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Why can't people love me for me?

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Last Updated: 07/17/2018 at 6:06pm
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Top Rated Answers
February 1st, 2015 2:40pm
Because most people have unrealistic expectations towards others. They imagine how a person should be like and they do not care to see who the person actually is.
April 24th, 2015 5:47pm
This people are blind, they can't see who uou really are. They are fake. The true people are comming;)
March 18th, 2015 8:50pm
People can and do love you for being you. Love is possible for everyone, including you, whether or not you believe it. You're just around the wrong people. When you find the right people who do love you, you'll know it.
June 17th, 2015 6:17am
People can love you for being you, the real people in your life will love you for being you. Forget the people who want to change you. No one should ever change you!
February 2nd, 2016 2:54pm
you should love yourself as yourself first ... and not care for others, then you will find the people who love you for who you are. :)
February 8th, 2016 3:46pm
Actually, if you hate yourself and so do other people. Why? Because you are one of the people, you are the representation of the people and you yourself can answer that if you seek within the reason why. It's all about reflection. Do you love yourself and accept all your flaws and imperfections?
February 17th, 2015 12:04pm
You have to accept yourself frist the way you are,believe and fight for it every day.You will surely get an identity for yourself.
January 5th, 2016 12:16am
I think when asking yourself this question you have to understand that, people do love you. They love you but sometimes it can be hard for us to expect that this love is unconditional. So we play games with ourselves and try to find the logic in how people can find beauty in our flaws. "You accept the love you think you deserve." Maybe, we should instead ask ourselves, 'why can't I love me for me?' To see if perhaps the problem we're facing is our own lack of self love, rather than the feeling of being unloved by others.
April 4th, 2015 12:28pm
The people who love you in your life always love you for who you are, that is what the definition of love is. But if you think some of them don't love you for who you really are then it means that they don't know you. So either give them a chance to know you or show them who you really are. Its always the people who love you that matter the most. :)
May 21st, 2015 7:19pm
So I am getting the sense that you feel that people don't love you for who you truly are. How do you sense you are being seen, what is it you feel they love you for.
September 1st, 2015 3:40am
People have a set idea for what another person should be like. Although they don't want to be judged they are always the first to judge someone else. Also, most people can't love you for you because they are so determined to fix someone .
October 11th, 2015 5:15pm
When it comes to each and every one of us, there are people who we are very compatible with and people who we aren't so compatible with. As long as you love yourself, there will be people who will love you for you, and those are the only people that are important in life.
November 11th, 2015 7:36pm
You will find the one who will love you for you. Unfortunately, it takes time for people to find the one.
December 29th, 2015 6:16pm
People can be jealous. Or they may just think that you can be better, than you are. They can or could have seen an image of thereself, instead of you in their head (mostly images of your family)
May 24th, 2016 8:06pm
People can't love me for me because they find perfectionist and I am surely not a perfectionist. So people don't move me.
August 1st, 2016 7:38am
Because they obviously don't see that you are an amazing person. They're missing out on loving you, because every person is amazing. You'll find someone who loves you for you. I promise.
July 10th, 2018 5:50pm
People always judging. But you only have 2 hands you can't closed their mouth you only can closed your ear and one day you will find someone who accepted and love you just the way you're. Just be patient
July 17th, 2018 6:06pm
hey i see all these answers and i just feel bad because its all kinda not true. why ? because i used to be in the same situation as you. i was 16 and singe, i always wondered why no one would like me but during winter of that year, i met a girl and she bluntly said out all the things wrong with me. and thats where i have to improved in myself. People always said be who you are and they'll love you for who you are but trust me, sometimes the problems lies within you. I was an arrogant person with a very bad attitude. i changed and people started seeing it, and now i have quite a few girlfriends but yea. This is the harsh truth about ourselves. Find whats wrong with yourself then justify it. This is my advice and hope you'll find that someone soon