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Why do I always feel like I am the wrong sexuality?

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Last Updated: 06/10/2019 at 6:29am
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November 3rd, 2015 10:53am
Well, I personally feel that there is no such thing as a wrong sexuality. A sexuality is what it is, and thus there is no wrong or right. You may feel that you probably find yourself in the stage of exploration, but just remember that it is essential in determining your final route! Talk to anyone if it is of any help, cheers!
April 7th, 2015 8:20pm
Because the society we live in has ingrained heteronormativity into us pretty much from birth. Most people experience being told that being anything but heterosexual is 'different' and that usually equals 'strange' in their young minds and then later results in feeling bad about their own sexuality. ( Unless this question is coming from someone who is unsure of their sexuality- in which case you might need to experiment a little and find what's right for you.)
May 18th, 2015 10:44am
What you feel tells you something about yourself. If you feel your the wrong sexuality, maybe you are.
June 7th, 2015 10:35am
You could have just not found a label that fits you. Or maybe labels aren't for you all together. You could try researching different sexualities (there are more than you think), and see if you feel comfortable calling yourself any of them. If so, you could get in touch with others who feel that way and learn more about yourself.
August 10th, 2015 10:16pm
Sometimes we are faced with tough decisions about so many things. Those who have confusion about their sexuality feel stress even more so than someone who isn't confused about it. Step back, take a deep breath and do some soul searching. You'll find the answer you need!
November 2nd, 2015 9:42am
Honestly? Because you simply cannot put a name, or a label, on such complex feelings. You don't fall in love with a certain type of human - or a gender - but a person themselves. It isn't always clear how they're going to manifest.
March 3rd, 2015 10:15pm
There are not any wrong or right sexualities. All that matters is what you like and how you feel. Be proud of who you are and never let anyone make you feel bad because of it. Be strong, we will always support you!
March 4th, 2015 8:44am
I'm not 100% sure that I understand the question but when I was younger I identified as bisexual and it never really felt right, after a while of learning about all the different sexualities I came across Pansexuality. I would think that the reason you feel you are the wrong sexuality is because you haven't found a sexuality that matches your feelings yet.
September 14th, 2015 6:54pm
If you feel that, keep exploring yourself. there is nothing wrong with exploring and discovering (or not) that what you believed to be (because of what society "imposes") was wrong. I can be with you in this path.
December 14th, 2015 6:33pm
There is a great chance that you are or you simply have not discovered that sexuality at this point in time.
January 4th, 2016 3:09pm
Well, it depends. You may not be fully grounded in your sexuality for multiple reasons. For instance, you could just have trouble accepting as many do, or you could even not feel like your sexuality is true because it's *not*. For a long while I thought that I was gay but after thinking about it for a long while I realized that that just wasn't true. Keep on truckin', and good luck to you.
February 22nd, 2016 4:18am
You may be feeling that you're the wrong sexuality; you're trying to figure yourself out. If you tell someone that you're gay/lesbian one day and a month later you decide you're bi, you're not lying to that person. You're simply trying to figure out who you're supposed to be.
September 12th, 2016 7:23am
Because not being heterosexual is often looked down on. If you actually say you are heterosexual and still feel this way, try experimenting with your interests. Being a Lesbian/Gay person or Bisexual, or Pansexual/Polysexual (And so on) Is perfectly fine. It's natural ;)
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June 10th, 2019 6:29am
This may due to the mentality of the environment in which you grew up, to internalized prejudice, to fears or worries connected with being who you are, and more. It can be helpful to analyze your feeling of being wrong and try to look more deeply into when and how it started. You can still begin a journey of self-acceptance, even if it sounds difficult, because in the end, once you identify and work on the reasons why you can't accept yourself, you'll see that there's nothing wrong with being who you are! You're just a person, and you like who you like. Maybe seeking support and sharing thoughts with the LGBT community would help you coming to terms with your identity!