How do I stop thinking about being insecure about my weight?

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Last Updated: 07/17/2018 at 11:24am
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Banven
April 10th, 2015 3:08pm
I’m overweight. I’m tall so that helps, but yes, I am overweight. For the record I’m 6’2” and currently over 17.5 stone (245lbs). So yeah, big and some would say fat. I’m insecure about it, sure I am, who wouldn’t be? I wont take my top off, I hate swimming for that reason. But, then I think, who really cares? People think I’m fat? So what? I personally don’t want that guy with the six pack to think I have a nice body, I’m not interested in him! Everyone is insecure though. To think only overweight people are insecure is daft. Is anyone on the train to work thinking, “look at that guy, he’s so fat”? Maybe, but probably not. I don’t go through my life thinking about other people. I dress well and act confidently, people see past that. If you dress like a fat slob, people see you as a fat slob. If you dress well, people see that you dress well. I still get hit on by girls when I’m out, they don’t see the mass of fat under my clothes that other people see. So I pretend it isn’t there. When it gets to the point where I feel so insecure, I diet and exercise and I lose weight. Then I feel better, then I put it all back on! What I’m saying is, it’s fine to be insecure about yourself, most people are. Just don’t let it ruin or run your life to the extent that it gets you down.
Uniqueg
February 18th, 2015 11:30pm
Figuring out what will truly make you happy, whether it's accepting your weight or deciding to lose weight, either way if fine and up to you. Based on your decision set goals to make your decision a reality. Even if you lose weight your mindset may still be insecure so you have to set goals for having a better image of yourself, because losing weight won't make a difference if your not mentally happy and stable.
dreamUnicorns25
March 7th, 2016 6:53am
It isn't always easy to stop being insecure about your weight but think about it this way, everybody is different, if we were all the same it would be boring. You are perfect the way you are, you don't need weigh more or less to like you body. Just think, some people would die to have you body hun. Stay strong!
SingingWolf
January 5th, 2016 7:49am
Well I am over weight and deal with this quite a bit. What I do is find an outfit I feel comfortable in or a pamper my self a bit, for example Taking a bubble bath, doing my nails or using a face mask.
charlieboo96
April 5th, 2015 2:52pm
Weight insecurities are horrible to deal with,the media has made many people both male and female feel insecure about how they look the best advice is to stay healthy,Exercise eat right and just keep telling yourself you are.beautiful just as you are,instead of pointing out what you hate about yourself try finding out what you like about yourself and work on making these stand out!
Anonymous
January 19th, 2016 5:38am
Just remember you are beautiful inside and out. It doesn't matter about weight. What matter is brains and a kind heart.
Anonymous
June 17th, 2015 7:13pm
Unfortunately you can't just stop being insecure. But you can stop focusing on the flaws of your weight, and focus on the upside.
theforestfawn
September 8th, 2015 6:19pm
Self love and body positivity! Once you learn to love your body, you will realise that weight is simply a number and nothing else. You are not made up of that number; people see you in your smiles and personality and I promise you are beautiful. Tell yourself that in the mirror every morning with a cheeky wink ;) I hope one day you will see that, and learn to love your body.
Athena86
September 15th, 2015 8:17pm
As someone who is obese, I know this feeling of insecurity well. As cliche as it sounds, coming to love who you are and understanding that your outer appearance is not the most important thing, will strengthen your personal self "core." Whatever happens to your body after, is what it is. Being happy with what's going on inside will give you the power and freedom to feel happy regardless of looks. I've always said I'd rather be obese than dull and/or rude. :D
HelpinhHand2021
September 21st, 2015 11:34am
You are perfect being you! Don't worry what other people think! Be self confident and strut your style like you are a boss, because you are! You are beautiful no matter what!
kermberly12
October 26th, 2015 10:54pm
well you should just not worry about it because almost everyone has this same problem and people look beautiful just the way they are and who cares about what people think about you like just live life and have fun and stop worrying about your weight
BeFair
September 29th, 2015 12:37am
Start doing light cardio (20-30 minutes a day). Even if you stay the same weight, the exercise will help you feel 10 times healthier (=sexier).
Anonymous
July 25th, 2016 9:11am
If you are feeling insecure about your weight and the doctor has confirmed that you need to lose some weight. You should try and lose weight for your health. If the doctor says your BMI is fine. You don't need to be insecure as a medical professional has confirmed that you are healthy.
Phoenix326
July 11th, 2017 9:58pm
We can help ourselves to overcome insecurity when we choose to ignore and focus on the things that make us beautiful. Not on the things that others may see as flawed.
Laura56
November 21st, 2017 5:20pm
This is something that so many people think about. (Perhaps keep this in mind, know that people are often thinking more about their own weight and don't focus on yours) You could also research 'body positivity', which offers a completely different view on bodies. A very positive one.
Anonymous
May 9th, 2018 8:16pm
I have the same problem, I feel like I cannot go places with certain people because others are skinnier, but no i just embrace it, you only live once and what’s the point in spending your life thinking about what others say about you? there’s no point in wasting your life so just live it to the absolute fullest and have no regrets x
BlankaM
July 17th, 2018 11:24am
Being insecure about body weight is a very sensitive and deep rooted issue. It may root from bullying, family upbringing, expectations and social media representations. Plastic surgery of all kinds is very popular today and are intensely advertised as the answer to insecurities - but this isn't the case. Insecurities thrive from within, experiences and embarrassments we might have had, and we interpret our own reflection in the mirror differently. Your mindset, whether it is positive or negative determines the way you perceive your body weight and unfortunately many people doubt their own self worth and beauty. Once you are confident that you do not need to meet anyone's beauty standards and expectations, you will experience peace and love for your body, no matter your appearance. This is a long and often hard process, but the results are immeasurably liberating!