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How do I know if I am transgender?

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Last Updated: 11/06/2020 at 8:15pm
How do I know if I am transgender?
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Anonymous
August 15th, 2015 2:44am
You are who you are. No oncan tell you otherwise. You just know seep inside. Like I knewI was transgender because I just did. Explore options ask professionals and you will know.
Lior
August 15th, 2015 7:33pm
Well you can try to ask yourself: Do you feel your body isn't the right for you? Do you identify with the opposite gender than the one was given to you at birth? Although these are two big questions not easy to answer, the thinking about them is rather necessary to understand.
Maxwallride
August 16th, 2015 11:35am
Discovering that you are transgender can be a very confusing and challenging time. Someone that is transgender will feel like their gender does not match the body that they were born into. For example, if a transgender person was assigned female at birth, they will feel like they are not a female and instead are male, or nonbinary. They may feel that what they see in the mirror does not match who they really are on the inside and might feel very distressed over this. They may be uncomfortable being called by their birth name and when people use she/her/hers pronouns when referring to them. They may want to transition towards being the gender they feel they really are. This means that they may take steps towards changing their appearance, name, pronouns, and other aspects of their life. A female who feels like they are male may feel a lot better by binding their chest, adopting a male or gender neutral name, and asking people to refer to them using he/him/his pronouns. If someone has a feeling they may be transgender, it may be helpful for them to talk to a healthcare professional who works with transgender people, and read about the experiences of others. It could also be beneficial to experiment identifying with the gender they believe they are.
Jenniferroseh98
August 16th, 2015 1:36pm
Research what it means to be Transgender and then if you find you are seek medical advice for the transitioning stage.
MusicalVision
August 16th, 2015 8:20pm
Well, that question can be answered only by you. Do you feel like being transgender? Are you comfortable being one? Are you questioning your gender identity? Try to explore yourself and you'd know the answer. Good luck sweetie
Anonymous
December 12th, 2015 5:19am
I knew 100% when puberty set in, but I had always felt a disconnect between my biological sex and my gender. It's different for everyone so it may take some time, but if you feel like you were "born in the wrong body" than you may be transgender. The term "transgender" is an umbrella term, meaning it's a group of people from biological males who identify as female, biological females who identify as male, biological males or females who identify and as neither, both, or even an entirely unique gender. It just depends on who you are and how good you are a recognizing red flags.
veronicahaunani
December 13th, 2015 12:18am
I am gender fluid. And, I think I always knew but did not have the words for it until a few years ago. I just felt like being a woman was an act or charade I put on. And, being a man was kind of a show too. I think when we are allowed to be truly free, we do not adhere to the promoted gender binary as much as we think. It is more of a spectrum than a pendulum. I think gender is one of those illusions that society treats as a static reality. So, the question becomes how do we all accept our somewhat transgendered truth?
Anonymous
December 14th, 2015 1:04am
Transgender people obviously feel as if they're another gender. It's a lot different from being just a "tomboy" or "girly" because you can enjoy things the opposite gender does. Trans* people experience dysphoria which is a terrible feeling and usually want to transition. If you think you're transgender, search up something about the different genders and find whatever fits you. If you don't know now or are just curious, that's okay. You define who you are, no one else.
Anonymous
December 17th, 2015 11:38am
If you are a girl, you might find yourself wanting everything a boy has and wearing everything a boy does and just feeling like you are in the wrong body and you were meant to be born a boy and not a girl.
birdwatcher444
December 18th, 2015 12:39am
Transgender people are born the way they are. Sometimes feelings of being the gender opposite from their assigned sex is present in childhood, but other times it isn't realized until late teen years or even mid-adulthood. If you are curious about your gender identity, it is good to read up on the subject and be informed before making any decisions. There is a large community of transgender people willing to help you decide who you are. Best of luck, and stay strong!
beautifulOcean
December 18th, 2015 10:01pm
I suppose it's one of those things you eventually come to terms with. It's not something that I can tell you that you are, or are not, it just is you. I know some of my transgender friends finally just came to terms with who they are since they had a feeling they were for a long time until they finally accepted that. Overall, it just takes time for you to realize, it's not something anyone can say is true or is not.
Anonymous
December 19th, 2015 1:21pm
It depends on how you feel. Are you sure you belong to your gender? Do you feel happy? Are you better off being another gender?
