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Why can't I seem to get them out of my mind?

19 Answers
Last Updated: 04/21/2020 at 12:04am
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Polly Letsch, LCSW

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I provide non-judgmental, person-centered, objective therapeutic treatment for individuals of all ages to improve social, emotional, mental and other areas of functioning.

Top Rated Answers
March 1st, 2015 7:13am
When someone is on our mind it usually means that we still care about them. It's not simple to just stop caring for someone in a snap. It takes time.
March 1st, 2015 1:46pm
You'll never get them out of your mind. All you could do is ignore them. Do something productive so you could distract yourself.
April 15th, 2015 10:44pm
because you care i you dident than you may not have had them in your mind it just shows you your worth and its very worthy if i do say so myself ^.^
April 27th, 2015 10:06pm
If you've spent any amount of time with a person, it's normal to get attached, especially if you've shared things with them that perhaps you've never shared with anyone else or you've experienced something with them for the first time. However,If this person is all you think about and it's affecting your day to day activities on a regular basis and it seems to be more than just a distraction, you might want to seek advice from a professional.
April 29th, 2015 11:24pm
You're letting them dominate your thoughts. Getting over them is going to take time. Taking control of your own thoughts is the first step in overcoming a break up.
May 9th, 2015 12:05am
Sometimes we dwell on things that we constantly think about , aren't over, and sometimes people we haven't forgiven.
June 22nd, 2015 9:02am
You miss them. They have become a part of your daily thoughts. Find new things to do and think of and your habit will break!
August 25th, 2015 5:36am
Do something else,distract yourself with an activity like reading or building a puzzle or maybe drawing.
November 10th, 2015 5:15am
You obviously care for this person alot, wither romantically or platonically. Maybe you have some unfinished business with this person that maybe u never got to say to them. If u can't stop thinking Bout them then there's only one thing to do.. And that is tell them
December 1st, 2015 3:19pm
You are probably more attached and you are not realizing what is good and what is bad for you. Just think deeply.
December 22nd, 2015 10:39pm
You are either in love or deeply infatuated with this person. Whatever it may be, you have to ask yourself "why don't i want to think of them?" once you answer that, everything else should flow naturally.
January 4th, 2016 9:45am
Moments are memories stored within the brain. This causes . what seems to be, the never ending cycle as your brain refreshes through them when your mind wanders. These memories are often interpreted as good ones, hence the ones you would miss. People also tend to want to go back and live in these moments for the nostalgic purposes, thus resulting said person to appear so often in your mind.
February 16th, 2016 6:09pm
I have heard and experienced many times the saying, "The first person you think of at night and last one at night is either the person making you happy or making you upset." First things first, do you know why they are on your mind? What thoughts do you have when you think about them. If the thoughts you experience are negative, consider finding a way to relieve this negativity such as talking to said person about the issue. If your thoughts are positive, consider a what to do as a reaction to these. Over all though, no matter what anybody says, it is up to you to make a decision or i one is even necessary. Have a great day!
June 13th, 2016 3:13pm
How about you tell me who the "them" is and, if you're comfortable, sharing your experience with the "them" and your feelings towards "them". Sometimes we just need to talk it out of our minds.
July 18th, 2016 10:19am
Focus on the needs that this person was meeting instead of the person themself and be creative in seeing how you can get those needs met in other areas of your life eg. companionship, support, love
October 11th, 2016 7:25am
How is it possible to push someone out of our mind once we have started caring for them? when that love, care, friendship we share with someone is's for forever, even when that person is not in our life anymore. But hey, that doesn't mean that you cannot move can still enjoy your life, let more people in. It's all upto you. take your time, there is no rushing this process. When you are ready, you'll know it yourself.
October 24th, 2016 1:29am
Its different for everyone but maybe you had a large emotional attachment to them or the made an important and/or changing impact on your life.
October 25th, 2016 5:28pm
bz we cant forget stuffss, we can just get use to...and doesnt care anymore at distrubed thigssssssss
April 21st, 2020 12:04am
I believe it can be caused from stress of that situation. Thinking about it can cause stress, or the situation was stressful itself. I suggest trying to face the situation head on, and trying to fix it. If whatever or whoever is on your mind, you can come to terms with it, and things can be fixed very quickly, and peacefully. But in all honesty, it comes down to you. If you are willing to face whatever or whoever is on your mind, and if you have the courage to face the struggle, even if there is some loss that you could possibly struggle with. But there will always be more strength than struggle alone. I'm cheering you on, either way, and what choice you choose.