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My ex boyfriend didn’t breakup with me directly, but through a mutual friend. I’m finding it difficult to move past the idea of closure and am having a hard time with the breakup in general. How can I move on with this the right way?

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Last Updated: 03/21/2022 at 11:51pm
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ASilentBunny
March 15th, 2022 8:23pm
The best way to get over a break up is to give yourself time to heal. It is okay to be sad, angry, and even confused. Acknowledge your emotions and express them. As time goes on, begin analyzing your relationship. what did you learn? Why was it best that you parted? etc. In due time, begin focusing on your life again. Rely on a support system to get you through, begin doing things you enjoy, and try something new. Do not try to get over a break up by getting into another. It isn't fair to you, or the other person. Although your emotions will be strong after a break up, it gets better with time. There is not a set time to get over it, people take different amounts of time to heal. Don't rush your healing process.
Anonymous
March 21st, 2022 11:51pm
There really is no textbook "right" way to go about this situation. It really is up to you, as an individual, to figure out the right path for yourself, whether that be trying to get that closure from him, or going on your own path of figuring things out. I totally understand that that situation can hurt, so you should have the right to cope and deal with it in your own way. And I also understand the importance of receiving closure, or else it might be hard to move on. Finding that closure can happen in different ways, such as reaching out to him or looking at the situation in a new light. I wish the best for you!