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My friend is always negative towards me. What do I do?

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Last Updated: 05/14/2022 at 3:18am
My friend is always negative towards me. What do I do?
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Top Rated Answers
TheReaderPig
November 16th, 2016 1:45am
People sometimes feel that they need to be better than others to feel good about themselves. They have issues to work on. However, when people use us to feel better about themselves, they usually make us feel worse in the process. It takes a lot of strength to put up with that kind of behavior and cutting someone off takes even more strength. It is scary to let go of a person who you think is your friend, but you need to understand that you come first. You are the most important person in your life. If your 'friend' is always negative towards you, they are not really your friend, and you need to prioritize whose feelings you care more about, and whose mental health comes first.
Anonymous
August 31st, 2016 8:11am
If your friend is always negative towards you and makes you feel bad about the things you do this is called a toxic friend in most cases they act like they are there to support you but in reality they bring you down with their negative energy,these sort of friends are not good for you and you need to leave them because it only gets worse.I once told one of my toxic friends that she was very negative towards me and she manipulated me into thinking it was my fault,it might be hard but leave them.
PassionatePeyton
August 26th, 2016 6:38pm
Talk to them and ask what's wrong and why they are so negative to you. Maybe they are mad at you for a reason you don't know. Wishing you all the best!
Anonymous
July 3rd, 2016 8:46pm
Leave that friend. Having negativity in your life not only brings them down, but it personally brings you down. Always find happy things in your life. Even though negativity is always all around us, find things around that that makes you happy.
Anonymous
August 19th, 2016 11:31am
Confront. accept or walk away. If there is some kind of misunderstanding between you two talk it out From my experience though, I believe the best's to cut them away. I know it sounds ridiculous, I mean, if it were so easy to cut people away, you wouldn't even be thinking twice but people don't really change. Some people don't really care about you half as much as you do about them so all we get from being with them is this depressing heaviness, anxiety about where you're going wrong, I say sit back and think about it. You'll know what to do the best and if the answer you do find sounds hard, do it. Keep strong :)
BigGreenCat
August 20th, 2016 7:01pm
You could say something like if youre always going to be this negative towards me we cant hang out anymore. Be willing to walk away from people who bring you down
Anonymous
July 24th, 2016 11:05pm
You need to stop being friends with that friend or find out what is troubling your friend and making them negative.
PlumSum
July 30th, 2016 2:40pm
During life you want to surround yourself around people are positive and if you are a friend who is negative I would not be friends with them. Obviously they don't want you to be the best emotionally!
Mahsaa
September 4th, 2016 5:16pm
Try to make them understand that you don't need tat kind of negativity in your life. Be soft tho. If they don't understand, as difficult as it is, let the, go.
Anonymous
October 23rd, 2016 2:00pm
Tell her how she makes you feel. Then, watch if she changes her attitude towards you and if she doesn't cut her off immediately. Negativity is something that you should not want in your life
shaquilleoatmeal
March 10th, 2017 4:53pm
Consider distancing yourself away from the negativity so you will no longer be in or around the negative environment.
Anonymous
September 8th, 2016 4:35pm
That is a toxic friend. No one should have to put up with negative behaviors. Remove yourself from the connection and suggest to your friend to get some help.
Talk2Heart
July 3rd, 2016 2:37am
Care. You care for them. You never know what's going on in their life unless they tell you. That's why you care for them. You have to know that something may be going on in their life that caused them to treat you this way. Gaining their trust by caring may help them open up to you so that you can talk to them, and help them out. Remember, it's not always your fault if they are negative towards you.
briana6876786
September 2nd, 2016 3:06am
they are not your real friends if they do that to and you should not hang around them if they treat you like that real friend woud not do that
Anonymous
July 14th, 2016 1:03am
Those arent consider friends. You want to surround yourself with positive people. The more positive the more you will feel happy and great,
Anonymous
March 6th, 2017 7:23am
Friends like this are known as toxic friends. Sometimes it is best for you to not have toxic people in your life, so maybe splitting ways is the answer. Or maybe you guys just need a break? Your friend might not realize that they are always being so negative, so a break and you letting them know what's bothering you about your friendship may help them change their behavior. If they don't change, then that shows that they don't really care about your friendship enough and you should probably end the friendship even though it's always sad to stop being friends with somebody. Sometimes it has to be done to make you happy. Your happiness matters over anybody else's.
