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Should I even bother to tell my parents I self harm?

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Last Updated: 01/25/2021 at 3:05pm
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Top Rated Answers
PaganSundance
May 29th, 2018 1:51pm
Opening up about something like this is hard, but you must reach out for help before it's too late. Sometimes you feel like you'll be okay, like you don't deserve help or attention, but that isn't the case. Any kind of self harm is worth opening up about to keep yourself safe.
Daretoberare91
September 17th, 2019 8:13am
Yes, although we tend to feel that our parents may not understand it isn't always true. We have to remember that they want what is best for us and even if we are ashamed of what we are doing there is no one better to get help from than adults, especially our parents. They will try to help anyway they can. Sometimes the right path isn't the easiest one but it is the best one to take in order to grow and find help. It is always up to you but letting the people in your life know what you are going through is the best way to heal.
sunshineMelody2530
February 24th, 2020 1:33pm
It depends honestly on your readiness and how you think your parents will react. What I learned is that when I could speak with someone whomight had a calm, reassuring persona then it helped me greatly. But if the person was hysterical then it would do little to assist me.
Anonymous
August 3rd, 2020 9:05am
Telling your parents that you self harm could potentially hurt or shock them. However, if you know the reason behind, or the source that causes you to do self harm, and want to reduce that action, it is a nice idea to inform you parents. This way, they could try to help you minimize self harm and perhaps create a better relationship between each other. Also, if some of the actions your parents make are part of your reason why you self harm, telling your parents about it could prevent them from doing that certain behavior. Moreover, they could even give you advice!
beekind13
August 3rd, 2020 3:37pm
It depends. I don't know nothing about your parents. I don't know if they are abusive people or not, I don't know if they love you and are able to help you. I think you should tell to someone that you self harm, but this someone should be a person you can trust and that loves you and wants you to be well and healthy. This someone isn't necessary your parents, maybe is a sister, a friend, a teacher or your therapist... Just think about a person in your life you trust and loves you. And, if for many reasons you can't choose any person, tell call an emergency number, or ask for physiological help in the hospital of you city. There's always a solution.
softLight6393
January 25th, 2021 3:05pm
While it can be scary it is what is right to do. If you are feeling as though self harm is an option your parents are your best support system for you! If your parents were to end up finding out later they would probably feel upset that they were not there for you! I did not tell my parents and they found out which caused them to be very upset that they were not there for me for years. It was hard on them and me and I wish I would have went to them either before I started or during so that way I wouldn't have continued and would have had my parents to listen to me instead.