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Shine Bright: I am SH-free for ____ Days
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 10 hours ago
...See more Well done! 💪✨  (Number) days free from self-harm is a significant accomplishment.  Please take a moment to acknowledge your strength and resilience and celebrate with us. Here are a few points to reflect on and celebrate:  * What helped you stay strong these past few days? Was it a specific coping mechanism, a supportive person, or a personal mantra? Share your tips to inspire others. * What positive changes have you noticed since being SH-free? Maybe you have more energy, better sleep, or a renewed sense of hope. Reflect on the progress you've made. * What are you looking forward to in the future? Use this milestone as a springboard for setting new goals or focusing on activities you enjoy. * Write a message to your future self: What words of encouragement would you tell yourself for the days ahead? Start sharing with us. We believe in you. 
New Forum Supporter
by Kristynsmama
Last post
 April 15th
...See more I would like to take a moment to introduce myself to the Self harm subcommunity.  My name is Kristynsmama (Kristy for short).  I have been self harm free for about 10 years!  I look forward to supporting this community!  Please feel free to reach out and make sure to tell me you are from the self harm forum!
Weekly Check in 4.14.24
by Kristynsmama
Last post
 April 14th
...See more
about three weeks clean…
by LoveMyMoonflowers
Last post
 6 hours ago
...See more i’ve been about 3 weeks clean, maybe a little less than that. i haven’t really counted after it was like 2 weeks …but yeah. :') kind of proud of myself but at the same time idk how i feel about it. it’s confusing… 
Shine Bright: I am SH-free for ____ Days
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 10 hours ago
...See more Well done! 💪✨  (Number) days free from self-harm is a significant accomplishment.  Please take a moment to acknowledge your strength and resilience and celebrate with us. Here are a few points to reflect on and celebrate:  * What helped you stay strong these past few days? Was it a specific coping mechanism, a supportive person, or a personal mantra? Share your tips to inspire others. * What positive changes have you noticed since being SH-free? Maybe you have more energy, better sleep, or a renewed sense of hope. Reflect on the progress you've made. * What are you looking forward to in the future? Use this milestone as a springboard for setting new goals or focusing on activities you enjoy. * Write a message to your future self: What words of encouragement would you tell yourself for the days ahead? Start sharing with us. We believe in you. 
146 Things To Do Besides Self Harm
by AWorldofPeaceandHope
Last post
 22 hours ago
...See more 1. Exercise. 2. Put on fake tattoos. 3. Draw on yourself with washable red marker-then take a shower and wash away your pain. 4. Scribble on sheets of paper. 5. Write poetry. 6. Cuddle with a stuffed toy. 7. Be with other people. 8. Watch a favorite TV show. 9. Post on web boards or try answering other people's posts. 10, Think about how "I DON'T WANT SCARS FOR SUMMER!!" 11. Paint your nails a new color. 12. Go out to see a movie. 13. Eating something you can't resist. 14. Do your school work. 15. Write a letter to someone but never send it. 16. Go into chat rooms to talk. 17. Call a friend and ask them to come hang out. 18. Play a musical instrument. 19. Sing. 20. Look up at the sky, and find the moon. Study it. 21. Make your own list of things to do instead of S.I. 22. Buy a punching bag (with gloves. Name it. Then, have a visit with Bob when you need to. 23. Snap a rubber band (hair band) on your wrist. 24. Cover yourself with band-aids where you want to cut. 25. Go to the zoo and rename the animals. 26. Let yourself cry, even if it is hard. 27. Sleep, only if you are tired. 28. Do the exact opposite of what you really want to do. 29. Play with a pet. 30. Smile to at least 5 people. 31. Re-organize and lable your linen closet. 32. Go out and perform one act of kindness. 33. Have a pillow fight with a wall. 34. Knit a scarf. 35. Read a good book. 36. Dress up very glamorous, with makeup to match. 37. Color your hair. 38. Listen to music (nontriggering) 39. Watch a candle burn, but no playing with flames or hot wax. Blow it out when you leave the room. 40. Find someone else you can help. Do volunteer work. 41. Meditate. Track your breathing. 42. Call up an old friend and catch up. 43. Work on a website or start a new one. 44. Have a vivid fantasy love affair with a celebrity. 45. Go somewhere very public. 46. Bake cookies or another favorite food you like. 47. Alphabetize your CD's. 48. Chew gum. 49. Buy a henna tattoo kit. 50. Paint or draw. 51. Rip paper into really small pieces. 52. Give someone a Hug. 53. Write a letters or emails. 54. Talk to yourself, and put it on tape. 55. Hug a pillow. 56. Hyper-focus on something like a rock. 57. Fingerpaint. 58. Scream as loud as you want. 59. Dance. 60. Make hot chocolate. 61. Pop bubble wrap. 62. Play with play dough. 63. Count to 100. 64. Build a pillow fort. 65. Blow up a balloon and pop it. 66. Hug yourself. 67. Write yourself an "I love myself because" letter and keep it. Read it when you feel down. 68. Read things in a different language. 69. Go for a nice long drive, walk, or jog. 70. Complete something you have been putting off. 71. Drink a cup of herbal tea. 72. Fold paper and invent a new origomi shape. 73. Write your memoirs. 74. Build something. 75. Take up archery. 76. Go rock climbing. 77. Take up a new hobby you always dreamed of. 78. Organize bills, receipts, etc. 79. Cook a meal. 80. Go out for ice cream. 81. Buy a stuffed animal. 82. Look at pretty things-like flowers or art work. 83. Create something. 84. Pray or read the Bible. 85. Throw socks against the wall. 86. Make a list of blessings in your life. 87. Go to a friend's house and open up. 88. Take up fencing. 89. Watch an old comedy movie. 90. Call your therapist or make an appointment with one. 91. Talk to someone close to you that you trust. 92. Throw a temper tantrum. 93. Ride a bicycle. 94. Polish silver or jewelry. 95, Start a garden or water your house plants. 