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I see my ex everyday, we are really good close friends but he has a girlfriend now and I’ve tried on moving on to but it doesn’t work out and I find my way back to my ex. Advice please?

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Last Updated: 04/27/2021 at 12:12pm
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Anonymous
December 18th, 2017 1:38am
Your ex is your ex for a reason. Remember that reason and learn from the past to move to the future. He has moved on with his life and so should you. Yes you might not date someone as fast as he does. But moving on is not about dating someone else, you can do other things as well to move on like say travel. If you think that it is making it hard for you to move on because you guys are too close. Give yourself some space to move on.
Anonymous
January 9th, 2018 5:32pm
I've had the same experience in highschool. The boy I liked and dated for awhile ended up being my best friend and he has a girlfriend now but I try to look at him non-romantic way even though sometimes I miss the old days. Because after all, things end up for a reason
Anonymous
July 21st, 2020 12:56am
First of all, I admire your courage in reaching out to me. It is not an easy thing to do. I hear your ex is your close friend and you are finding it hard to move on from him. It’s understandable you feel this way, I would too. I don’t want to give you advice thinking it will work, but I’m absolutely confident in you to find an answer for this. Have you tried looking inside yourself for an answer? I’m here to listen to you and help you figure this out. I’m with you throughout this process and take the time you need to figure it out, it doesn’t have to be done in a hurry.
greatfulPumpkin6572
July 27th, 2020 7:23pm
during relationship you share lot of emotions, feelings as a partner and its very tough to end any relationship. You breakup as a partner but you are in touch as a friendship. These are two different relationships. May be if he is not your friend its more tough for you to forget him and all but he is there then its give you more courage to fight with your emotions and feelings. In the starting its really hard but time comes when that self fighting will lead you strongest successful person. The biggest fight in the world is "yourself". You just need to be focused and motivated in each and every step of your life. Good luck
MiloniMakwana
April 27th, 2021 12:12pm
I can understand your situation completely. Relationship and breakups are difficult to deal with. I don't think i can advise you because you know the situation best and you are the best person to know the way to deal with it. As you said that your ex and you and are close friends so maybe talking to them about what you feel might help. But if you feel uncomfortable about talking with him then you can try and take a break and maintain some distance from your ex. As he has a girlfriend now, he has clearly moved on and sticking to the past, can only bring unhappiness to you. It might be the time to love yourself more and give all that warmth and attention that you have been giving to your ex, to yourself now. Give yourself the love that you are seeking. That might be the first step towards moving on.