How do you get over the feeling that people are laughing at you?

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Anonymous - Expert in Bullying
July 20th, 2015 11:09am
Block them from your mind. If you know them, act like you don't even know who they are. If you do not know them,try to think like how ridiculous would it be for people who don't even know you in the slightest to laugh at you like they know who you are. Just walk with your head held high, like you don't care about other peoples thoughts of you, even if you care very much.
Uniqueg
April 10th, 2015 8:08pm
It's apart of life, people are always going to laugh at you, judge you, and more, the key is how you react to them.
Anonymous - Expert in Bullying
January 2nd, 2016 6:41pm
Ignore them. Do what makes you happy. Let them see you how strong you are. Make them choke in their own laughter by being nice to them. Make yourself better. Be successful. God is always with you :)
Dreeger
December 31st, 2015 7:44pm
The people are probably not laughing at you, but even if they were, so what? If being yourself is something to laugh about for other people, so be it. You don't need their approval in your life.
joyfulshoulder97
January 31st, 2016 1:32pm
usually people say.... when somebody laughs at you... or insults you..... move on... dont listen to them.... but i have a different theory.... i always say... stop... listen... understand.... and fight back..... if you dont get insulted, if you dont understand what it feels to get laughed at, you will never learn to fight (and by fight , i dont men physical fight) . when you stop and feel the insult, you feel the burn, you improve... and when you start improving, you become better than them....
kindHope67
December 23rd, 2015 12:52am
Just know that it's not your problem it's there's they are doing it because they are jealous or something
BharadwajS
December 11th, 2015 9:21am
The feeling that people are laughing behind your back is one of the worst. The social anxiety you get from this feeling is one I have been very familiar with. But there is no external solution to this problem. There is only one: Say I DON'T CARE! Whenever I feel like people might be laughing at me because of something I did, I just make up my mind and silently yell "I DON'T CARE!" If people are laughing behind your back, then that is a reason they're behind you. Just coat your mind with Anti-Gossiper paint, for best results apply 2 coats everyday.
endearingShiny21
December 10th, 2014 9:46pm
I have struggled with this one an awful lot throughout my life. I think it is good to take a step back and look at what makes you feel like you are being laughed at by others. Why are you struggling with valuing yourself on a high enough plan to know that you are good enough and that even if those people are laughing at you(which they usually are not) it does not matter because you are good enough for you and that is what counts. Also it's good to remember that most of the time other people are so busy with their own lives that they do not even notice that we are there let alone think that what they are laughing at is the downfall that we are creating in our own minds. inner voices are a powerful thing and there are many inner voices that go around telling us untruths so it's good to look for and weed out those inner voices instead of watering them and giving them power. By acknowledging "Hey that's not true voice" "I am better than that" you take strength away from those bad weeds and instead put strength in the positives that you know to be true about yourself.
smileforawhile
December 11th, 2014 1:58am
I think that this is an extremely difficult thing to overcome. Remind yourself that the people who are laughing at you are certainly not worth your time. People who laugh at you are irrelevant to your life; ignore them.
Anonymous
May 30th, 2016 2:35pm
Realize that people who drop so low as to laugh at someone else are ones who feel the most insecure about themselves. Thus, they purposely degrade someone else for their own selfish self-satisfaction. And if you respond to them, you're further encouraging them to let them control you. You shouldn't do that. They shouldn't be able to control you. You're your own master, not their puppet. Don't give them a reason to control you by feeling so self-conscious about their dirty little mockery. In fact, one important thing to notice is that human beings are selfish creatures. We care more about ourselves than about others. Those who laugh at you couldn't give a shit about you. They put themselves first which further solidifies my point about them doing it for their self-satisfaction. So liberate yourself from thinking that everyone's watching you and laughing at you because that's not true. Put yourself first, just like how they do and you shall be free.
Anonymous
January 30th, 2016 5:05am
Participate in their laughing and they wont be liking you laughing at them.. They will be like - ::O
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2015 3:36pm
Have you talked to anyone about this? Remember you are perfect and unique so they are only laughing because they are jealous of you. Love yourself
Anonymous
January 6th, 2016 6:51pm
You probably don't realize that they are laughing at you so they can make you feel down. They only make you feel down because they are getting their own emotions and problems out.
