He said I was perfect for him, but he chose someone else?

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Anonymous
July 21st, 2016 11:12am
You never know what's in the heart of someone... people make promises in the moment and forget about it after sometimes.. but you couldn't depend on someone's words.. you need to see their actions too.. because actions speak louder than words.. and if he has chosen someone else.. then he was never sincere and actually he doesn't deserve you. He is not perfect for you. Try to move on from someone who was never sincere with you.. and try to focus on yourself.. your dignity is more important than him and his choice.
Ashoulder91
July 31st, 2016 1:36am
In a lot of cases people don't know what they want all the time. Maybe you were perfect because you filled a need he was missing, and once that need was filled he found someone else that filled a different need. So it's not that you aren't good enough, it's that he's missing something in his life that no one can fill for him.
pandemicbliss
May 4th, 2017 4:22pm
He realized he wasn't perfect for you, that he will never match up to be the person you deserve to be with. He knows himself and realized that someone with an amazing heart like yours needs someone to mirror it. He would have been an barrier from letting you find that person that truly deserves you. It may sound unrealistic, but this is his gift to you - to find your unfulfilled potential that you wouldn't have been able to with him.
aestheticbeebo
November 18th, 2017 2:52pm
Babe, you deserve way better than him. NO girl, and I mean NO girl deserves a guy who chooses someone else over you, especially when he chose you first. Maybe it wasn't meant to be or maybe he just didn't care. But you HAVE to move on love. You'll find your guy and when you find him, every thing will be worth it. But you have to move on. It'll hurt so much. I won't deny that. But I'm positive that you can and you will. You're so strong baby. If you ever want to talk, I'm always here for you. -Nikki
Lunathereal
July 14th, 2016 9:42am
In the moment he probably meant it and truly believed in this, but sometimes things change and people change and there isn't anything we can do.
uniquecreature41
July 3rd, 2016 9:04pm
You may have been perfect for him but maybe the relationship you had with each other, wasn't. It's not uncommon for love or a strong connection to not be enough to keep people together. Look back at your time together, was it really as good as you think now, in the wake of a break up and broken heart? You may find upon examination that actually, many aspects of the relationship didn't suit you either.
Anonymous
August 5th, 2016 8:58pm
He's not worth your time. Sometimes people don't realize how their actions may hurt other people and their wording isn't credible.
bubblykat
July 16th, 2016 5:12pm
He was careless and said you were perfect because he wanted you to stay with him while he went with someone else. I'm sorry that he chose someone else. It's not your fault.
YukiSYan246
July 17th, 2016 3:15am
He is just an idiot. Maybe he thinks you are too perfect for him that he decided to let you go OR he was just playing with your feelings.
Imhere240
August 7th, 2016 12:27am
You can be strong without him, it's worthless to suffer for person who is even worthless.
Anonymous
August 12th, 2016 1:18pm
Many guys tend to be like this, in experience it's not easy to deal with a situation like this and tends to have quite a negative effect on how you see yourself. When a guy says "You're perfect for me" or "You're perfect to me" sometimes its just his way of keeping you until he's over whatever it is that you have together. It may give you a different perspective and make you think that all guys are the same etc, but in reality they aren't and there is someone out there making stupid memories that you'll hear about years from now and you'll think about everything you had gone through to get to that person in your life and laugh about it because you finally found someone who makes you happy and actually appreciates and values your worth.
Anonymous
July 30th, 2016 6:33am
Maybe he thought you were perfect at one time but lost feelings, maybe he thought the other person was more perfect. Either way it doesn't seem like he was right for you, and you can find someone better for yourself that will choose you over everyone else.
exquisiteLion14
August 27th, 2016 6:04am
You are perfect on your own. You do not need someone else's validation for your own perfection. You are perfect.
Anonymous
August 27th, 2016 9:30am
That's okay. I might be perfect for him but he wasn't for me. We should fall in love for someone who love us back more. And moreover I may be perfect for many but the one and only one will be perfect for me.
electricbird
September 2nd, 2016 1:34am
I wish I could tell you this will be the last time this happens, but the truth is people do this kind of stuff. All the time. And from personal experiences I could tell you, that you've got 2 options. You could stay at home being all sad, wondering what happened and thinking how yesterday you were perfect, but now you're not and someone else is...Or you could stay home and imagine what his face will be when he finds out that it was you, the one who was actually perfect for him. I bet some other guy will know how to treat you better than he did and he'll think you're perfect and actually mean it. I'm telling you for sure, this kind of things don't take place just in movies.
