Personally, I had to look at the literal process and logic of it. Most people tend to self harm because they're hurting, so, somehow, harming yourself is supposed to help, right? I have often heard and used the phrase in the past, "it numbs the pain", however, realistically, it doesn't physically numb the pain, make the pain go away, or help your mindset in anyway. The name says it itself, as you can see, self(harm). So, after that was resolved, I looked at what caused me to self harm. There were many issues, but I was specifically looking for my main triggers. This helped me to recognize the times in which I wanted to harm, which was important to know. It helped me to realize that when those triggers take place, I have to recognize that I will have to take extra precaution, and realize that those situations affect me the most. Basically, I was organizing my pain. When you organize your triggers, you are able to see many different reactions, for example, heavy breathing, crying, panic attacks, etc. The great thing about all of those, is that they happen naturally, for everyone. This means we have so many other solutions to take care of them! What I was looking for at this point were new, healthy coping mechanisms. 7 cups can provide you with many of these I believe, and you can also find others all over the internet. Once I found mine, I made them my first option before self-harm. Sometimes they didn't work, and that is okay. It is a tough habit to get over. Remember that it doesn't make you a failure, it doesn't make you weak, because really, just the fact that you're making the decision to deal with this by yourself is incredibly strong. Sometimes when you fall into a hole, it's hard to dig yourself out. But you are on your way up, my friend! When I was regularly able to replace self-harm with these other techniques, I made sure to dispose of all my utensils as soon as possible. I tried to do this as early in the process as I could because it's difficult to use those utensils when you don't have them. And if I must say, this was a really empowering moment. :) In my experience, letting the tears out and breathing were my two best friends. Always remember to use those healthy coping mechanisms. Practice them when you aren't feeling the need to harm yourself, that way you can make it a memorized motor movement. And!!! Most important tip of all: you can. You can always, always do it. You specifically, have all the power in the world to accomplish what you want, simply because you want it. Best wishes, friend! I really hope I could help, and good luck with your journey!