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if you feel hurt, victimized, or bullied by someone, they are clearly toxic to you & not a friend.
Well, sometimes I got bullied at school, sometimes I did not even want to go to school, but one day, i got brave, i told them what i was going through and that i was really sick of them, it's not as easy as it sounds, it took a very long time, but it wasn't anyone's fault, if you show security and respect with other you'll get that back. And if that doesn't work, talk to a mayor, it really helps, but remember. DON'T LET ANY BASTARD BRING YOU DOWN! YOU'RE WORTH!
This, in my experience is a sad question. Ive realized that friends should not bully friends...if it doesn't stop after communication..the friendship should be ended.
That's a tough one. Try talking to them, telling them to stop etc. If they do not stop, then unfortunately they aren't your real friends. I know this may seem harsh, but you should not let them be apart of your life, as real and true friends wouldn't do that. Try and find someone who treats you well, and befriend them. Good luck :)
Two things can really help. Confidence and communication. Even if you don't feel very confident, pretending you are around others lets them know you're going to be harder to bully. Also, let your friends know that you don't like how they're treating you. Sometimes people can hurt those close to them without meaning to because they thing something is funny. And then if they don't listen, it might be good to meet some new people. Friends are supposed to support you, not tear you down.
If they are truly friends, they woudn't bully you. I've been bullied before, and from personal experience, finding people who support you and don't ever bring you down are people who are true friends!
Anonymous
January 6th, 2015 6:40pm
Distance yourself from these "friends". Try interacting with new people. Those "friends" will soon get bored of trying to irritate you and be rude when they realise you don't care.
The best thing to get your friends to stop bullying you would be to confront the situation. Use I statements and tell them how you feel. Such as, "I feel angry when you make fun of me."
Stand up for yourself. And you know the best for yourself. Hopes that help. Try it if you want to . Ty
Anonymous
May 13th, 2015 5:38am
If they are truly your friends, an honest and direct talk with them, together or separately, should suffice to make them stop. If they cannot be considerate enough to stop, when they know it hurts you, perhaps you need to evaluate if they are truly your friends or not.
Well. Friends and Bullying, in my opinion, should never be used in the same sentence. If my "friends" bullied me, I'd try to find some new ones. Friends are supposed to lift you up when you're down. Not step on you or even be the reason you are down.
If they're bullying you, they are not your friends. Tell them their behavior is not cool, and if they make fun of you or continue, stop hanging out with them.
Anonymous
April 5th, 2016 2:59pm
Awe thats a tough spot to be in, Ive been there before. What worked for me was to tell them when I feel like they are bullying me. I would say "Thats not really nice to say/do, I dont treat you like that please stop" and if they wouldnt stop then I would choose not to have them in my life anymore.
Anonymous
December 29th, 2015 6:19pm
If they bully you, they are not your friends. They are just your pretend friend, real friends don't bully each other, they help each from not being bullied. Try to make new, and better friends!
If they are your friends, they wouldn't bully you.
Change "friends" for friends. It is better to have one true friend, or even none
than "friends" that bully you.
Anonymous
June 26th, 2017 4:48pm
I am sorry you are being bullied. Nobody deserves that. If you are feeling bullied, the people who are treating you that way are not your friends. Friends sometimes playfully tease each other, but what you are describing doesn't sound like that. Tell them that their behavior is hurting you and to please stop. If they don't listen and continue bullying you, it might be time to reconsider them as friends.
Talk to them. Sometimes, friends can be harsh and not even realize it, but if they don't stop after talking to them, I personally wouldn't call them friends. If they're making you feel bad, the best thing to do is talk about it. If they are truly friends, they'll see the error and will stop. If they aren't, then it's best to not hang around them anymore.
Anonymous
December 28th, 2015 8:00am
Just be strong and show them that what they are doing just won't work but if that continues then you should complain to your parents or consuelor
You're always allowed to stand up for yourself and let them know what they're doing is wrong and hurts. Also, telling someone else (parent, adult, someone you trust, teacher, etc.) that this bullying is happening so they can help you out, whether it be for emotional support or standing up to them
Anonymous
May 10th, 2016 3:52pm
There really is no way to get people to stop bullying. But talking to an adult helps. And if they are bullying you, they ARE NOT friends. No friend should bully their friends.
tell them to stop and if they don't stand up for yourself and do something about it like tell your mom or the cops or a teacher tell someone so it can be stop from your friends bullying you!
There not your friend if they are bullying you. Your friends are not there to be mean to you. They supposed to care for you and support you. They are not your friend if the being mean to you or down talking you. Find new ones you really to let tem go. Because friends are to help you no to talk about you.
They are not your friends if they are bullying you. Find friends who wont hurt you for their pleasure. You are worth so much more.
Anonymous
August 21st, 2015 10:31pm
When it'll inevitable don't afraid it becouse there is nothing to lose for you and don't let him enjoy his bullying and stand like a stone or focus different views. Then, when he is alone in a vulnerable moment talk with him directly about your friendship's advantages. Make him talk with you and learn his problems and secrets.
someone who makes you feel bad out of malice is not a friend. If its not out of malice you should speak with them and tell them they make you feel bad.
Anonymous
December 19th, 2017 4:38am
Communication, tell them what they are doing to you and you don’t like it. Demand that they stop, it’s not something anyone should be doing at anytime to anyone. Friends don’t bully their friends. If they are your friends they’ll understand and correct they’re behavior.
Often friends banter by insulting each other, however banter is supposed to be where the person who's being joked about is having as much entertainment from the joke as the other people around them. If you feel like you're not happy about these "jokes" then you should address it to them. If they are true and kind friends then they should respect it and apologise to you for making you feel bullied. If that does not work I would suggest looking for other alternatives such as talking to someone you trust about it or maybe distancing yourself from your friends so they can take some time to think about their actions and work on being a better friend to you.
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