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Why does it feel like only certain types of LBGTQIAP+ people are accepted within the community?

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Last Updated: 06/10/2019 at 1:30pm
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March 2nd, 2015 4:18am
That's difficult to answer. I personally would accept anyone (unless they were abusive to me or others), and I am part of this community. I would hope that everyone in the community was that way. I imagine however, that any online community, roughly mimics the prejudices and opinions of the public at large. Maybe if you start a forum post about this then people can discuss this issue, and as a community we can improve together.
February 24th, 2015 11:22am
I think that some parts of the LGBTQIAP+ community are not as accepted because people are either not aware of their existence, or they are not familiar with what the term of that specific sexual orientation or gender orientation is.
April 7th, 2015 12:51am
As a demisexual person, I can feel usually missunderstood and alone within the community. Our group receives a bad treatment because we don't fit within them. In fact, I have listened many times that demisexuals only want to "be different and special". So I feel like they are exactly as bad people as homophobics are. If they want equality and respect, they should respect EVERYONE and not only certain people...
April 8th, 2015 12:25am
I'm demi, and a ton of people have called me a special snowflake, and they are usually either gay or straight. The group itself is lage and diverse and there will always be discrimination against the minorities of the group. Just ignore the negative people (and block them on social media if they harass you) I hope this helps!
July 7th, 2015 8:52pm
The reason (I think) that some people of the LBGTQ+ community are less accepted is because of several things. One reason is that (sadly) many different orientations and defenitions are not know by the general public, and it is very difficult for people to understand things that they have never heard of. Another reason that some people are accepted while others are not is because people are so fixated on the idea of putting people into certain categories that are described in certain ways, and can't see (or understand) how some people don't fit into those specific categories.
July 14th, 2015 11:10pm
Sexualities are slowly becoming more and more accepted into society. Being gay is right now (here in the uk) is a huge deal and is the most common of all. It's is the most widely accepted sexuality here in the uk. Perhaps the reason, in your community, only certain sexualities are being accepted because of the media attention on one specific sexuality, making it more wide spread, well known and more accepted than others.
July 28th, 2015 3:54pm
Some of the communities within this community are larger than others, so a lot of the time it feels as though these groups take over, leaving the rest to feel left out.
October 14th, 2015 7:10pm
This is a very common question, and it's hard to completely tell the answer. But sadly, society has just now started to accept the idea of homosexuality and transgender, which rules out many other LGBTQIAP+ people, such as asexual/agender/aromantic, pansexual, demisexual, etc. However, that doesn't mean that there aren't people out there who won't accept all. Myself and many other people throughout the world are extremely accepting of all queer members regardless of who they are :)
October 30th, 2015 11:28pm
It's pretty sad, but sometimes it's actually true. Two examples of exclusion might be asexuality and Bisexuality, aka. ace-erasure and bi-erasure. Sometimes, (even those who are lesbian or gay) may exclude us and say our labels are not "valid" However, this is NO reason to let them stop you from being who you are. That's why we have the A and B in LGBTQA+
December 15th, 2015 7:10am
I think that society has only slowly grown to accept the idea of a wider range of what "love" is in our society. This understanding has only barely reached through the the LGBT community, and has not yet been able to reach towards the QIAP+ community. I believe that once awareness and understanding grow and prosper, society as a whole will be much more inclusive and accepting of the full spectrum of the LGBTQIAP+ community.
January 19th, 2016 6:49pm
Everyone struggles in the community, and you may only be seeing one side of the media. It is a heavy battle that is not easy to win. It is a matter of accepting yourself, understanding and finding your path and staying course.
March 15th, 2016 11:48pm
Because some are more well known than others. Some people label themselves with orientations that are less common/well known, so people become skeptical about it. It's just lack of knowledge of sexual orientations. Also, some orientations are more highlighted in the media, so they are more widely accepted.
March 22nd, 2016 6:31am
People are normally afraid when they do not know what to expect from a certain culture. When something is new people always tend to freak out. If the community was more educated for this types of things they will be more receiving.
May 16th, 2016 2:11am
it's a touchy and tough thing to deal with. we all should be accepted because it shouldn't be like high school with all the groups separated or better than each other.
May 17th, 2016 5:32am
I don't know the answer to this, but I think it's an important question to bring up. I think it's kind of a time thing. For a long time, only lesbian and gay people were discussed, now trans people are more and more in the media. Other identities are still unknown, even within the LGBT+ community. I wish that we could be more accepting of each other, and I'm sure that in time that this will evolve. Don't let anyone tell you that your identity isn't valid. I think all LGBT+ people should be more inclusive, considering we understand what it's like to be judged and misunderstood.
July 26th, 2016 9:02pm
I personally believe that it feels this way due to others ignorance. Many people believe that people are only now coming up with some of the terms often used by the LGBTQ+ community when many of these terms have existed in scientific literature for decades. Somedays it may seem that certain members of the community may experience more acceptance but this may simply be because people aren't aware of the other types. With more education will come more acceptance.
October 17th, 2016 3:15am
It feels that way because many sexualities are "invisible" or forgotten or not considered a sexuality
January 9th, 2018 9:21pm
Some people fail to accept what they dont understand, purely out of fear of the unknown, It scares them and thats why very few types of LGBTQ+ people are accepted
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June 10th, 2019 1:30pm
It's due to either prejudice or scarce knowledge, or maybe both. It can be frustrating to explain your identity over and over again, but it's worth trying to educate other people and spreading the knowledge of all LGBTQ+ realities. Encouraging people to reason on why they exclude some people may help some of them understanding they are behaving irrationally. When given a chance to learn and reflect logically on their behavior, people who are willing to listen and reason can realize that all LGBTQ+ identities are a valid part of the community. Of course, there are also people who won't listen to reason - not everyone is inclusive, even inside the community. That's why in-group solidarity with other marginalized identities is so important.