How to get over someone you have to see everyday?

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How to get over someone you have to see everyday?
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goldenLynx88
September 11th, 2016 11:30am
Act as if you don't care. Don't give them importance. The more you will follow them or try to talk to them the more he will think he is something and important to your life. The more you don't care, he will see what he lose.
kristenisaninjaturtle
August 7th, 2016 4:22pm
You have to leave your past in the past, and just think about the present and future. yes, it hurts, but you have to turn that pain into strength, and keep looking forward.
Ladybug11
September 13th, 2016 6:56pm
It is important to acknowledge that what has happened happened, and that there is no going back. It will be painful at first but then once you learn to accept and move on it will get better, believe me it will. There is this hole that that someone left right, its not just something that is to be missed, it is also space, an opportunity. Use it to add something to your life that makes you happy :) a hobby, a friend, anything. You got this! It is your life and no-one should be able to affect you so much unless he/she is worth it. Keep your head high and keep going. We all believe in you!
JamieSclafaniLMSW
August 4th, 2016 9:09pm
It may be that you are worried about how that person feels about you or what they may think. Keep in mind that what you think about yourself is the most important.
Anonymous
August 13th, 2016 2:41am
To get over someone you have to see everyday IS hard and does not come easily. So if you thought it was going to be easy you can toss that belief right out the window. Accept that it will be difficult but also realize that before you were together you saw them everyday. Try to get back to that place.
GlassLion24
August 26th, 2016 5:38pm
I've had experience with this. Such a difficult thing to do because hope can be so resilient. But I've found when you truly love someone, you'll be happy if they're happy, even if it's without you.
Mikzwax
September 23rd, 2016 11:03am
just be confident and bold.. Never let him know his appearance have effects on you. Be strong enough to handle the situations
joyfulParadise42
April 9th, 2017 6:38pm
I think ignoring is the best and for the best. I am in that situation too, it's been 7 months and now we are ignoring each other but I came to realize that is better to ignire each other than letting him make fun of me and taking me for granted. It may be hard but think about what is best for you.
Supergirl94
August 11th, 2016 12:54am
Think of them differently, have a different perspective of things. :) Think positively about them and your past. But also acknowledge how things have changed, how things can still be good between you two as friends,
IronicallyGeminiLeo
November 3rd, 2016 1:58am
Try to keep conversation with them to a minimal. Make any necessary conversing succinct. Keep yourself occupied with other things, so you're too busy to think about them.
JessicaMae
August 13th, 2016 7:29pm
The most important thing is simply to breath. No body is perfect. Remember that you will probably live 70-90+ years. Do not let this person ruin it or discourage you in any way. Be kind and treat others the way that you would personally want to be treated.
believe222
August 25th, 2016 6:33pm
you just have to keep going with life , you will end up finding someone that wants you . just try not to look at that person and don't talk to that person.
Patty24
August 17th, 2016 6:14pm
Getting over anyone can be hard, especially if you were together for some time. Turn this time into focusing on yourself. Understand that It will be challenging not to think about that person after seeing them every day, but trust in your strength to overcome. Focus on how better things are without this person and use that energy to keep moving forward.
Anonymous
October 5th, 2016 3:43pm
By believing that they were in my life for a purpose and now that they have fulfilled that purpose they have to move on.
comfortingCreature55
March 2nd, 2017 1:38pm
I had/ have the same problem. My biggest hurdle is that (and I still dont know why) I feel embarassed in seeing that person. Knowing that they are in my same class, library, shop, etcetera. I dont know if you have this same reaction, but two things helped me the most. The first one is humour. We didnt talk for many months, but sometimes we had small talks when we met on the street. And I felt kinda more relaxed when we talked about funny things, we joked about other things in life, problems at university, weird things generally. Which made us laugh. That helped me breaking the ice and made me know that, since then when we met, there is a "lighter" atmosphere between us, and I automatically can focus on other things too. The second thing is, and Im gonna explain you better, that yes: they are not the only girl/boy on the planet. I couldn’t stand people telling me this, cause I want only that person and they are not in love with them unlike me. BUT: with this second concept I dont mean just that. Rather: I often noticed that this person kinda changed (in better) their behaviour towards me or that they just didnt embarass me anymore when I "showed" them that they really are not the only girl/boy on this planet. By talking, laughing, studying with other people of their same gender. Simply hanging out. It made the situation again lighter for "me", as I felt a bit less attached to this person, and this person really noticed that they hadnt that much power over me like before. Im personally still working on it, but I know that it has to do with constance and with time :) That doesnt mean you will get over immediately or that you “have” to be interested in these other people. It helps u cope more with the fact u have to see this person everyday. I wish you good luck
Anonymous
April 14th, 2017 7:59pm
It's hard but eventually you will get over it. The process is long. But you should just accept the fact that the person is right there and that they won't go away anytime soon. Just be okay with it and sooner or later you'll see that their presence won't bother you anymore. They will become just another person in the room. You just have to accept it.
