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My mother has to much control in my life, she has control of my money, friends, emotions and etc. I'm lost, what do I do?

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Last Updated: 04/11/2022 at 2:05am
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Top Rated Answers
SarahF3
March 10th, 2020 7:25am
You should try to talk with her and put boundaries, and if that doesn´t work, you will have to leave and try to take your own life control, but for that you might need a plan before, about where to work, and live, so please be careful and patience. Living with control freaks parents can be worse for our emotions than how we think, and it can have consequences to carry on the future. It´s not bad to leave a place that is not giving you happiness and a healthy life, you´re not a bad person for wanting to rebuilt your life choice by yourself.
Anonymous
June 22nd, 2020 3:15pm
Show your mom that you can be trusted when she is not around. Start with something small that she is comfortable with you doing. Talk to her, help her understand how you feel. A mother has so much love for her child she is afraid of all the “what if’s”. She wants to protect you, shield you from pain and suffering. With time you can show her you have matured and can take on more responsibilities. Show her you can make good decisions when it comes to money, you can choose the good friends. You are your own human and have your own emotions. You’re allowed to feel differently and handle things differently. All done in a mature way.
Anonymous
April 11th, 2022 2:05am
I think a good way to solve this is good communication. Then, slowly and gently set a boundary with her. It sounds like she is a little bit overbearing, and the only way that's going to stop is by setting a boundary. She might not even realize she's doing these things too, so the best way to try and solve this is through open-ended conversations and boundary setting. Plan what you are going to say beforehand to avoid sounding accusing and causing conflict. Try setting a few boundaries here and there until you get to the point where you are fully in control of your life.