Why are we fighting over small and stupid things?

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Pandette
July 6th, 2016 4:31am
There are so many reasons why people fight over trivial things. I've found that usually when something else is going negatively in a person's life, they tend to take it out in other ways. They displace their emotions. Sometimes dealing with that particular situation becomes too difficult or frustrating and the way to vent would be to argue over things that don't matter whatsoever. On the other end of the spectrum, maybe there was just some miscommunication taking place. Either way, communication is always key in order to figure out what is wrong (what the problem/issue is) and how best to fix it!
Anonymous
July 21st, 2016 7:09am
because we care for each other and our heart is sensitive to the behaviours of those who we love since we have given them the power to hurt us
Anonymous
July 20th, 2016 7:05am
You fight over the small things because you never expressed how you felt, so you pent up anger or irritation on the small things. And then you explode.
here4you201
July 17th, 2016 6:09pm
Because we often fight to be RIGHT, but in truth, there is really no right and wrong. So we are causing suffering on ourselves fighting over small and stupid things. However, there is really no small and stupid things as well. Everything is based on perspective. ;)
Missfabulous
September 19th, 2016 11:51pm
because those "small and stupid things" could mean a lot to one person but mean something completely different to another person.
Anonymous
August 28th, 2016 2:48pm
Many people expect perfection. The world is not perfect. We must understand that. If you feel that things aren't going as you want it to be, it us best to talk to someone about it.
Christiana77
July 14th, 2016 1:39pm
Patience and taking time time to understand each other may be all that you need. Disagreements are bound to happen and as a matter of fact, if handled well, it makes you to know more about yourselves. Disagreements occur between siblings as well not to talk of if you are from different backgrounds or homes. But the key is asking yourselves, "do you want this to work?" Then you have to learn how to sit together and talk issues out so "this" can really work. Thank you.
starrySoul90
July 15th, 2016 1:52pm
Because these small stupid things don t always appear to us as small and stupid and for the most part they re a result of something thats been building up in our mind for so long..and that small stupid thing is only the needle that pops the balloon.
Anonymous
August 18th, 2016 12:08am
Sometimes the small and stupid things aren't as small or stupid to the other party. Other times there are underlying issues being triggered by the smaller arguments.
Anonymous
October 8th, 2017 5:22pm
Maybe because they are symbolic of a bigger issue to you. Maybe you feel like you don't have enough control in life (could be due to someone somewhere else - like your boss at work) and you feel like you want to exert your power at home, to feel at least somewhat in control of something.
Letirbeforyou
July 28th, 2016 8:51am
Sounds like you are both under stress and outside pressures. Communication is key. That and a good nights rest.
ladycat946
July 8th, 2016 1:18pm
When you learn someone, you see their bright sides, and then, the more you are with that person, the more you see little flaws. Those flaws are like surprises, so this is why you will tend to overreact to those things. I think if you are arguing on small and stupid things, it's better than arguing on BIG things hehe.
Anonymous
July 23rd, 2016 6:34pm
There are many reason the little stuff could be getting to you. You could just be feeling stressed or there is a big issue in the relationship that you're avoiding so use little things as an outlet
Anonymous
October 24th, 2016 8:05am
I think we fight over small things because it's hard for us to show and tell someone how we actually feel and what's really bugging us. So we take our bottled up emotions and express it through small trivial things.
Anonymous
July 16th, 2016 3:12am
Because we, as humans, basically live for doing so. It's unfortunate and I hope that as a race we can find a way to change this.
Anonymous
August 7th, 2016 10:44pm
Sometimes anxiety and stress is more about the little things in life. Things tend to implode in the smaller things to hide the fact that there are bigger things on the picture that we must face.
Alfexso123
May 9th, 2018 7:41am
Because we don't see the world in perspective and don't (want to) see the larger picture. We are confined by our own mind, and the confines gets smaller and smaller every time we miss on the larger picture, which happens pretty often. My thought? Expand the horizons of thinking, because the world is a big place, and life is too short to worry about small things.
steelnerve
August 5th, 2016 6:33pm
Because that's the way we vent over something. It can be anything like not being answered to on the phone, or something else. Then we go all guns blazin' over something not worth the time. It's just about a bit of realization, that we are losing control, and take a few minutes off... sip a mojito or something and come back fresh to reduce such mishaps by a major degree.
justheretohelpyou
August 21st, 2016 1:24am
People can get really distressed with life sometimes, routine and general issues we face day to day can get the better of some people, the best thing to do it to take a step back and consider what they are going through, everyone has their own issues, you can talk to them and tell them how you feel and that you're tired of fighting over small things, tell them that you're there and willing to help with whatever issues they might have, but most of all, give them space, and don't be invasive, they might just need some time to themselves :D
Anonymous
September 1st, 2016 12:38pm
You might be fighting with the one you love because you have so much similarities and likes. You might also be going through a phase where the both of you needs a little space!
hereforyou2121
February 14th, 2018 10:23pm
Little things usually are signs of bigger problems. They are small signals of a problematic areas that we need to work on. Usually we get these subtle indicators from the Universe and if ignored, then they either start building up or growing in size. For better or worse, we usually only focus on something if it is deeply disturbing us. Therefore the signs grow in size until we notice them, often starting off as little things. And sooner or later we shall look at them and at what they are actually trying to tell us.
Anonymous
May 10th, 2018 7:36am
We fight over small and stupid things because it means that we care so much about things no matter how small or big of a deal it is. It can be a good thing or bad thing, depend on you.
Raspberrycheesecake
May 31st, 2018 4:56pm
Sometimes fighting over small things mean you care towards each other and the small things. it can be stressful, but it is best not to worry about them too much.
YouBeYou
July 15th, 2016 2:43am
Because we all think we need to be right, and so we all will try and force our opinion home to prove it
shoshho
July 29th, 2016 11:43am
I believe because we are agitated because of some bigger underlying the surface and that has to be dealt with. if not, then it might be due to us not being aware of ourselves and get carried away without thinking of how others might interpret it.
Anonymous
July 30th, 2016 1:49pm
Ummmm ... I think that small and stupid things are not that much small and stupid for the person you are fighting
WanderingPoet
August 11th, 2016 2:28pm
There's some inner conflict between you and said person. You two need to sit down and talk things out.
Anonymous
August 28th, 2016 2:10am
You both or one of you might have something else thats bothering you which leads to you guys taking it out on eachother. I know exactly where you are coming from and you both just need to talk about what bothers you and what you both think would make the fighting stop
sweetlemon16
June 8th, 2018 9:38pm
Because sometimes things that seem to be small and stupid for others actually mean the world to someone else.
LittleLemon96
September 3rd, 2016 2:33pm
Because maybe it has been so long since you are together, take a break, if it lasts even after a long break, it maybe means that you are not ok with each other. Try to talk about it too, it may help you get over your fights.