LabrynthMania
December 11th, 2015 2:42pm
Remember you are better than them, and if they are laughing at you, it's because they're pathetic and they want to upset you.
Photography49
December 10th, 2014 9:18pm
What has worked for me is, by saying "WHAT EVER" out loud, and then walking away from them, with a serious look on my face. Trust me me, those people are unhappy people to begin with already.
Anonymous
January 7th, 2016 3:01am
I try not to care what people think of me. But it's hard, and when it doesn't work I merely try and meditate. Pretend I've got an eraser. Wipe myself. It's the mind that's hardest to wipe... but when I do, I am no longer me. I am everything. Tree. Wind. Earth. And suddenly people who laugh at me aren't so significant any more.
goshurcute
December 10th, 2015 3:07pm
i try to keep my head up high and continue, i sometimes really want to cry and hide but that only means im weak when i know i am not!.
SweetTalker
February 5th, 2016 5:14am
only I do not know , the laughter of others do not define who I am .when others laugh at other people it is because they are not happy with their lives , and believe that mocking others will feel better, which of course is not true , we are all equal , have the same rights , many lives are damaged which are mocked , this has to change .
gigantWind97
December 10th, 2015 5:43pm
Try working on situational awareness. Determine whether or not they indeed are laughing at you. If so, figure out whether the action that caused them to laugh is a fault on your character, or merely their lack of maturity. Sometimes it isnt worth changing who you are as a person if the people around you are at fault. Remember that most bullies are flawed, and will use others to deter people from their own imperfections.
miraculousDreamer42
December 17th, 2015 6:39pm
i just ingor them they are jealous.and no matter what i will all ways be the better person where every i go.
Beautifulwaterfall77
December 9th, 2015 12:09am
Remember that you dont need to concentrate on others criticisms of you as you are a wonderful person.
Anonymous
January 13th, 2016 2:57pm
Don't care, everything they tell or think about you isn't your problem. Only your opinion counts in this case. Enjoy your life as you want to.
Anonymous
January 30th, 2016 12:13am
I think it is all about confidence. If you are confident about how you look and the person you are, I don't think it will matter to you who is laughing. You do not give the people the power of letting their laughs effect you so much.
Sky0
December 9th, 2015 12:28am
Hold your head up high. Don't let it get to you. Easier said than done, I know. You could laugh back at them.. :P
positiveLove82
January 7th, 2016 4:39am
The way I got over feeling that way was to learn to just deal with it. We can't dictate what others think of us at all times. Just be yourself and if others want to laugh at you and make fun, let them. Insecurities is completely normal and I tell myself time and time again, "You are what you think you are." People are people and you can't make everyone happy with you.
Anonymous
December 27th, 2015 1:30pm
I ignore them to show that they don't bother me. Because if I let them get the best out of me it only means that I'm really worth laughing at.
Anonymous
December 22nd, 2014 6:48pm
It doesn't matter who or what you were in the past, what matters is who you are “Now”. Start loving and accepting yourself. Because when you will start doing that, it won't matter to you what others think!
Anonymous
December 11th, 2015 5:29pm
Usually people laugh at me when I make a mistake or act in a weird way. There are two cases: these people have good intentions and just amplify my mistake so that everyone can laugh or these people have bad intentions and make fun of me. In the first case, I try to think of what I did objectively - I usually realize that what I did was indeed strange and that I would laugh if I saw someone else doing it. I'm aware I'm a human being and that mistakes are expected, so I laugh at myself for what I did along with the other people. Ultimately, I'm glad they feel close enough to me to comment on my behavior rather than pretend it didn't happen at all. For me, people laughing at me (with good intentions) is proof that they like me and are comfortable around me. Regarding the second case, the bad-intended people... Well, I already made my peace with my nature of making a few mistakes now and again, so I think that people who make fun of me for these, humanly mistakes are just not worth my time or attention. Ok, I will feel frustrated momentarily but then I'll remind myself that what I did is not something I should feel bad about and I won't let people (for whom I don't care) to make me feel bad.
Countrygirl16
December 30th, 2015 3:56am
Encourage myself that I am perfect just the way I am no matter what people think.......everyone is special no matter who they are or what they think of themselves...we all are different
dalya123
December 26th, 2015 11:29am
Well, you don't have to think about what they think of you, Nobody is youer than you so why do you have to care about their opinions, you don't need their approval