How do I leave a toxic relationship?

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Anonymous
June 21st, 2017 9:48pm
Have a mantra, stop all contact and know your value. If someone isn't helping you grow as a person walk away.
scenicwindow
February 7th, 2018 10:09am
For starters, by realizing that you deserve better. Loving someone just isn’t enough if you aren’t receiving the same love in return. The time you waste on the wrong person prevents the right person from coming your way. Stop waiting for your partner to change. Change has to come from within; it can’t be forced. Only then do things have a chance of working themselves out. Consider this when nothing has changed despite many promises may times over. The third logical step would be to follow up the aforementioned by learning to let go, which may be the hardest step of all. It's never easy to, but you will have to, for there is no other recourse out of the toxicity. Accept that It will hurt. A lot. That pain would be the way to gain the changes needed to be brought about in your life, to move on. Take time off to recollect and regroup, if need be. Take things slow, baby steps at a time, to healing. It's all so worth it,in the end.
electricDreamer95
July 27th, 2016 4:36am
The only way to leave a toxic relationship is to cut off the toxic partner completely. It's difficult to do but well worth it. A relationship should add life to you, not suck the life out of you. Love is selfless and giving.
Anonymous
January 1st, 2017 8:44am
Get help from family, friends, a therapist, or any kind of support system you can find and lean on them to make this hard transition of leaving a toxic relationship. It'll be very hard and the grieving process may blind you to the bad experiences you had with this person, but remind yourself in the moments when you miss them about the bad they brought to you. This will help you continue to move forward in moving on to finding someone better and healthier for you.
gigantEars69
May 13th, 2017 12:09am
Quickly. Talk to friends and family that can offer support and that you trust. Is you have none of those then go to a support group, they exist for this. Know that it won't be easy and that's ok, you are there for a reason and you will experience loneliness after it's over. That's ok, you will grow. Then make a move. Leave or tell the person to leave if you live together. Let them know this is over and know that you owe no one an explanation. Explanation in toxicity is just not productive. Head high, make your end known and then stick to your resolve. Remind yourself it was toxic and find ways to be ok with lonely sometimes
Shiba260
August 10th, 2017 9:24pm
Leaving a toxic relationship is difficult and a scary situation especially if your partner is abusive or controlling. First, you must come to terms their behavior is no way acceptable and it's not your fault they hurt you. The best thing to do is to have support from your family members or friends so they can be there when you break it off with the person so no harm can come to you, and if you live with the person then ask to stay at a family members/friends house and block the abuser's number and on all social media. If they keep harassing you afterwards you might want to file a restraining order.
aeris156
October 12th, 2019 9:03pm
source: someone in my life who was in an abusive relationship. first, you need a game plan. do you live with them? if so, where will you go? do you have friends or relatives that you trust and who aren't connected with the person you're in this relationship with? can you talk to them? do you need to go to a shelter? do you have a bag filled with your necessary belongings if you need to leave quickly? if you have these details sorted out, go. engaging with the toxic person might make things worse. usually, communication is really important, but if you're in danger than this is an exception. once you're out, please seek professional help if you're able to. you have been through a lot, and having professional support can go a long way. best of luck
PaleRose12
July 9th, 2016 8:02pm
When leaving be confident and explain why he/she is not good for you and say that this is the right thing to do right now.
LovableGeek16
July 20th, 2016 2:45am
It may hurt and you may cuss yourself but you have to grit your teeth and focus on what's best for your mental and physical health depending on the situation. Its hard and it's raw and painful but you have to do what's best for you.
mayodibari9
July 24th, 2016 4:22pm
The first step is realizing that you are in one and that your happiness and peace of mind comes first. Seek help if you have to but you really need to confront that person and talk to him/her.
bravesmiles101
July 24th, 2016 4:58pm
You start by gaining some distance from your partner/relationship and seeking out healthy friendships you have.
Redtiger01
September 8th, 2016 7:06pm
Be strong and trust that you're making the right decision because you are. Tell yourself that YOU are in control and you don't let anyone make your choices for you.
