Things People Who Cope With Loneliness Wish You Knew

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@jesusredeemedme2425

I'm lonely no matter whT, even while i socialize or surrounded by million ppl's or even while chatting friends, i believe that I'm a alien, i cant find true bonding with humans 😂...!! i love to be alone forever n ever but idk why I feel lonely, kinda feel empty lol. 

@jesusredeemedme2425

Loneliness is not always a choice. It can also be a result of early childhood conditioning.

I'm not lacking in people skills. I'm not needy. I don't latch onto people. I don't feel constantly sad. I choose who I let in and who I kick out.

I won't settle for one sided friendships. I would rather be a soloist. I don't like personal questions, if it's a broad topic, then it's fine, otherwise I'll deflect.

I like my own space. I actually don't like when asked the question, Don't you feel lonely in your company all the time?

I don't really see it as loneliness. I'm always multitasking and entertaining myself. I choose to do something, except when I want to chill out.

If I seek someone out, it will be on my terms :)

I agree with @trueconfidant123 about the childhood conditioning. Being alone equalled safety but as children we're also often isolated to hide things. Being alone is a bit of a paradox. 

I like to be alone. It helps me protect that inner peace. Letting in the wrong people causes too much chaos. But it does get lonely. It would be nice to have even just one person that could be trusted with things. One person who doesn't say I shouldn't feel, think or say this or that. Someone that accepts all of me. Someone that feels safe, someone that doesn't need to be masked around.

I’ve learned there’s a difference between being alone and lonely.

Somedays I’m ok with just being alone. Finding my own hobbies I enjoy doing and not having to answer to someone.

When loneliness hits. I just want to be held.

It’s a hard balance at times, because if someone does come forward, I can’t say that I’m entirely used to comfort.

I’ve got that anxious/avoidant attached style I guess.

We can be lonely while having TONS of friends, and in a group of people…

I think there’s so much value in meeting people where they’re at and being friendly with each other in a way that puts zero pressure on a long term friendship. Like ultimately we’re all just people looking for connection and for whatever reason I’m circumstantially lacking that right now.

I think one film that really resonates with me on the feeling of loneliness and introspection is the film “adaptation” starring Nicholas Cage. It speaks to the differences in how people idealize one another and the disappointment that often comes with real life.

I guess my big thing I want people to see is I’m not lonely because there’s something no wrong with me so please stop treating me like that. I’m lonely because the world is a difficult place to find connection in. I’m worth sharing time with.

When we’re lonely, we eat. A lot. Or maybe that’s just me XD

Its kind of a strange feeling, I do stay up most nights overthinking. But yes I do know we are social species, we were not really meant to be alone, isolated, by ourselves ...we need people. I even read somewhere that it may have been our relationship traumas & childhood wounds....all together. abut I also read that relationship trauma can only be healed through relationships. Maybe the people we connected to all our life never gave us that feeling of safety, connection, value , warmth, peace, comfortable to be ourselves, usually we learn so much in school but very few learn how to connect consciously...we are not taught this ever. It just happens through our experience n forms a certain perception . Because we all are human , no one is perfect. May be this is a coping mechanism we form and hence we tend to either run away from deeply connecting or want to be alone or the potential of a relationship forming just scares us so much that we start self sabotaging. Yes, all this does happen...its normal..it happens to many ...but yeah its why more n more people are getting isolated n thus maybe the solution isn't that we run....its maybe that we learn to be conscious while connecting to other human beings....that's just what I think.