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How do I stop the urges?

13 Answers
Last Updated: 04/02/2018 at 7:59am
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Top Rated Answers
February 28th, 2015 5:16am
Whatever works for you. Reading... color in a coloring book... drawing... writing poems. Something to distract your mind for about 15 minutes. Hopefully those urges will be gone by then. If not... move on to another activity. Or just find someone to talk to--if you don't feel like talking about your problems to your friends for whatever reason even just texting/calling a friend can take your mind off things
March 4th, 2015 6:20am
I feel that urges for anything are usually the outcome of some underlying emotional cause. It is best to find out what is causing the urges, and work on that with a professional, rather than trying to stop the urge itself.
April 8th, 2015 1:28am
Urges are tough, from personal experience, but can be overthrown! Here is a link to an awesome resource with many coping skills and distractions for self harm: . There are so many out there, my personal favorites are doing things that make me happy (such as watching netflix, going for a run, dancing, singing obnoxiously in my shower, eating chocolate), taking to someone (to a listener on 7 cups, to a therapist/ counselor, a friend or family member), and silly things such as writing out my feelings then throwing the paper out, freezing an orange, then placing it on your wrist when I have an urge (You can use all your 5 senses for this one!), snapping a rubber band and drawing on my arm.
May 11th, 2015 3:06pm
Keep your hands busy. Find other things that soothe the feelings you get from self-harm. If it gives you a rush, try making a goal to ride every roller coaster out there. Things like that.
May 20th, 2015 5:57am
The best way to stop urges is to Divert your mind. It can be a small thing like taking a walk or planning something out with friends or even starting the hobby you never got a chance to do !
September 1st, 2015 8:33am
I think the best way to stop urges is to divert your attention by focusing on productive activities.
September 4th, 2015 1:00am
you could try one of these alternatives
November 17th, 2015 8:54pm
You replace those urges or negative habits with healthier positive ones. Once you feel an urge coming start doing that positive habit and distract yourself from the urge.
March 15th, 2016 2:31pm
Always find something else to do. Pet a cat, watch a movie, make some art, make some music. Anything to distract yourself.
March 21st, 2016 8:28am
Help to identify the trigger for the urge and reinforce good behavior when the person can themselves identify and stop before engaging in the activity.
August 2nd, 2016 8:14am
Having something else positive to make you think of that something instead of having the urges.
October 11th, 2016 12:28pm
There are a number of ways that effectively stop urges. Drawing something, sucking ice blocks, taking a bath or a shower and just feeling the water on your skin. Talk to a close friend, and pat lots of cute puppies.
April 2nd, 2018 7:59am
Stopping the urges is very hard. But, I have found it very helpful you tell yourself you have already stopped. Just every second you find yourself not doing tell yourself "I don't need this, I've stopped it."