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I don't want the same things other people do. Is there something wrong with me? Am I broken?

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Anonymous - Expert in LGBTQ+ Issues
December 9th, 2014 6:05pm
Nope and nope, despite how much other people may tell you otherwise. Society tends to do this thing where it says "This one thing is normal and everything else is wrong!" ignoring the huge numbers of people who don't fit that so-called 'normal.' Normal is subjective -- what's normal for you isn't normal for me. That doesn't make either of us broken. We're just different people. Only you can decide what you want. It might feel isolating or discouraging sometimes, but you may find that doing what you want can lead you to the most inspiring people you'll ever meet.
April 5th, 2015 12:54am
No you are not broken! you are just different :)
December 13th, 2014 4:04pm
No, you're not broken, honey :) We all want different things out of life; you should never be made to feel broken because your desires differ from someone else's. We are here to enrich our minds and hearts as much as we can in the amount of time we are given; your job is to go out and find what fulfills you. Whatever that is. Carpe diem. Go out and live your life the way you were meant to; you have a beautiful mind and you deserve to nourish it with your personal brand of happy.
September 8th, 2015 8:46pm
No, absolutely not. Just because you don't want the same things other people do does not mean something is wrong with you nor does it mean you are broken. We may all be people, but we are all different. We have our own minds and we each make different choices. There is only one you, and you are the best you that you can be!
December 24th, 2014 2:42pm
You're not broken! Not everyone wants the same things, I've personally always been a little different from other people but I've recently found people that like similar things to me and that's really great! You should know that there is always someone that will like similar things to you and it's great to be different!!
December 19th, 2014 4:23am
No. It is okay to have different things you want, and just because others want things you don't doesn't make you bad or broken or less than other people. I know that can be hard to believe, and it can be really hard and painful to feel alone and like no one else feels the way you do. Perhaps, it may help to seek out communities and people who feel similar to you (which can be hard to find, but... the internet is a vast and wonderful place).
January 2nd, 2015 9:30pm
Of course you're not broken! It just means that you have a different set of values than the people who are currently around you. You can disagree with each others' needs or wants, but still be loving and supportive of one another. Additionally, there are so many types of people in the world that there are very likely others who have similar goals or ideals to you.
July 21st, 2015 12:04am
No, you are not. It just means you have a different mindset. Nothing wrong with that! I believe it is a good thing to be different!!
August 10th, 2015 7:49am
No way, you're you own person. Feel free to like whatever you want to like. It's your life & we can't always go by what other people would do or want.
- Expert in LGBTQ+ Issues
August 13th, 2018 11:28pm
It's totally ok to be who you are, even if you are different from others. What people call "normal" actually just means "most common", not "right" as opposed to "wrong". Even if your desires are uncommon, it doesn't mean they're wrong. Just like artworks, what makes humans so beautiful is that we are all unique, no one is exactly the same as the others. Whatever your differences are, they are something to be proud of, because they make you who you are. The only thing that is wrong for people is not respecting everyone and not treating people fairly, this is the only thing people should feel wrong about. All the rest is just you, your uniqueness, your desires, your right to be happy in the way you want to.
December 9th, 2014 2:52pm
No you are not. You are an individual, gifted with your own personality. Let no one else influence you to change yourself.
December 9th, 2014 4:51pm
NO! Of course not!! It means you're different from other people! It means that you are unique and not a cookie cutter follower!! Break away from expectations and pave your own path :)
December 10th, 2014 8:04pm
I don't think that wanting different things than other people makes you broken. The things that you want make you unique, and being unique is something to be celebrated. There's definitely nothing wrong with you!
December 17th, 2014 8:45am
There is nothing wrong with you! Everybody is different and that is what makes the world such a wonderful unique place! If somebody tells you that what you are feeling is "wrong" just remember that that is not a fact, that is their opinion.
December 29th, 2014 8:49pm
I DON’T think there's something wrong with you because you don't want what you have been told you should want. You are not broken for wanting things that others don't want. If we all wanted the same things what would be the point of having so many ice cream flavors right? And if it applies to flavors and smells, why can't it be applied to other things too? The point is, that it’s okay to want something others don't want just keep in mind that if it involves others you should always seek for consent.
April 3rd, 2015 2:36am
You're not broken, each of us is a unique individual with different wants and needs. The key is finding out what works for you, not everyone else.
April 11th, 2015 5:23pm
Of course you are not broken! Everyone wants and likes different things, that is completely normal.
May 24th, 2015 6:24pm
I used to think like that. No, you're not broken. You're just different. When I was growing up, I realised that I like women instead of men in a mainly heterosexual society; I felt like I was a disappointment and that something was wrong with me. It caused years of depression, even thoughts of suicide; when I finally accepted it, it was like magic. I could be myself, and I could be happy doing what I wanted to do, when I finally stopped caring so much what others would think and realised that I'm not broken. So there's nothing wrong with you. You're perfect, just the way you are. :)
May 30th, 2015 5:46pm
There's nothing wrong with you. We are all humans and we are all different. We do different things, we like different things and so on. You don't have to be like others. You have to be original.
May 31st, 2015 3:33pm
no not at all. Everybody has different preferences. we're all unique and special in our own way.
July 6th, 2015 9:36pm
We are each our own person. Not everyone was built to desire the same thing that is what makes each one of us unique
October 6th, 2015 1:26am
Not at all. You are you and you are completely different from everyone else. Just because you want different things doesn't mean you're wrong or broken. It just means that you're you.
January 5th, 2016 2:29pm
No you are not broken. And thinking different is not abnormal... its juss thw way you are. And life wont be fun if all humans did he say thing and followed the same thing.
February 9th, 2016 2:14am
No, everyone is unique and beautiful in their own way, there is no reason to ever believe you are broken.
July 11th, 2016 7:51am
Everyone is different in their own ways and thats what makes us interesting. It will be boring if all of us were the same and wanted the same things.
September 13th, 2016 11:10am
Often, what we think "everyone else" wants or does or experiences is not reality. Just what is pushed by media or popular culture. This is a very broad question, but you are not broken. Maybe on one far end of the bell curve, outside of the average, but not broken or wrong.
October 18th, 2016 10:07pm
There is nothing wrong with you. If you don't want to have sex or make out with anybody, then that is fine.
December 6th, 2016 12:10am
Absolutely not. You are uniquely you, and because of that, you may have some different desires in life that others may not have. That doesn't make you broken - rather, it makes you unique and special!
April 3rd, 2017 8:46pm
No, there is nothing wrong with you nor are you broken. There's nothing wrong with not wanting what everyone else has or goes through. It means you're caring about yourself and that you deserve better and all. Nothing wrong with that. You will find better for yourself and you will be happy.
July 24th, 2017 8:20pm
Everyone is different. I know that sounds horribly cliche, but it's true. You are allowed to want whatever you want. You're allowed to be your own person. There is nothing wrong with you for that. You'll find the people who enjoy the same things you do. You are not broken for being different.