In my early childhood I grew up in a dysfunctional house hold. However now my parents have been able to mend there bond but I haven't. I'’m always angry towards them, what do I do?
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Anonymous
March 1st, 2021 2:34am
It's harder for us to let go of the past as the children of dysfunctional homes. The trauma of an early childhood is something akin to the ultimate betrayal by our primary caregivers. The relational and developmental issues we are saddled with are entrenched and far harder to overcome than the failure of a romantic adult relationship. It is not an easy task, but to forgive one's parents is the best possible outcome. Forgiveness, in this instance, is not forgetting but rather understanding. The circumstances that lead to our painful childhood were preceded by the traumatic upbringings of our own parents. Often we are blinded by this betrayal and only recognise, recall and react to the hurtful instances in which we feel we were not loved correctly.
It is not always the case but mostly, our parents did the best they could. Even when the best they coud do was objectively or subjectively not enough, to recognise your parents as not only human beings but damaged children themselves, frees the whole family from anger and resentment.... In my opinion :')
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