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How do I deal with my family not supporting my choices?

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Last Updated: 03/15/2022 at 12:07am
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Top Rated Answers
Brittneym101
June 15th, 2015 7:05pm
If you are an adult you have to do what you feel is best for you and what makes you happy not what your family or anyone else wants to see. I'm sure that they love you, but it's not up to them anymore it's time for you to spread your wings and fly. If you are a child depending on the choice it may be best to do what your parents think is best since you are still a kid and underage.
Anonymous
September 5th, 2015 4:53pm
I will just try to explain them the reason for my choices, and I will also try to understand their point of view. Cause they are my family and they love me so if they don't support my choice there must be a proper reason for it..
Greatlistener87
December 4th, 2015 1:47am
Family is many people all under 1 roof with different heads and thinking. Everybody will have their own opinion. Most important always remember that the person that is gonna leave with the choices you made is you and no one else.
Anonymous
December 7th, 2015 11:06pm
I usually just keep on going despite I don't have there support I follow my dreams because to me that's what matters most
Anonymous - Expert in Family Stress
February 10th, 2016 12:49am
There will always be disagreements when it comes to life styles. The best you can do is educate them on why you've chosen this path, find a compromise or agree to disagree.
Anonymous
June 28th, 2016 8:42pm
Thats a really hard thing to deal with, i think you should find friends who do support you and hang out with them to make you feel better
Anonymous
July 18th, 2016 2:29pm
Ii will feel a little bit upset but i will take some private tome to think about it once again because my family just wanted the best for me so i have to convinced them.
Anonymous
October 24th, 2016 3:36pm
I still do whatever I have decided because in the end, no matter the effect will be, its still my life. And I have the ultimate control over it. Not my family
Anonymous
February 20th, 2018 5:47am
Just show that you respect their opinion, but own the right to make choices for yourself. It's your life and you don't owe it to anyone - own your right to choose :)
aCaringMistake
March 15th, 2022 12:07am
Talk to your family, try and understand their concerns as to why they don't support your choices. But, you have to understand that you have to live your life, they are not going to live your life for you, you have to do what's right and make the most out of it. There is a quote that goes "Fit on your own oxygen mask first, You're no use to anyone if you're running on empty. Caring for yourself first is the best thing you can do, in order to help others. It isn't selfish or egocentric, just really good advise." So to summarise - You got to set boundaries with your parents and make them understand that this is your life, you don't have to be mean to them or cut them off completely, you just have make them respect your ideas and choices in life going forward.