Sharada
December 24th, 2015 2:46pm
While there is no foolproof way to know if you are transgender, there are some pointers. if you feel like you were born in the wrong body, feel uncomfortable being addressed by your sex, or basically just feel like your gender and sex don't match up, you might be transgender. You can talk about this to other people who are going through/have gone through the same, they will be able to answer any questions you may have.
Greatlistener87
December 25th, 2015 3:54pm
If you find a same sex person attractive and you do almost everything as an opposite gender then you might be a transgender. But to be sure do talk to someone that can help you to clearly identify whether you are or not a transgender.
StormyAngles18
December 25th, 2015 8:23pm
you usually know just by heart. You feel inside you aren't who you are on the outside. Its not something u figure out really its something you know in your own heart.
SparklingPlatypus
January 1st, 2016 5:20pm
I'll describe how I found out I am transgender: When I first heard about transgender, I somehow started to identify with the concept of not being female. (My sex assigned at birth is female, by the way) I started to explore myself, observing my reactions when I was refered to as a girl or female creature in general and realized I hated it when people called me "girl" or "woman" or anything like that. After a long process of thinking, comparing my feelings with already existing gender identities, I finally decided to call my self 'agender', which means the lack of gender. I hope this was more or less helpful. If you have any questions, I'd love to help you finding out your gender. Feel free to message me and I'll reply as soon as possible!
calmingCat38
January 2nd, 2016 12:52am
Well most transgender people feel that they dont belong in the body they have. Its like they got the wrong body.
tatertott
January 2nd, 2016 4:21pm
Generally people who are transgender (like myself) experience gender dysphoria, the feeling of being disassociated with your body and often you feel like you want to be more feminine or masculine but It really depends on you.
GentleSoul13
January 7th, 2016 9:09pm
Having the feeling that you are a male living inside a woman's body, or a woman living inside a males body, is a very normal feeling, but could also mean that you are possibly transgender. Take your time to be open with it, but also be open with yourself about how you are feeling.
Plank0fWood
January 8th, 2016 12:03am
I have known for quite some time actually. Its hard at first because you'll try to convince yourself otherwise, but eventually, it hits you, you cant hide it. You'll try to make deals with yourself "If I could just cut my hair, or wear certain clothes." Its easy to realize that if you're constantly jealous of kids around you for being able to wear what they want to, maybe you should look into getting help about it.
CaseyC
January 9th, 2016 2:24pm
Being transgender is defined as having a sense of one's gender not coinciding with one's sex assigned at birth. Therefore, if you don't believe you are 100% your sex assigned at birth, you are, in one form or another, transgender.
33kirstiechu33
January 10th, 2016 7:49pm
You will feel like a (Insert different gender here) born in the wrong body. You can still like things designed for your sex.
Crest
January 14th, 2016 3:25am
Do you feel at home inside of yourself? The answer should lead you somewhere. (I don't need 100 characters for this.)
kittenguts
January 16th, 2016 11:11am
You are transgender if you feel like you really are born with the wrong gender, eg. if you're very uncomfortable when someone calls you by the pronouns assigned to you at birth. Please note that you are not transgender if you 'just kinda feel like being the opposite gender wouldn't be as bad', neither are you trans if you, as a girl for example, don't really like dressing and acting all feminine.
Anonymous
January 16th, 2016 4:16pm
Well.... First know that the world is changing so you will be full excepted by the greater majority ! Second ... What makes you free most comfortable and know you should not make this decision quickly, and just choose what makes you feel happy !
Anonymous
January 21st, 2016 10:31pm
If you are a boy, but you feel like you want to be a girl and you don't feel comfortable being a boy, you might want to start thinking about being transgender.
JoyfulShoe
January 24th, 2016 10:30am
I don't think there is any correct answer, but just use the pronouns/dress/cut your hair the way you feel comfortable!
blanket7
January 30th, 2016 11:41pm
If you feel that your assigned gender does not define you and you feel that you would rather be defined as a different gender.
Anonymous
February 5th, 2016 9:29pm
If you feel as if you were born in the wrong body, or you might feel differently as in gender.......
Anonymous
February 10th, 2016 1:15am
A step in finding out if you are transgender, can be contacting transgender people, and talking about their experiences, to try and find out with you identify with them in that sense.