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Let's discuss issues
by pandanfe
Last post
 August 24th
...See more What are the adult issues that you would like to discuss? 
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20+ Automated Taglist!
by tommy
Last post
 April 20th
...See more Welcome to the 20+ Taglist This thread is an auto-updating list. The list is regularly updated by forum leaders and can be found below. Having issues? Reply below and someone will help you! Why should I join the taglist? ✔ Never miss out on sub-community check-ins, discussions or events ✔ Get tagged and notified by community leaders whenever a new relevant thread has been posted ✔ Become a more active member of the community. What do I need to do? ✅ To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please add me. ❌ To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please remove me. ------------------------- Current taglist as of 29th July (updated by @tommy) @azuladragon34 @Dawnie0203 @forcefulThinker186 @HarmonyBlossom @Racey08 @Rainer111 @TannDee @tommy
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The Twenties Deadline Myth: Why We Need to Stop Treating Our 20s Like a Sprint
by chyni
Last post
 14 hours ago
...See more Is it just me, or does it feel like everyone in their twenties is constantly stressing about having their whole life figured out? Lately I’ve been thinking about this whole idea that by 25 or 30, we’re supposed to have the house, the perfect job, the money, and the full lifetime plan locked in. It feels like we're all running this invisible race just so we can finally breathe when we hit our thirties. Honestly, it’s exhausting. Yes, working hard and planning for the future matters, but we’re also supposed to be living right now. Here are a few things that have been bugging me about all this pressure:  We’re expected to know what we want when most of us are still figuring things out, and changing your mind or trying something new gets treated like a failure instead of just learning.  It’s so easy to look at what other people are doing and feel like we’re falling behind, even when we’re doing our best.  We get so focused on these huge goals that we completely ignore the small wins, like just taking care of ourselves or getting through a tough week. We shouldn't have to burn ourselves out or pause our actual lives just to check off boxes on a timeline someone else made up. It's okay to sit back, relax a bit, and just figure things out as we go. Does anyone else feel like they're caught up in this race, or is it just me? What’s one small thing you’ve done recently that you haven't given yourself enough credit for?
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Late 20s
by mysterylight7
Last post
 September 2nd
...See more Hey everyone,  A few years ago I first hopped onto 7cups because I thought I was having a quarter life crisis. I felt behind and didn't know what else to do.  Fast forward to today, I turned 27 about a week ago. I finally chose a path for myself (teaching) and I've "made it to the other side" after three years. I feel like I'm having another crisis, because now I'm thinking, "now what?" Yes, I can focus on perfecting my craft in teaching. But the supposed next step is marriage and I don't think I'm ready for that. In my culture my age is pretty up there ("the clock is ticking" type of outdated thoughts). There has never been a someone else so I can't imagine being with someone else. 
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Let's discuss issues
by pandanfe
Last post
 August 24th
...See more What are the adult issues that you would like to discuss? 
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Nontraditional wedding
by unassumingThinker3175
Last post
 August 18th
...See more Anyone getting married young but still living with your own families? (Separately)? IDK why people think it’s so weird but renting would be expensive.
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24 very close on the horizon
by comfortingmusician08
Last post
 August 6th
...See more TIme flies when a lot of stuff simultaneously happens over the years, eh? I turn 24 this month. Between earning my degree, working various jobs and continuing to figure out what I want to do in the long run, it's been a ride. Along the way, as perhaps expected in life, people came and went for one reason or another. Obstacles big and small appear by the will of the universe or other circumstances. I continue to learn from mistakes past and present.  Perhaps many of you feel similarly whenever it reaches near your birthday. Either way. As I like to tell people sometimes, "WELL, I'M STILL HERE!"
