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Prayer Wall
by Jamen1
Last post
 8 hours ago
...See more What can we pray for you today? Share here!
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Prayer Wall
by Jamen1
Last post
 8 hours ago
...See more What can we pray for you today? Share here!
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newbie vent
by goodscent
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Since I'm new here. I don't really know who to trust.  I'm a 20 yr old male (former bisexual) , 3rd year college student taking BS Mechanical Engineering. My undergrad degree is very financially demanding, considering my low socioeconomic status and my single mother with 4 children. I'm now in the point of life where I'm thinking whether is it still a good idea to continue my study or drop it all out and find a job. I'm a regular student, meaning I have a full academic schedule, and night classes, and I cannot easily find part time jobs because of my scheds. Now my mother could barely afford our weekly allowance, and I pity her every time I ask for money. I tried finding any online jobs but they still need resources and are time consuming. Now I'm stuck in a phase where I need money for my study, but cannot find a way to make money. If I drop out of college, my mother will be furious, and my degree will be worthless. About my ADHD, well actually I'm not diagnosed by a doctor, it's just I feel like I have ADHD. I'm very good at math and problem solving, and tech problems, but I easily get distracted every time I'm on a project. One project could take 3 days for me to finish. And motivational videos aren't really helping. I tried reading books, jogging, walking but at the end of the day I end up doom scrolling, talking to AI, and window shopping instead of focusing. I still do those motivational things, I lessen my screen time to 4 hrs everyday but still, not enough. I'm struggling with this problem for 5 years now. I feel like my full potential are getting wasted because of my distracted attention. I get bored whenever I want to learn something new that I love. On top of that, I don't have any money to get to a doctor or therapist. Well there's no therapist in my province so, I was unfortunate. I also want to address my porn addiction. It started when I was 15 yrs old, when I held my first cellphone. I'm browsing with hot pictures of males at that time, then I saw on google about porn websites, and the story goes on. And here's the turning point of my life. When I was a kid, I was a very active churchgoers, but when I was around 15 to 17, I stopped going to church or praying to God. But, Jesus Christ showed up to me when I was 18 and then I've changed. I acknowledged my sins, I repent, and I accept him. I became active to church again, started praying, and having my daily devotionals. But my problems doesn't stop there. I still have my addiction from time to time. I still watch porn (but not excessively like I used to, maybe 2 time a week). I still have my anxiety, and I still have my doubt. But what I have the most is my huge faith in Christ. Thanks to Him, I considered going back to being straight. I didn't really dwell that long in homosexuality, and I don't really prefer men, it's just I'm surrounded by women in my house, I don't have a father nor grandfather or uncles to guide me. I grew up being feminin and later on I suffered with identity crisis, leading me to cope up with pornography.  You know I wouldn't necessarily go here for counselling, considering I still have many friends to talk to. But I feel like none of them really wants to listen to my problem. Because of that, there's some point of my life I almost considered suicide, but thanks to Jesus it'll never happen. I love my friends. I love my siblings, my church mates. They're so kind to me and caring. But they have a lot more problem than me, and I was always the listener, because they thought I have a huge compassion and emotional intelligence. I fell like they don't want to here my thoughts, because they have more of their own. I don't want them to have more burden, that's why I bottle it all up to myself. Plus, my cheap dormitory is overcrowded with boarders, so not very mental-friendly. Living here in the Philippine is financially challenging. But I always to God that someday, my world will turn upside down. I don't know if I overshared any of these. But still, I thank you all for listening. I appreciate that. I hope someone could help me
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Virtual Bible Study?
by smartel
Last post
 Saturday
...See more I’ve been looking for a place to find this. I really want to join a virtual bible group that meets regularly through Zoom or any video call platform. I don’t have Christian friends and I can’t quite get myself to commit to a group at my church yet. If anyone knows of a free virtual bible study group that’s legitimate, I’d absolutely love to hear about it. I keep thinking I found something, then making an account on a random website just to find out there’s nowhere I can apply. Bonus points if you can find a women’s one. Thanks for your time!
