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What's the best way to forget about someone who you can't stop caring but but know isn't good for you?

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Last Updated: 06/12/2018 at 4:28pm
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Top Rated Answers
Alicat711
September 15th, 2015 4:51am
This is something I have struggled with for months and still am struggling with. Remember that this person is not good for you. Keep yourself busy with friends, work, school, or other hobbies. Put yourself out there and meet new people! Eventually with time you will stop caring as much and move on, but for right now just enjoy what and who you have around you in your life. Time heals everything!
Sunshine15
June 5th, 2015 7:57pm
Try to cut off your ties from them and distance yourself from them. Delete the pictures of you both, delete your number and try not to engage with them. You may not be able to forget the memories but you can try to erase the digital and physical memories.
blackNutella59
December 19th, 2016 10:12am
Gosh this one is difficult. I think the best way to move on after a breakup is to believe that you have value, keep yourself looking good, go out with friends, do things you haven't done before, set your mind on new adventures, face the fact that you deserve better, and love yourself. Finally, pray about it if this is your way of being.
Anonymous
February 26th, 2018 7:00pm
Have you tried immersing yourself in different activities? A change of environment and activities is always good for the mind.
EverlastingLove96
February 6th, 2015 10:26pm
It takes time to move on from relationships. Everyday you just need to remember that you are better off without him/her. Your life now is better and you just need to keep that in mind. Write down that you are better off and put it on your mirror so it is a constant reminder.
Anonymous
April 22nd, 2015 11:45pm
Distance and removal of that person from your life. You know they are not good for you, stop drinking their poison.
TellMeImListening
December 15th, 2015 6:44pm
Make a schedule for your day. Try and take up as much time as you can doing something else. Give it a shot!
Anonymous
May 23rd, 2016 7:01pm
Go out and meet new friends. Choose the person who will make you happy, love and accepts you for who you are. You are entitled to your own happiness so choose to be happy always
miraculousB76
June 7th, 2016 3:30pm
Forgiveness is the key of a pacefull life. It is essential. Evereybody is at least in life in the position of being forgived...Isn't that a reason to change? To stop hurting others? Everybody should think like this. And then, the change will come.
Greatlistener87
August 1st, 2016 2:29am
The idea is to let go and know that that someone is responsible for their own happiness just as you are responsible for yours. You are not responsible for that persons happiness.
Fraz
August 2nd, 2016 6:19am
Trying to forget someone usually just backfires because we're trying to hard. It's best that one distracts oneself with work or engage in activities that one might find a passion for.
Anonymous
November 21st, 2017 12:22am
I think that it is okay to continue caring about someone. You will never truly forget about someone. But it is okay to rid that person from your life especially if the individual is not good for you. So the best way to do that is to focus on you goals in life and aspirations.
Anonymous
February 5th, 2018 2:07pm
Forgetting someone isn't easy, especially if they made a impact on you and effect you emotionally. i don't think you can ever forget. But the best way of moving forward from these set of emotions is to step back and distance yourself. With that in mind you will then be able to gradually stop feeling so emotionally connected to that person i.e when it comes to caring. Hope that helped.
plushUnicorn
April 30th, 2018 7:21pm
Give it time. Think about why you care about them so much and also remind yourself why they aren’t good for you either.
Ileair107
June 12th, 2018 4:28pm
Distance, awareness and rid all memorabilia. Distance yourself, rid all pictures, numbers and reminders. Consult your support system about this person. Be aware of why this is not a good situation for yourself, engage in things that are good for you. Things that you have been neglecting like exercise, school, work, previous interest.