Nyssa2506
September 21st, 2017 5:47pm
It's mind over matter. It's not easy, I agree. Had to go through this myself. Just sit down somewhere peaceful in solitude and talk to yourself. Why is it important to get over that person? What made you part ways? Do you love yourself enough to let this go & find peace & love within yourself? What more important things are there in the world than that person?.... and so on and so forth, Just empower yourself, make yourself strong and remember - you can do anything if you put your mind to it!
Anonymous
August 3rd, 2016 10:06am
try not to over think about your personal past with them. focus on what you are there for not that specific person.
AuntieGinger
August 10th, 2016 5:48pm
Time is a great healer. Trust that over time, it will get easier. In the interim, do what you can to keep contact to a professional minimum, have activities in your life that keep you away from this person, and realize that setbacks are only temporary.
Anonymous
September 29th, 2016 3:08am
Focus on other things and overtime they won't be as noticeable to you. Appreciate the present instead of reflecting on the past.
happyrosestar
September 30th, 2016 5:17am
You politely say good morning and only talk about relevant information and nothing else. You don't exchange any information about your personal life
Anonymous
October 7th, 2016 6:33pm
It can be hard, but sometimes you have to do things the hard way. You have to remind yourself constantly that if it was meant to be it would have been.
Galina
December 8th, 2016 7:52pm
Meditate on self love and when you feel loved, send good thoughts like waves of energy to the person you love. Just because that person doesnt belong to you, doesnt mean you have to stop loving him/her. Send love and then drop thoughts and carry on with your own life (on a daily basis if need be)
Rakune
March 29th, 2017 4:50am
A year ago, I was in a relationship with one of my classmates (meaning, we had the same classes together everyday). I didn't have any friends beside him and his friends. When we broke up, it was terrible. I was a mess for the first two weeks. I had no one to go to. However, I started befriending other people, who I had never really noticed through the whole school year. I would generally ignore my ex-boyfriend, unless if he wanted to ask me something. Of course, I would end up feeling like I wanted our old relationship back every time. However, I started to be content with new friends I had. I told them my issues and they just helped me out by joking around. Although I wasn't able to fully move on, I was happy with the life I had since I was doing well in school and had good friends.
lovingLynx89
August 12th, 2016 1:23am
Focus on yourself, clearly you are not together for a good reason.. stop wasting time on the past, move on and invest in the future!!
genuineMist47
January 1st, 2017 6:50pm
Having to get over anyone can be extremely difficult. Having to see that person everyday naturally makes it feel worse. Depending on how you have left things, whether you now hate each other, or are still friendly, will help determine the best way to get over them. Try to distract yourself, if they walk into the room, if you can, leave, even for a few minutes. If you can't, talk to a friend or a colleague, about anything. You will hear this all the time, but it does get easier in time. That doesn't help now, but just remember that you are strong, and you will get through this.
michaelp1976
August 4th, 2016 12:05pm
Remember the good times to keep you at ease, but also remember why you're getting over them and use that to ease the times you see them.
Anonymous
September 7th, 2016 10:19pm
Keep busy with new activities, always helps! Keeping preoccupied will give you space and time. Be Well!
Anonymous
December 1st, 2016 9:49am
That is the toughest, I have to say. But maybe seeing him/her everyday you can realise how you are living separate lives from each other and though it sure hurts to see a special person, you are still managing to cope each day. Keep it up and let those enter into your life who are really worth staying in it.
Anonymous
January 25th, 2017 2:50am
Do your best to distract yourself from the person. If you see them coming, don't stare or try to make them jealous. Instead, try to put them out of your mind and engage yourself in another task or conversation. Really try to immerse yourself in other activities and soon enough you'll be enjoying yourself so much that you won't even be phased by seeing the person.