreams' incorporeal nature.
December 1st, 2016 10:28pm
It's just a dream, everyone gets those and don't think twice about it, I wouldn't worry about it because it doesn't mean you might like the same sex, or it might, but you will know when you see it or what have you. I wouldn't worry about it.
May 29th, 2015 4:52am
Well, it could mean a number of things. It could mean absolutely nothing, or that part of you has been thinking about any part of the dream (like that person, or kissing in general, or feelings about that person, etc), or it could mean that you want to kiss that person. It's really up to you to do some soul searching and think about how you feel about your dream and what YOU think it means.