LoveIsLife94
April 26th, 2018 9:45pm
Sometimes people can be negative because there are issues going on in their own lives. If you haven't already perhaps have a talk with them and ask them if they're okay. Sometimes people just need someone to ask if they're okay. If they continue to be negative after then it may be time to rethink the friendship.
SebaGhanem
April 19th, 2018 7:03am
We sometimes hurt the people we love without even noticing. Try to talk to her about it, and if it doesn't work try to distance yourself a bit from her, negative people sometimes effect us in the worst ways possible. Stay safe.
Bluewolf1229
December 9th, 2016 12:48am
If a"friend" is always negative i dont consider them a true friend. A friend build up up does not push you down. its a two way relationship. A Friend that put me down i would never talk to again
unaayrus
August 25th, 2016 5:36am
well i my opinion... leave them... you don't need toxic people in your life.... let then go or tell them to stop...
skylerraber1234
August 11th, 2016 4:32pm
Friends are people that should be your shoulder to try on so, if your friend is always being negative maybe consider the fact maybe you need new friends. Now, before ending a friendship try expressing your feelings using "I" messages. If they still want to be negative just walk away from them and if they want you back in their life then they will come find you. You can't change them and make them like you all you can do is be the best person you can be.
HeyItsEddie
June 29th, 2016 11:40am
Try talking to them, and let them know how you feel, but do not accuse them. Make sure that you aren't around anyone you don't trust and tell them exactly what's up. I'd advise against doing it on social media as they can use what you said against you. If they are being really abusive and awful, tell them and walk away, ther's not much you can do. Stay positive x
Freeurself
October 12th, 2016 7:04am
You should always let go of negativity. If one is continuously negative towards you, they may have issues in regards to themselves and the only way to express is to take it out on the closest people around
awesomeSoul43
August 14th, 2016 9:05am
Try and turn her negativity against her and turn it into something positive agree with her and turn whatever she/he said to a positive way
Anonymous
September 10th, 2016 3:49am
Confront your friend and tell them how you feel about their negative attitude and impact towards you. Don't feel afraid to talk about your problems.
MissMonMon
August 20th, 2016 11:57am
You can confront your friend and ask then why they are so negative towards you. Friends should be supportive and understanding. If you feel uncomfortable or stressed around them, maybe look for another friend. Find positivity within yourself and try not to let other people's negativity get you down.
XsetarehX
August 27th, 2016 9:44am
If your friends arent supportive of you then they are not your friends. You should surround yourself with friends that support you.
iamkimo
December 20th, 2020 5:42pm
Set boundaries. Do not tolerate any disrespect or negativity from anyone regardless of whether it is your friend, family, boyfriend, colleague, etc. You need to be confident, sit down with them, and openly communicate about what is concerning you or what she or he is doing. If you think they they are being a bad friends towards you, I would take a step back from them or even cut them off. Yes, it will be painful and hard but you will have this rewarding feeling afterwards. You need to remember that they are supposed to be on your side, they are supposed to uplift you, not bring you down. Respect yourself enough to walk away from people that don't respect you. You deserve to be happy without having someone bring you down.
campfiremarshmallows27
August 15th, 2016 8:36pm
Try and ask them if they are ok, maybe they are being negative because they are unhappy about something. Maybe they disagree with something you are doing and are trying to be supportive. If they are simply being rude and unfairly negative and you have checked if they are ok, ask them why they ar treating you this way.
amane03
July 22nd, 2018 10:30pm
A true friend is never negative towards you. They would have no reason to be if they were. Ask yourself "are they really my friend if this is the only way the behave towards me for no reason?"