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Lost in the Fog
by conscientiousSail2404
Last post
 August 5th
...See more I've lately begun to realize that the Fog of unease is constantly around me They say your 30's will be the best time of your life. They say you'll begin to truly find yourself when you reach your 30's, but I'd have to say I was lied to. They painted a false picture of adulthood to glamorize everything. I should've enjoyed my childhood more though it was also filled with hardship and trauma, I could've taken my time with learning from those life chapters. This Fog that begins to cloud our vision in our 20's just become worse by your 30's especially with the wrong support system. The Fog is so thick you can see whats lurking within. will it enlighten me or shroud me darkness? Is it a monster? or Is it my true self?
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No goals for life
by TOB
Last post
 July 27th
...See more I'm 25 and I have no goals for life, no motivations. The only thing in my life that brings me joy is my relationships with the people I call family, but I don't feel like that's enough for me. I just don't know where to go from here. I don't care about money or career or power. I'd be happy having nothing and being with my family, but I have to work to pay bills to stay a functional member of society in that way. just wondering if anyone out there has similar issues, or has any advice.  Thanks. TOB
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Optional Check-in thread!
by comfortingmusician08
Last post
 July 9th
...See more Optional check-in! Feel free to share whatever you're comfortable with: * What's new? (This could be career, job, residence, school, relationship, etc) * What's something that went well recently? (This could be within the last month or so) * What's something you're looking forward to and why? I am looking forward to starting a new job soon (very TBD/TBA ; I've had applications galore and only a handful of interviews) -- this market has been quite rough as I'm sure many folks, regardless of field/specialty can relate. 
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I feel like a disease
by Flayyy
Last post
 July 8th
...See more 26 years I’ve been the good son, the good friend, the good partner. Now I barely speak to my parents, I only just rekindled my friendship from childhood, and I’ve cheated on my fiancée. I haven’t felt anything for over a year, any emotion except for fear and discomfort. I was able to think when I stopped talking to my parents but now they think I hate them. I am glad I rekindled my friendship but I’ve lost so much time with him and his family, his daughter doesn’t even remember me. I thought because I was numb and this woman made me feel something for a little that intimacy wasn’t a problem, I can’t even say I wanted to do it. Now I can’t tell my fiancée because I’m the only person who has ever cared she has said. I’m the only one who’s never forced myself on her, I’ve never yelled at her or raised a hand. I’ve done the bare minimum, except I failed simply being a loyal partner. I have a daughter, and I couldn’t imagine what’s I’d do if someone did this to her and I’m not sure what is wrong with me, I’m not sure why I’m like this and I’m growing so very tired of being me. I don’t want to be anymore. I take everything good I have and I just take advantage of it, I’m not sure why but I would like some other answer than I’m just a bad human.
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Cocaine Addiction ... how to get over it
by raspberryFarm1698
Last post
 July 7th
...See more Hi, I'm a student from Austria, 27 years old and began using cocaine a few months ago. Now I want to get over it, but I don't really know how. Can someone with experience help me find a way how to handle this? 
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How do y'all manage the chaos of life in your 20s?
by comfortingmusician08
Last post
 June 15th
...See more Some of us may be in school or on school break right now. Some may be working. Some may be working while in school [this was once me and I'm very glad to be done with school, but even just work alone is tiring enough at times]. Some may be juggling family or other personal obligations on top of school and/or work. Some may have the misfortune of facing a tough job market [I can attest to this, it's unfortunately currently me], financial difficulties and/or legal situations, among many other possibilities. How do y'all manage? Are you good about taking things one step at a time? Do you have a solid support network, be it in real life and/or online? Who do you lean on the most, if anyone? When things get overwhelming, how do you decompress?  Lastly, what words of support can you offer to fellow members of our community? Best wishes.
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Introducing myself
by comfortingmusician08
Last post
 June 4th
...See more Hello there. I am a male adult listener. I primarily offer support with work/student life and general mental health. I have a college degree, prior experience working in different aspects of customer service, including a considerable stint in healthcare at one point. Weather permitting, I enjoy the periodic outdoor walk with my dog. You're never alone in what you may be facing. I'm here to hopefully help make things feel a little lighter.

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