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My dad likes to touch me. Is this sexual abuse?

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MarkD
June 13th, 2016 3:53am
Sadly, the majority of sexual abuse happens from people you know. What makes it *abuse* is that it violates your boundaries, and makes you feel uncomfortable. Do you feel uncomfortable by the ways your father touches you?
HelpWisely
August 5th, 2016 8:40am
If he is touching you in inappropriate places like your boobs, your private parts, kissing you passionately on your lips as well as touching your stomach and neck in an unnatural manner then it's definitely sexual abuse and you should report this to someone who trust or a police officer.
enhledoll94
June 12th, 2016 2:04pm
It depend on which part does he touch you.i mean like we cant just say it is while we dont know how he touches you
helpfulhannah19
June 15th, 2016 1:27am
If someone touches you unwillingly, and in a way that you feel uncomfortable, then it is considered sexual abuse. I am sure you probably feel hurt and invaded. There are many support groups that you can join that will provide you with more insight on this.
CariHope15
July 6th, 2016 8:18pm
It depends what you mean. Does he roughly do things to you? Does he hurt you? What does he do when he touches you?
Anonymous
June 16th, 2016 12:14pm
Yes! This is definitely sexual abuse. No one should touch you in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable.
Anonymous
July 21st, 2016 3:11am
If he touches to far up you leg, on your vagina, on your butt, on your boobs,etc. That's sexual abuse
Anonymous
March 13th, 2019 12:31am
Since you have not explained in what way or ways he touched you, I would have to assume. Firstly, I am sorry for whatever you're going through. I could only imagine what it must be like, having someone that's suppose to protect you, someone who's supposed to be there for you doing such a thing. Before I can answer this question, we must know what the term "sexual abuse" means. According to Wikipedia, "Sexual abuse, also referred to as molestation, is the undesired sexual behavior by one person upon another. It is often perpetrated using force or by taking advantage of another" So if your father touches your private parts or touches any part of your body in a sexual way, then yes. I would, therefore, recommend you talk to someone in authority. Preferably a trustworthy person. Don't be afraid if you suspect sexual abuse and please do not take matters into your own hands (i.e revenge) instead, let the relevant authorities take care of this matter. I wish you all the best.
Anonymous
July 9th, 2016 10:25pm
Honey you must know there are different kinds of touch a kiss or a hug or things like them are not sexual touching ! But if he is touching private parts of your body no normal dad do that ! U must stop him from doing that and ask an older person for help u in this situation!
StudentSeng
June 25th, 2016 7:31am
It depends on what it is for. If he touches you to show care and concern or when you're anxious or nervous, that's perfectly fine. But if he touches you for no good reason, and if instead of calming you down it makes you feel uncomfortable, it might be sexual abuse.
Anonymous
June 12th, 2016 2:29pm
I think it really depends on where. If it's usually around your chest or genital area,then that could be considered molestation and you need to tell someone you trust that this is happening
Anonymous
June 12th, 2016 3:03pm
Any unwanted touching that you feel crosses a line is sexual abuse. Contact your local DHR office or someone you trust and tell them what is going on. No parent should touch their child in a way that makes them feel uncomfortable.
Anonymous
February 15th, 2017 5:06am
it depends on how your father is touching you. If you're feeling uncomfortable with the way he is touching you tell him.
Anonymous
June 11th, 2017 5:05am
It depends on what kind of touching. Any touching in your private areas is considered sexual abuse.
blueswallow
June 14th, 2016 12:37pm
If anyone is touching your body in a way that you do not want them to, that is wrong. If asked to stop they ought to stop. This is true for a parent as for anyone.
bestWinter85
June 15th, 2016 3:55pm
This is harassment. Telling an adult such as a mother or somebody trusted at school could stop this issue and help you get better.
Caringheart23
March 29th, 2018 9:31pm
It depends on the part of the body he touches you and even if it's on appropriate part you need to feel comfortable with it. If he hugs you or just hold your hand, maybe touch your hair and you're comfortable with it, it's okay. If you're not, you need to tell him cause he just might not realise. But if he touches you on inappropriate places, it's a sexual abuse and you need to tell someone. It's not and not easy thing to do, but no one deserve to be a victim of this kind of a behaviour.
plushUnicorn4912
July 1st, 2020 8:27am
It depends where and the way he touches you. If he hugs around the shoulder, holds hand, gives a pat on the back or on the head, nudges you with his elbow, that's fine, it's just fatherly. If the way he is touching you is like caressing you and feels sensual and you feel really uncomfortable, it is a form of sexual abuse. Like a spank on the but, or his hands around your waist isn't okay. Sexual abuse isn't necessarily him touching your sexual parts, it's him touching you inappropriately and you feeling uncomfortable. If he's touching your private parts, it is definitely sexual abuse.
Anonymous
June 24th, 2016 5:19am
This depends on where he touches you. If he is trying to sexually stimulate you or himself, then yes.
AlexanderOvercame
December 8th, 2017 1:55pm
It depends where he is touching you. If it's a brush on the shoulder or a pat on the back no. But if it's your breast, bum, or vaginal area, yes
UtopianMidgardianSanctuary
June 29th, 2016 4:58am
Sexual maltreatment is touching a minor, inappropriately for the intention of personal sexual gradification.
callmefia
June 18th, 2016 10:41pm
If your dad touches you in a sexual manner or in places that you consider private, this behavior can count as sexual abuse.
Laks1
August 5th, 2016 9:30pm
It depends on how your dad touches you. If your dad touches you at delicate and private places where he shouldn't touch as a man, then its wrong for him to do that. Also if you are uncomfortable with your dad touching you too much, it would be best if you let him know
sereneNarwhal18
August 11th, 2017 12:42am
Well I guess that would depend on "how" your dad is touching you. If it feels inappropriate or uncomfortable then you need to tell someone. You should speak to a trained professional at the sexual abuse hotline and discuss your concerns. They will help you to decide what you need to do.
Anonymous
April 23rd, 2017 1:50am
If you don't like it or say no and he keeps doing it, then yes. Seek help immediately to stop this behavior or try telling him to stop. Please don't let this continue if you don't want it to happen. Best of luck.
smileimfine
June 22nd, 2016 3:07pm
Yes, it is. It is inappropriate for anyone to touch you without your permission. You have a variety of options. You can say something to a trusted adult, or say something to your dad. I know none of this is easy. If you need to talk through this with someone use the live chat and they will connect you with a listener. You can also choose to talk to me about it. I am sorry this is happening to you. We are here to listen.
Mandyhaswifi
July 20th, 2018 6:59pm
Well consider asking yourself this: does it make you uncomfortable? Family members often show affection but if you believe that your dad is going too far express your discomfort.
AlexDiogenes9494
June 19th, 2018 11:04pm
It can depend. If you dad likes to give you a hug after they get back from work, that's probably not sexual abuse. But if he touches you in your bikini areas, or in any way that feels in appropriate, that may be more like sexual abuse. Reaching out to others for help can be good to get an outside perspective.
carefreeFlamingo31
April 19th, 2017 2:39pm
It depends on how he touches you, if it feels like a grabby, rubby sort of touch in areas that you think is sexual or even just on your arm or something, it could be sexual abuse. If you don't consent to him doing it, then it is most likely abuse of some kind. One of the best ways to find out would probably be to ask your mum or a trusted adult. If you're female, you'll probably feel better talking to a female and for a male it would likely make you feel better to ask another male. I hope this helped!
Anonymous
June 21st, 2018 4:08am
I think that you should talk with some responsable adult who was confident and you feel comfortable and tell him or her about this, that person can help you more than i can