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Why does my family always fight?

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Last Updated: 08/16/2016 at 2:07pm
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December 28th, 2014 2:19am
Sometimes families fight, just because they are family. Love for one another can even be a factor! And it's completely natural for a family to fight every once in a while. However, if they are fighting more than usual, it may be time to sit down and talk about what could be causing these fights. The best way to help things get better is to talk about them in a calm, loving manner. Remember to stay safe. If your family's fighting becomes too much, myself, and so many others are here for you. Stay strong xx
December 2nd, 2014 10:08pm
Communication can be hard, for everyone. Sometimes, we react to people without taking time to consider a) how they're going to take what we say, b) if we're saying something helpful to the situation or just reacting to something they've said because we're in the space, and c) if what we're saying is fair to them. It is important to treat family members with respect, and ask to be treated with respect in turn. Family members have the potential to be your best friend, but everything is a journey. It important to be understanding of others, as much as it's important for them to be understanding of you.
January 8th, 2015 7:07pm
Everyone has different views and this might lead to conflicts. It's our ability to deal effectively with conflicts that will make us become more tolerant and enlightened.
December 22nd, 2014 2:31pm
It's natural for people who live together and spend a lot of time with each other to sometimes disagree and lose their tempers. Remember, even people who love each other fight sometimes. And just because they fight doesn't mean they're going to stay mad for long or that they're going to get a divorce.
December 1st, 2014 5:24am
My family always fights because of lack of communication and understanding. It does not help that I speak a different language. But my clumsy attempts to frame a sentence are often enough to help lift the mood, and allow everyone to move on. Effort pays off, every time.
January 2nd, 2015 2:53am
A lot of times, there are underlying issues in arguments. Maybe one or more people involved are struggling to maintain control over the other people. Or, perhaps strong opinions are based on ignorance or anxiety. Look for the underlying issues. Addressing those might help.
April 15th, 2015 4:23pm
Your family might be fighting a lot for various reasons, but a lot of it can stem from stress and tension, and even lack of communication. It is best to sit down all together and address the issues you all feel are happening around the house, and come up with a good solution.
August 1st, 2016 5:42am
Sometimes people fight because they care. It may be hard to believe but its because they care about what the other thinks or does that they argue about it.
August 16th, 2016 2:07pm
it's not your fault they fight. Some parents get along better than others, and that's okay. Everyone fights, my parents do it too, and it can be a but distressing but your parents really do care for you and they will always be there for you. They make not seem like it, but they love you. And if you ever feel sad, just talk to your parents about it. They'll try to understand and try and fix it.