Nats1011
September 16th, 2016 2:03pm
Leaving a toxic relationship is a huge and a very relieving step in your life,you stand up and make yourself heard don't be overshadowed by all the strings attached,you're strong and i love you and you can do it!
moonriverwiderthanamile
September 17th, 2016 10:12pm
Okay. It is never easy to end a relationship, but first of all you have to be aware of how you're feeling. Do you feel happy? If the answer is no, you already know what you have to do. I know that he/she/them has changed and that you miss the good first honeymoon days while believing that they could come back any minute now, but you are the only person you'll have to always deal with even in your grave, so the minute you do something that doesn't give you happiness or satisfaction at any point you have to put yourself first and leave it. If possible, try to talk the situation with your partner because they not be even aware of what they're doing, and declare that you are leaving and never coming back. Then, walk straight forward and don't ever look back. Have a few days of disconnection, cut every contact you could have with that person.
Hayles0111
September 21st, 2016 10:03pm
To get out of a toxic relationship you need to be harsh with yourself. Admit that it's damaging you. You need to put yourself first. And remind yourself that it's for the good of your own future and the safety of yourself and others around you.
Anonymous
September 30th, 2016 10:31pm
Its important to remember, in a relationship YOU matter equally. First step to leave a toxic relationship is to recognize it first. Second step is to stand up for yourself and your happiness.
TetDaath1
February 12th, 2017 12:44pm
Just quit and never look back. It's great that you are aware it is a toxic relationship and if you want out, go on. Quit it. Save yourself and you'll thank yourself later.
realmpr
March 15th, 2017 7:16pm
If you are aware you are in a toxic relationship you have already taken step one to leave it. Think about what you deserve, think if this person is bringing more harm than good, and make a decision, talk to this person and end things, don't go back or give this person a chance to hurt you again.
HeartyHeartfelt
April 13th, 2017 3:37pm
Make a checklist. Is it safe for me to leave? (Then, when or how can it be safe?) Will s/he allow me to leave? (If not, can I convince them? Is there a better time to?) On a scale of 1 to 10 how is my wellbeing? It helps to show yourself tangible information that you have to leave. Also, know if it's safe for you to leave. Make a strategy and please call domestic violence or relationship hotlines for help. Or, if you know anyone who is absolutely trustworthy, discuss a plan with them. Take care.
Anonymous
September 15th, 2017 6:14pm
Just walk away and never look back. There are 627822829299291991 people in this world, you'll find the one who deserves you soon enough!
JaydenIsHere
October 9th, 2017 8:47pm
Stay at a close friend or family members house. Block off all contact, do not tell them your whereabouts. Keep yourself safe and do not go back.
EspritDuKaren68
May 2nd, 2018 3:18pm
The best way to do it is really to just do it. You can always just leave a note saying you can no longer do this and leave peacefully without adding to the drama. How brave you are for considering to make this important step in seeing that you deserve better! Bravo!
Anonymous
July 10th, 2016 10:08pm
If you think it's hurting you and you tried fixing it but still doesn't work out than you should just talk to your partner and let them know how you are feeling and just tell them that you are not happy anymore.
Anonymous
August 7th, 2016 10:47pm
The best way to leave a toxic relationship is to lay down the law and say it straight and offer no loopholes for them to grab. Say we are over and do NOT listen when they beg for you back if you must block that person file them out of your life and most importantly accept that you can do better and be treated better and you deserve the best.
Other
August 10th, 2016 6:50pm
Get help from an outside person you trust, they will stand by you and help you recover afterwards. Family is a good idea.
Idahobuttrfly
August 13th, 2016 4:29am
Although it may be hard to leave a toxic relationship, the best thing you can do is just wake up, pack up and walk away. It is going to be better for you in the long run.
Anonymous
August 20th, 2016 4:02pm
You could get friends help, and do it in a public place. Bring someone alone maybe. There are also helplines on here if you want to check them out.
sereneDreamer45
September 2nd, 2016 9:26pm
The first step is understanding that you deserve to be treated better. Accept that you cannot change who your partner is, understand that the best thing you can do for both of you is to leave it. If they truly loved you, they wouldn't make you feel this way.
Anonymous
September 8th, 2016 8:13am
Break away. That is the best you can do for yourself. Call the crisis hotline or a friend and loved one for immediate help if you are in danger or stress. No one deserves to be in a toxic world.
Anonymous
September 9th, 2016 1:54am
Just be calm about it. Make sure you don't come across rude. Make sure they understand what your needs are.