what do you do when you deal with family stress?
Last Updated: 06/01/2021 at 4:21pm
Christie Belle, Master of Arts in Marriage and Family Therapy
I am a U.S. Air Force veteran and a ex-Army spouse. I am a divorced mother of two teenage boys, my youngest son has a diagnosis of autism, which I am very passionate about.
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I talk to friends about it. I read and escape into another universe. I go for walks and appreciate nature. Sometimes I deal with the stress head on, and talk to my family about what they are doing, or about the situation which is causing chaos in the family. It just depends on the situation.
i just keep on trying to understand them , i always think that it will be fine soon and i pray for the better .
I vent! I find that getting it all out in the open (even if it's not with the person(s) stressing me) lets me get some great perspective on the actual problem at hand. Often in explaining the problem to someone uninvolved helps me find a solution. In programming, it's called rubber ducking.
Well, at first I go off by myself for a bit and try to calm myself down. Family stress can really get to me sometimes and mess with my emotions. Then once my mind is in a clearer state, I try and talk to my family. I want to be as clear but also as polite as possible so that they understand why I am getting frustrated. Then I listen to why they are frustrated at me. Then we try and get on leveled ground to hopefully fix the problem.
First, I deal it by myself. I listen to music, read a book, or watch a movie. After I feel rational again, i try to point out what stresses me, and what I can do about them. If it's a family member, I try to talk to him or when I feel logical. If it's an event, then I try to rethink of other ways for it not to affect me or at least minimize its effect.
I try to think of things from everyone's perspective, then come back to the situation. If you're feeling stressed over something, chances are someone else is too. It's important to keep everyone in mind and make sure your opinion is heard too.
Remind yourself that those who mind don't matte and those who matter don't mind. Sometimes the ones we love the most, and the ones that love us the most, put pressure on us because they just want us to be the best we can be. Other times, they pressure us into doing things we don't want to do and being someone we don't want to be because they think it is best. Let them know that you want to be who you want to be, and it is your life. You have every single right to live it how you want to, and that their opinions of you are important but can never change who you are.
I just think that they're neither right nor wrong. Not even parents can read minds in a perfect way.
Family stress can be very overwhelming. It is good if once in a while you can give yourself some space to take a breather.
I find that writing a story or poem about my feeling can usually relax me and put everything into perspective.
Family stress is a very broad topic and it depends on who is experiencing the stress--the parent or the child--and toward whom. When I was younger I dealt with the pressure, fighting and abandonment from my parents by remembering those special days we were all really happy. I remember them not to feel bad that they dont occur anymore, or long to have those days again, but to remind myself that these are still the same people that love me and that i had those wonderful times with.. That they are different only because of current circumstances.
Talk to people to try and let out some of my stress and have a better understanding about how my family might be feeling
I find a few people I can trust who I can talk to about it, whether they be friends or other family members who might be outside of the situation. I think it also really depends on what kind of family stress it is: does the stress involve multiple people or only one person? I think if the stress was just dealing with one person, then I would probably just sit that family member down and talk out the issue to try to work through it for the good of the family.
I mostly listen to music, take a long bath, distract my self with online sites like this one or youtube.
I journal any stress that comes my way. Then I reflect on it. Sometimes if it's too much for me to handle, I just simply walk away from it.
I try to take a deep breath and put myself in the best mental state to work through the family stress. It can sometimes be difficult to work through your emotions when it is a situation so close to home. If I'm not able to work through it on my own, I may try to reach out to a friend to either get an escape from the situation, or to get advice from a friend. It can be helpful to talk to someone and let things out rather than keeping things inside and feeling isolated by these feelings. Hope this helps someone.
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