How to know if an off and on boyfriend is really done for good? Has said forever before and still came back.

Empower yourself and decide that it is over. Do you really want to be with someone that is so wishy-washy about you? You must teach people how to treat you.

The real question is: when will you be done for good? Don't you deserve better treatment? I've had boyfriends that worked this way and it always ended badly eventually. The last time this happened to me in a relationship, he stormed out over something small, stopped calling for a week and a half, then called to say he'd like to stop over the following day to pick up his stuff. I'd gone around the house gathering everything and politely gave it to him. He seemed disappointed. Then he said he'd like to resume our relationship but he'd needed a break. I told him, "Awww, after all that's happened, it would just break my heart to even be around you." Boy, did I feel free after he left. Couldn't stop cuddling my little pupster and almost felt like laughing this dude was so predictable.