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What if there is no label that defines me?

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Anonymous - Expert in LGBTQ+ Issues
February 14th, 2015 7:11pm
Make one up! That's how we got the labels we already have -- people realized there wasn't a simple way to explain their feelings, so they came up with a word to describe it. Others who felt the same found the word, and thus it spread. Labels are made to fit how people feel. There can never truly be enough labels to fully encompass all human feelings, unless there was a label for each individual person. You can also look at labels like quoi, fluid, and flux if you haven't already. Conversely, don't go by any label at all. You don't need a label if you don't want one, or if there isn't one you feel comfortable identifying with. Not having a label doesn't make your feelings and experiences any less valid than anyone else's.
December 1st, 2015 8:21pm
there doesn't have to be a label! you define you! you need to be comfortable enough with yourself first - and if a label is important to you, it will come eventually
December 29th, 2015 5:05pm
Then it's okay! You shouldn't rely on labels to define yourself. You are you, and if there isn't a word to group you in then you're also unique!
April 4th, 2015 5:52pm
No label defines me which means I am unique and therefore very special a meant for special things in this life!!
January 17th, 2015 3:20am
Well, the only label defining your true self is "ME". A big "ME" over your heart because you are not a estatic being that can be tagged. You are a self-conscious evolving being and you can be whatever you want. Don't try to define yourself!
January 17th, 2015 10:28am
Labels exist simply to help people define themselves and explore who they are. It's absolutely alright not to identify with any of them, or to switch from one label to another. No matter what, you're always primarily yourself.
April 5th, 2015 2:52pm
If there is no label to define you then you are unique, special, you are you! You have a label, your label is YOU! Some people might have cool, popular, and pretty as there labels but your label is the best label ever... you should just be you not anything else.
April 8th, 2015 1:58am
Its totally okay! :D Labels aren't necessary, and for many people they feel like they are a hindrance to their true expression of self. If it is important to you, you can always take your time looking up and mixing and matching labels to hopefully find one that you feel best describes who you are. Also its important to realize that peoples labels and identities change over time and we as humans are rarely covered by just ONE label for our entire life (if ever!) :D Hope this helps. Feel free to connect with myself or another listener if you would like to further discuss this question.
April 9th, 2015 2:24am
This is okay. The most important thing I can even think to say is that labels aren't as important as society has tried to make us believe. You are not alone. You belong.
May 10th, 2015 10:24am
You can either make your own label or disregard the whole notion of it. Just be yourself, the rest will fall into place.
June 23rd, 2015 7:23pm
Well then make your own label, be and do whatever makes you happy. You are you, not a label. Be yourself and be happy.
July 20th, 2015 3:46pm
That's wonderful! That means you are completely unique! Sometimes it takes courage to be unique, to stand out from the crowd. Sometimes you feel alone and cast out. We all feel this way sometimes. If you feel like you need a label, you can always call yourself Human. A son or daughter or friend. A brother or sister or cousin.... you can be many things. You can be ANYTHING!
August 4th, 2015 4:44am
Do you really need a label? If not, that's okay. You are you. If you want a label, then you can create your own!!
August 18th, 2015 5:32am
Then that's perfectly okay- you don't need to bind yourself within anything other than who YOU feel you are. You might not fit into a label because you're not a one in a million kind of person- you're a once in a lifetime kind of person!
September 22nd, 2015 7:40pm
That is completely ok. Labels are not required to live a happy life. Some people use them, others don't. :)
October 22nd, 2015 5:25pm
You don't need to be restricted to labels, it is more of a personal preference, but do whatever suits you!
October 29th, 2015 10:33pm
The only necessary label is 'human'. Everything else is down to simple variation. Labels are not necessary to the human experience and who you are needn't be summarised by a word.
November 15th, 2015 3:39am
Great! You are a unique individual! You are doing A-Okay! :D
November 25th, 2015 4:16pm
There doesn't have to be lables to fit you nessesarily, you define lables, not the other way around.
December 30th, 2015 1:18am
Most things exist on a continuum whereas labels are a dichotomy so it makes sense that no label would fully define you.
February 9th, 2016 11:38pm
Going with a label is not something for everyone. If you feel like no label defines you, you can smash some labels together, or just go label-less. Both are completely valid.
March 21st, 2016 8:17am
You don't need a label. If everyone had a label that fitted them perfectly, there would be as many labels as there are people in the world. Just because you can't define yourself by a word that describes a majority doesn't mean anything is wrong.
May 31st, 2016 11:16am
Labels mean absolutely nothing! You shouldn't care about labels! You're unique and that's fine! You don't need something that means nothing! :)
May 22nd, 2017 11:12pm
Then that's okay too. You can be you, and unapologetically so. Love whomever, and express yourself however you want. You don't need a label to be valid. If someday you find a label that's fine, but people, try so hard that they try to fit something that they're not and begin to lose sight of the happiness that comes with accepting yourself in all of your idiosyncrasies. As has been said, to define is to limit.
- Expert in LGBTQ+ Issues
July 3rd, 2017 7:51pm
It's ok: we do not necessarily have to label ourselves! You can just be who you are without having to define yourself with a label. There is a certain freedom and richness in being so peculiar that you can't just put a label on you.
December 12th, 2017 3:45am
That's totally fine. Why do you need a label? You are you, and there is really nothing that can accurately define that. You know who you are, and I think that's more than any label can give you.
February 12th, 2018 1:32am
Then you're just you. Labels should only help if you find one that makes you comfortable, like a pair of socks. If they don't, then you don't have to wear them.
February 12th, 2018 7:04am
The one question I would ask myself is.... Do I need a label to define me? I'm I not unique in every single wat? The answer is always within ourself
February 27th, 2018 7:30pm
That's okay. You don't need a label to define you. As long as your happy then it doesn't matter what you are.
June 4th, 2018 5:45am
That's perfectly okay! Personally, I have struggled with labeling myself in the past but I have found that labels are not meant to be constricting, but rather help you find your way. If you can't find a label that defines you, that is fine.