Why do I always react so victim-like to bullying?

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Anonymous
January 24th, 2015 2:57am
I think its a natural instinct that most of us have, because if we act victim like then people will help us. I do it too sometimes and i think most do. But bullying isn't good and if you are getting bullied you technically are the victim, but how you act about it is up to you.
PinkElephantL
May 13th, 2015 6:49am
Bullies use intimidation tactics to make their victims feel embarrassed, fearful, and weak. The intimidation tactics used by bullies on the schoolyard or in the workforce is no different than the intimidation tactics used by abusers and terrorists. They use the same propaganda and mottos (such as "isolate the victim," "embarrass the victim," "make the victim feel responsible for their own abuse (harass and call them names, tell them it’s their fault)"). Their tactics make you feel like a victim and so you react like one. They use physical and psychological torment to keep you under their thumb just like abusive parents and spouses.
McHappy
April 10th, 2015 8:13pm
Because you want the attention u have had it all this time and now u will miss it thats what ur used to u make up lies to make it look likeu are being bullied
Anonymous
July 31st, 2015 3:11pm
It's a natural human response; fight or flight. Being the victim is part of the "flight" response. Not to say you should fight the bully, but perhaps treat them how you would like to be treated. When a dog barks at you, you don't bark back - don't lower yourself to the level of the animal.
olimaar
October 26th, 2015 6:16pm
I act like a victim to any sort of bullying myself. It's mostly because you seek attention. Knowing the bully victims get attention, you act victim so you seem more innocent and likable.
Anonymous
November 17th, 2015 3:55am
Because you are the victim! Bullying is not okay and it's perfectly fine to be upset about it. But don't let it bring you down. You have to be strong - don't let anyone make you feel inferior. You deserve much more than this, and if people are disrespecting you, be sure to tell someone you trust.
Eliise
December 7th, 2015 10:51pm
Because when bullying happens, it makes you FEEL like a victim. Remember that most of the time the ones who bully might be the biggest victims themselves. Feel compassion instead of hate!
Anonymous
June 6th, 2016 8:21am
because I believe that bullies can be victims of bullying that does not know how to handle it that is why they release it to others. I don't like bullying simply because we fight different battles in life, we walk in a different pace. Some may not understand the burden that is on our backs or the scars in our body... I hate people getting bullied for their appearance, their weight, their status in the community and so on because if you try to think about, if we strip everything from you, your luxury and titles, you would see that we are all human beings and I don't see why people can't see that
Anonymous
July 25th, 2016 8:38am
You are the victim. If you've been bullied you are the victim. You may react victim-like because you feel that you were mistreated. Your question should be what have I learned from my bullying experience and how will I ensure I am not bullied again?
Anonymous
November 8th, 2016 5:57pm
Have you been bullied during any part of your life? This can sometimes differ the way you react to bullying a whole subject.
goldeneyez
January 15th, 2018 4:24am
Because, being bullied means you are a victim. Bullying is not okay, and it's okay to feel that way. Don't let bullying make you feel smaller than the bully. You are stronger.