Should I change the way I act or dress to avoid being bullied?

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Aleespli21
May 27th, 2015 5:45am
You should never feel the need to change the way you look or act. It is your own personality. Those bullies do not know what is good for them, nor do they know how amazing you are.
positiveSummer89
July 6th, 2015 5:45pm
No you should no change the way you act or dress to avoide getting bullied I was bullied for the way I dressed but I realized the friends should like you for who you are not how you dress or act.
Matt5698
July 21st, 2015 5:45pm
Hell no! Don't let society tell you how to behave! In particular, the media. Unfortunately, we now live in a world where the media tells us, what to think, what to do, what to say, how we look. Imagine if there was no media, how would you like to look. Thats the best style, its a unique style, suitable to you. Who was you before the world told you who you was?
ams96
January 11th, 2015 4:02pm
No. You shouldn't change yourself, especially if you are comfortable and like yourself the way you are. The best revenge towards bullies is to ignore them. They want a reaction, they want to see you react in some way - and the best reaction is no reaction. Don't change yourself so others accept you. :)
Anonymous
February 8th, 2015 4:36am
I don't think you should. When I was bullied, I very quickly tried to conform to the way those who were hurting me. It didn't change the way they acted. It only changed the way I felt. I felt dirt, for I was no longer true to who I was and who I wanted to be. I didn't get rid of any of the bullies. In fact, by denying who I really was, I ended up bullying myself.
Anonymous
June 7th, 2016 9:52pm
Accept no one else's definition of life for yourself.....create your own ! Changing into something u dont want to be.. will only let them bully you more !
Neversaynever613
July 11th, 2017 2:18pm
Be you. Don't let others change you.
sunnyForest44
May 1st, 2018 3:09am
No, the way you are is the way you are. Nobody should have to be someone they aren't just to fit in.
Anonymous
April 26th, 2015 2:01pm
No, your peers should accept who you are and if they continue to bully you, find new friends. People shouldn't bully you for being yourself.
braveIris99
April 30th, 2015 11:00pm
Absolutely not.no amount of suffering is worth the sacrifice of your identity and style.there are far more practical and less damaging solutions to bullying.(teachers,school transfers,parents ect)I understand it's hard to go through that but you'll only feel worse after losing your sense of self.(you'll feel drained out of place,diluted and fake)
Anonymous
May 24th, 2015 9:52pm
If you, want to change the way you are, do it for yourself, don't do it because other people want you to, or pressure you to. To get the bullying to stop, you could tell someone that it is happening
Anonymous
June 3rd, 2015 9:03pm
If you lose your individuality, you lose yourself. You are unique! You are you for a reason. If there are some who can't accept you for who you are, don't worry about it! Move on to those who do.
Chelsdeanne93
June 29th, 2015 10:23pm
Absolutely not. If you enjoy what you wear, then you should wear it. Report the bullying; do not change who you are.
Anonymous
August 4th, 2015 6:32pm
No because you're perfect the way you are! Why should you change who you are just so you can be another one of them? Be yourself because that is more interesting than being the same as everyone else! Don't change yourself, be yourself. People should accept you for who you are and if you do get bullied, tell someone about it! There are always people willing to help.
Anonymous
August 10th, 2015 3:38pm
I wouldn't, from experience this can end up with you getting bullied even more, it's a tough one. But I hope this helped.
Jay9816
August 11th, 2015 8:55am
Absolutely not! Be you! If you are being bullied it is because they have problems with in themselves, even if it doesnt seem like it! NEVER change for someone else no matter what they say (as long as you aren't physically or emotionally or verbally hurting others or yourself)Be you, because no one else can do it better :) stay strong :)
Anonymous
October 26th, 2015 8:50am
You should change not because of bullying but only when you want to.Dress in a nice and stylish way just to feel confident and attractive.This will give you a power and it will be easier for you to go and and tell evil people what you really think about them.Don't cry and ask them to let you alone.Act as if you are their boss,mock at them and they will gradually respect you!
Resonantia
October 26th, 2015 2:39pm
The way you act or dress may be what started bullying, but it won't make it stop. Never be afraid to be yourself, no matter what who that is. Go to a counselor or other authoritative figure for help, if you encounter bullying.
Anonymous
December 28th, 2015 12:11pm
ABSOLUTELY, COMPLETELY, TOTALLY NOT, you don't have to change how you act or dress for people you can't make THEM Change YOU
ListeningEmily
February 1st, 2016 12:49am
Not at all! Bullying is a result of other people's insecurities! Why does that mean you should feel bad about it?
Anonymous
February 9th, 2016 2:47pm
This will be tough, but when you reach the finishing line it'll all be worth it. Be proud of who you are. You can change the way you think, feel and react to bullies. If you really think about it, bullies are everywhere. Even bullies have their own bullies. However, when you're honestly content with yourself, no bully can affect you and you wouldn't need to worry about avoiding them. Like I said, not a easy trip, but definitely worth taking that journey. Talking from personal experience here. All the best to you my dear!
Anonymous
May 23rd, 2016 5:29pm
You should always be able to be yourself and you shouldn't have to change who you are in order for people to respect you and treat you as an equal.
Anonymous
June 13th, 2016 10:01pm
You should never change the way you look or act just to avoid being bullied. I personally think that the way you act and or dress makes you who you are. Why should you change who you are for someone else's approval or just so that they wouldn't bully you anymore? If the bullies are bullying you for how you act or dress, this shows that they don't have an form of maturity to think about their actions.
bouncyKiwi10
September 26th, 2016 9:38am
No. You DO NOT have to change yourself just because others do not approve. They wouldn't care anyway. All you have to do is be Brave, Courageous and Stand up for yourself. Better tell the higher authorities. Just because they threaten you doesn't mean you are going to abide by them (Bullies). It's you who should be willing to help yourself :) That's when bullying stops.
DonaldK
September 27th, 2016 12:16am
Oftentimes we feel like we need to appease everyone, and look a certain way. Bullies like to pick on us for many different reasons: how we dress, how we look, how we sound. My point is that you should not change yourself just to avoid being bullied. Being bullied is tough I know because I'm physically disabled, I got stared at a lot over the years. The question is not "should you" but "why should you have to?" The way you dress is a extension of you if you close an extension. How will they know you? :-) Please be yourself!
lovelyLynx82
October 24th, 2016 5:55am
No. Changing yourself will only create negative feelings for you. It will make the bullies leave you alone for a little bit, but the bullies will return. Remember a bully is someone who is hurt and broken, they don't want to be fixed they just want everyone else to be broken.
Anonymous
July 3rd, 2017 3:11am
No, you are who you are. You can't change that. Try to ignore anyone who thinks you have a bad style or way of dressing and point out that's their opinion, not yours.
KingAaron84
March 6th, 2018 6:06pm
No! You have to be comfortable with who you are. If you let this bully change you know then you will change for people your entire life. Stand up and be yourself!
dazedonlife
January 15th, 2019 10:57am
You should not have to change your self just because your being bullied, That is the one thing i have learnt, Its a harsh lesson, but stick true to yourself, I dressed differently and acted differently which in result ended up with bulling, I'm out of school for 2 years now and i see those whom bullied me , They pass no remark or say nothing, Because my life has nothing to do with them anymore, They grow out of it, When you are young you are finding out who you are, They are doing the same, just don't let them kick you down