Anonymous
October 14th, 2017 6:24pm
I'm so sorry to hear that someone you put your trust in has done that to you. It's hard to rationalise someone's motives when this happens to you so go easy on yourself and remember, the issue is his and not yours at this stage. When this happened to me I compared myself exhaustively to this other person, deeming them better than me and criticising myself non-stop, making sure I felt so worthless by the end of it that I could barely face getting up every morning. But this meant the only person that was being punished for something I could do nothing about was me. So be kind to you, you deserve to be with someone who says you are perfect for them and shows it in their actions too, and that's not what this person could offer you, so actually they weren't perfect for you! In time, as you get strong again, you will be able to look back at this experience and maybe even learn a few things to help you in future relationships, but for now just remember not to take responsibility for anything that's not in your control, recognise the amazing value of you and be kind to yourself!
iloveredlipstick
July 22nd, 2016 3:55pm
You should give up and move on because he wasn't perfect for you by doing that. His act just doesn't reflect what he says.
Supergirl94
August 10th, 2016 5:29am
Some people say what we want to hear. Some people say what they mean and change their minds or become afraid so they choose to run instead of fight. We can never truly know why people say those things to us and do the exact opposite. It's normal to want to understand, the need to understand why. But sometimes we don't get answers, sometimes we have to accept what has been done to us, forgive them however we can and move on with our lives. Make sure the next time is better
cosyheart21
October 22nd, 2016 7:50am
As hard as it is, if he chose someone else, then you weren't perfect for him. Or rather, he wasn't perfect for you. Try to remember that everything happens for a reason. You deserve to be with someone who will not only express that you're the one for him, but will stay with you. He may be with someone else now, but that doesn't define you. If someone is stupid enough to leave you, you have to be smart enough to let them go. You deserve so much better. Stay strong.
Anonymous
July 8th, 2016 12:13am
Take a deep breath and know that you can do better than him. It's not the end of the world. Time will help you get over him and then you will be able to move on and get a batter guy than him that will care a whole ton!
tanisc1
July 16th, 2016 8:33pm
Sometimes even if someone is perfect, the love isn't there. You can't help who you fall in love with, and he might have fallen for someone else... You can't force love or feelings even if in theory someone is perfect for you.
TiffanyLauren
August 3rd, 2016 6:53am
If he ever did chose somebody else now, maybe it would because they have similar religion, hobbies, and field of study.
Anonymous
August 13th, 2016 3:00am
Then too bad for him ! You don't need him focus on loving yourself because you're the one who deserves it the most ! :)
Anonymous
August 19th, 2016 7:58pm
Actions speak louder than words. If he didn't choose you, either he didn't mean what he said or he felt it was better you two not be together. Whatever his reasons, move on. You deserve someone who will choose you.
tranquilShoulder91
September 4th, 2016 7:29pm
This was a statement about him, not about you. Your value is not changed. Only you can determine your true value. Once this is established, the perceptions of others are nothing more than that - perceptions. Listen to your inner voice, you'll know this to be true.
unspokenWords11
September 13th, 2016 9:55am
Honey, I just had the same thing done to me. You may have been perfect for him, like I was "perfect" for him... but you never know what is going on inside someones head and sometimes things like this doesn't make any sense at all. You ask yourself 'what went wrong?' or 'did I do something'. But at the end of the day he's just opening you up to other possibilities and even though at the time he might have been perfect for you... I guarantee you will find someone who only has eyes for you and doesn't have to look for someone else.
delicateHand72
August 11th, 2017 6:57pm
I understand that this is a hard thing, you may feel that you're not good enough for example. In my experience, it's always best to put yourself first; it's important to recognise that you a worth more no matter how flawed you think you are.
Anonymous
November 15th, 2017 9:06pm
sometimes words are just words, you need some actions in your life if he says things wait for him to prove it!
peacefulteddy
July 24th, 2016 9:39pm
Well not everyone is perfect, we will all found out perfect half. He probably did that because he thought you didn't feel the same.
Anonymous
August 27th, 2016 9:28pm
Sometimes people get confused as to what to say to let you down easy, he sured tried not to hurt you too much, but it looks like he didn't like you that way after all.