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Needing input
by secretFriend2402
Last post
 October 1st
...See more I feel anxious around these individuals. Especially around my “friend” Jane. I’ll say Jane, started off kind and continues to be kind. But, to me it seems like an act, or she has a double side. I always hear about, people saying the moment, they realized someone was a wolf in sheep’s clothing if not a witch in disguise at church and I believe this is the case for her. I feel so suffocated, at this place with clueless people, breathing down my neck. Among other individuals, being in appropriate or just plain stupid. What I hate most, is that I keep running into them outside of church and they almost force their nature onto me. Rushing over to hug and kiss me on the cheek, etc. Can’t stand these people! Or the fact, that I either find overbearing people, or extremely cold people. What’s the alternative! Being lonely. Please I have no one, to speak speak to. My family is emotionally distant. I’ve already spoken, to some people about this, but I think, I need to have one final conversation fully renouncing and distancing myself from the church and everyone. And going back to my friend Jane, she’s made I’ll times jokes in the past. Like one comment, about not caring if someone were to join a satanic church. And she’s, also a prominent member and worker for this church. Last, that I spoke to her, was a message as she, was in the hospital due to needing bed rest for her pregnancy. She did, thank me and say with “god nothing is impossible.” I truly hope, she’s changed but I can’t ignore certain things. Like her eyes. Especially when, feigning affection, towards the child of another member. More so, making an insensitive comment regarding my dog and a neighbor’s small son, kicking my dog. Feigned concern, until making a joke less than a minute later. Never apologizing nor trying to make things right. This, church is composed of mostly Spanish speakers, and I would volunteer there. And many, upon knowing my background and hearing me speak Spanish choose to overstep and force their overbearing nature onto me. With the inappropriate greetings, being too friendly, etc. I get it many people, don’t get it, I feel uncomfortable but all the times, I’ve felt uncomfortable just ask, “are you okay?” And continue to do it
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It is Sunday, and I'm alive to live in it - Grateful for life!
by ABoxofChocolates26
Last post
 September 22nd
...See more Thank You, Father, for Your love and continued grace and mercy towards me. You proved Your Love when You sent Your Son to redeem us and I'm grateful to You and Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit. Help me to show love to others even when they're mean. I may not know what they're dealing with but You know, so give me more wisdom to give more grace and mercy and kindness, especially to those who are hurting. And continue healing me, in Jesus' name. Amen!
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New Hope
by GentleJaneNG
Last post
 September 15th
...See more Some mornings, you may wake up without the strength or motivation to keep moving. But remember, His mercies are new every morning. Hold on to hope, take one step at a time, and trust that it will all be alright.
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Sunday again.
by selfdisciplinedFarm452
Last post
 September 10th
...See more As a younger Christian, I think I used to live for Sundays. Sundays the highlight of the week, the point to work back to in a Monday. Not sure what happened to that mindset. Don't get me wrong I still look forward to church, but maybe my expectations of what can happen at church are lower than they were. I go, I listen, I drink a coffee, then it's over again, I need to get on with the next thing.  This is somewhat disappointing really and I would love to get the passion back. I don't think it's my faith at fault, I think it's the culture, something with not wanting to appear too keen, being in a somewhat conservative English Anglican church, trying to meet people where they are and not looking like a crackpot or a fanatic. . . . . . I do think my expectations have become worn down too.......I dare not hope for too much anymore.....I am more fragile, vulnerable myself.  Nevertheless, God is at work, the Holy Spirit is always active and the greatest thing is love. Today the service went too quick ......but there was love there and I felt lifted. I wonder what other people found about their Sunday today?
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Just believe
by GentleJaneNG
Last post
 September 6th
...See more I pray for everyone facing health challenges today. Remember, your Heavenly Father is the Great Physician. I pray that His healing power surrounds you, and that He stretches forth His healing hand over your life today. May His peace strengthen your heart, renew your body, and fill you with hope. Your healing journey is in His hands.