96. Re-arrange a room. 97. Feed the ducks, birds, or squirrels. 98. Draw on the walls-or paint with watercolors if you don't want permanence. 99. Play with face paint. 100. Play jacks or pick up sticks. 101. Color with crayons. 102. Memorize a song and sing it. Then, reflect on it's message. 103. Put on boots and stomp. 104. Stretch. 105. Find a butterfly and catch it. 106. Watch fish. 107. Come up with baby names even if you aren't expecting. 108. Go to a public place and people watch. 109. Make a CD of your favorite songs. 110. Name all of your stuffed animals. 111. Go shopping. 112. Get into your PJ's and just veg. 113. Buy cheap teddy bears and take your anger out on them 114. Throw everything on the ground except glass. 115. Go to a loud concert (Make sure it doen't trigger you) 116. Think about your ideal life. What do you have to do to get there? 117. Plan your someday wedding day or upcoming prom. 118. Hunt for stuff on Ebay. 119. Alphabetize your books and magazines. 120. Hunt for your perfect home in the paper or online. 121. Take up Tai Chi. 122. Try to make as many words as possible out of your full name. 123. Count ceiling tiles or lights. 124. Go to the grocery store and buy yourself some flowers. 125. Search for ridiculous things on the web. 126. Google youself. 127. Color co-oridinate your wardrobe. 128. Do a home tan on yourself. 129. Take a hot bath and "be" in the moment. 130. Sort all you photographs. 131. Give yourself a pedicure. 132. Color or scribble over pretty women in magazines. 133. Plan a dinner party with menus and guest list, then carry it out. 134. Go through all your old stuff, and donate to Good Will. 135. Take a walk in the woods and breathe the fresh air. 136. Start a mood journal and write in it every day. Do patterns surface? Track your triggers. 137. Buy yourself some toys and play like you are 5 years old again! 138. Start to collect some thing. 139. Take up kick-boxing. 140. Read a magazine or newspaper. 141. Sew something. 142. Buy a stuffed animal. 143. Take your own dog, or a friend's dog for a walk. 144. Call 1-800-DONT CUT 145. Call 1-800-THERAPIST 146. Read through this list again. This article comes from: http://www.adolescentselfinjuryfoundation.com/
Depression
by Tahyeet
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more i need help guys, is it possible that i can get help?
i tried
by sorryidontknowaname
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more i really tried this time. i really did. but I couldn't, I tried my best but its just not enough. i was 50 days too.
S/h
by Midnighttink
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Two days clean.
TW mentions of $h
by Tamikiii
Last post
 3 days ago
...See more Ever since school and my other hobbies (mainly piano lessons and taekwondo) started, I've been so stressed to the point where it affected my mental health and my mental health affected the perfect relationship I used to have. It hasn't really ended well for me and so I started sh. My friends cleaned my wounds and tried looking for good alternatives for me but nothing just seems to work. Up to this day I still inflict pain on myself. But right now, I started getting clean for a maximum of 2 - 3 days and I end up doing it again. I really hope things get better for me.
Just venting
by R00thT00th
Last post
 Sunday
...See more I want to relapse so bad. I've been 4 months clean. My mom yelled at me on the phone today for not going to school. I didn't go to school because I thought I might get my period today, I have extremely heavy bleeding and horrible cramps, so I usually don't go to school because of it. My mom said I can't go to this concert I was going to go to, and I cant see friends, and if I don't get my period today and get it sometime this week, I'll still have to go. I feel horrible for making her mad I didn't mean to get her so mad at me. I just feel so guilty for staying home. She makes my mental health worse sometimes. I still love her but she has her bad days. I don't have therapy. I've been asking to get back into therapy for about a year now. She tries to find therapist, but she's so busy from work. I also want to go on birth control for my period, but she's also not got that for me. Idk how she doesn't understand that if I get all that fixed, I'll go to school and stop missing days. I'm just tired of her. She's coming home later today and I know shell just tell at me more. She might take my phone, but I'm not sure. I was thinking about cleaning the house for her, but I feel like I shouldn't have to do that just for her to not be mad at me. I think she'll still be mad at me even if I clean.
Top 5 reasons for self harming behavior
by Kristynsmama
Last post
 Saturday
...See more * These are the top 5 reasons that young adults practice in sept harming behaviors.  Which of these rings true for you?  It can be one of them or all of them.  Understanding why we practice this behavior is a key in long term recovery. * 1.  To release emotional pressure (In one study, 85 percent [https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2723954/] of participants said this was their biggest reason for self-harming.) * 2.  In order to control how they’re feeling * 3.  To get away from intolerable emotions * 4.  As a way of punishing themselves or expressing anger at themselves * 5.  Being triggered by exposure to self-harm relapse in others or in the media.
Hello! I’m new here 👋
by DimStar789
Last post
 Friday
...See more Hello! Im new here, my name is Aubrey. I’m 13 (idk I haven’t rly seen anyone the same age as me 😶)  I’ve been self harming for a year or two on and off. Idk rly what I’m supposed to write. Anyways, hello! Love,  Aubrey
Self soothing
by Kristynsmama
Last post
 April 16th
...See more These are some of the things I do to self soothe when I’m having a hard time.  Do you do any of these things?  Are there other things you do to self soothe?  If so, what are they?
New Forum Supporter
by Kristynsmama
Last post
 April 15th
...See more I would like to take a moment to introduce myself to the Self harm subcommunity.  My name is Kristynsmama (Kristy for short).  I have been self harm free for about 10 years!  I look forward to supporting this community!  Please feel free to reach out and make sure to tell me you are from the self harm forum!