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God cares
by animalsarecute45
Last post
 August 29th
...See more I just want to say, especially to those feeling discouraged and alone, how much God cares about mental health and those struggling. Regardless of the stigma of mental illnesses, I believe Jesus truly understands and walks with us every step of the way. Asking for help and getting help should never be something to feel ashamed about.
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Lonely (non christian friends)
by HopefullySunny
Last post
 August 19th
...See more I'm feeling down and lonely. I was recently told that my actions, while trying to resolve a fist fight, was being laughed at by my friends.  I was out having lunch with 2 of my friends last year. The next table was being obnoxiously loud. One of my friends rudely told them off. The group at the other table verbally pushed back so my friend, thinking he can intimidate them, stood up abruptly. It resulted in a 3 vs 1 fight of tackling and kicking. I approached one of the men from the other table and asked if one of them can try to stop the fight. He tried but it took awhile for all of them to break away from the fight. Things calmed down a bit and I, along with my other friend who was not involved in the fight, stood with the wait staff between my beat up friend and the 3 men. I said a lot of things to distract them from going at each other again. Things like "how is this going to end", "if you you all keep fighting the police will have to be involved", etc. There were a lot of cursing coming from the 3 men directed at my friend. I apologized for my friend's action of standing up to intimidate them, my friend had calmed down at this point and apologized and tried to shake hands with the angry men. More cursing. This wasn't in the US but in a predominantly catholic country. So I said "hey this is just the enemy trying to create more conflict". That appeared to calm one of the men down and he just sat down and looked pensive. However, the angriest one yelled back and said "stop with your bs (full word)".  I was put off but that was okay with me because his posture didn't look like he was ready to lunge. Instead, it became a "staring contest" between the 3 men and my friend who was standing behind me. After a few minutes, the angriest man said, "we're going to leave first". There were no more threats coming from them and they got in their car and left. That was that. Well, my friends recently had a party and all of them think it's laughable that I uttered a christian phrase. See, no one says things like that in our country unless it's coming from a catholic priest.  So i heard this news today that more than 10 of my friends were laughing at me for what I said.  It hurts and i don't understand, After the incident, my 2 friends were so thankful that I tried to stop the fight. Yes, we were laughing at me being cussed out and told "stop with my bs" and we were also amused that I put on my Christian hat (I've only been a Christian for 2 years). I thought that change was being celebrated and not laughed at.  I'm confused that 2 of my friends who knew what happened would encourage this behavior. I have sent our group chat a message and asked what was it that I did that was funny? I want to see what they say and determine what kind of friends they actually are.  
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Keep walking, your light is coming
by GentleJaneNG
Last post
 August 10th
...See more Keep moving, even when the road feels dark. God may not show you the whole path, but He will surely give you enough light for the next step. You don’t have to stop in the tunnel just keep walking, keep praying, and keep trusting. There is light ahead, and by His grace, you will get there.
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Just a rant
by secretFriend2402
Last post
 August 9th
...See more I’m exhausted…. Slowly cutting out some people. Feel awful for letting things get, to far with someone I didn’t know too well. But things, just got carried away. Before this, I barely had much interactions with guys, aside from platonic settings. I know, we are to be pure. And this was prior, to me being convicted by the Holy Spirit and coming to faith. But, I need balance. I want to date, but can’t get out of my head, how far to go and not. I’m too scared, I’m too withdrawn. Easily convinced to go farther. Even, when I may regret it later on. What should I wear? I’ve been dressing more modestly and feel not only more comfortable. But, i get scared if I can’t stick to it, does it also mean I can’t too concerned with fashion. I’ve always loved fashion, styling an outfit. Looking at books, and prints. Am I too worldly? Where’s the limit? Sorry it’s more of a rant. But I like, to make these from time to time. My faith has brought me much clarity. But it’s good, to come across like minded people, whom can understand.

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