Hello, and welcome to the Self-Harm Recovery Subcommunity! It’s great to have you here, and we are proud of you for making the first brave step in reaching out for support. This is our supportive, safe and friendly environment, and we are glad to have you here 😃. Feel free to direct any questions to the appropriate leader of our community, which you can find at the bottom of the about section. ⭐️

🌟 Feel free to say hello and introduce yourself! Or if you want to just browse for now that is okay too! Take your time. We have several topics in our community such as the goals and success corner, recovery zone, support area and much more! Please use the relevant topic where appropriate so we can keep our community organised🌟

🌟 Please make sure to read through our community guidelines and browse our resources available 🌟

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🌟 Again, thank you for joining our community, and we look forward to seeing your progress on your journey! If you have any questions, please reach out to the relevant leader 😊

Community Guidelines

These guidelines are inspired by some communities around 7 cups! This is so we can adapt our little family to accommodate as many different life experiences and situations as possible. We recognize we cannot adapt to every circumstantial rule. However, we have outlined some of the common guidelines needed for our community. ❤️

✪ Please do not share any graphic images or descriptions of self-harm tools!

✪ Please do not mention the name of any tools used for self-harm in any area of the self-harm recovery community.

✪ Names of methods of self-harm are allowed to be shared in the group support room, but where possible please try to exchange a method name for the phrase "self-harm".

✪ When mentioning methods of self-harm or potentially triggering details of another topic in the forums, please put a trigger warning at the top of the post so people are able to click away from the post if they would like to. Additionally, please try to find an appropriate place within our forums to make your post. Certain areas are reserved for specific content, so please consider this when making your post.

✪ Pro-self-harm content will not be tolerated!

✪ Please be respectful to everyone, members and listeners alike.

✪ Remember, everyone's experiences are different. Please do not undermine or invalidate anyone's situation because it is not what most would consider "normal". We are a diverse community and have people from many backgrounds, so please always be respectful!

✪ General kindness, courtesy, and etiquette are heavily appreciated!

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