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How do I stop feeling so isolated?

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Last Updated: 06/10/2022 at 7:17pm
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Anonymous
April 26th, 2020 6:05am
During this time, it can be difficult not to feel isolated not only from friends but from the world. A way to stop feeling isolated is by trying to stay connected with the people you care most about through text messages or even facetime. No matter how isolated you feel, try to stay connected with people in order to engage in conversation and have stronger friendships. Other things that you can do to avoid feeling isolated is to try to keep yourself busy whether it be listening to music, playing video games or it can even be watching television.
scarletDrum22
May 8th, 2020 8:57pm
It can be hard, but the best way to feel less isolated is to reach out to people. If you can tell them how you're feeling, talking about it is very helpful, especially since so many people can relate to feeling isolated. Having a conversation with a friend or family member you trust will make you feel less alone, and they can help you come up with a plan so you can regularly connect with them. If you're not there yet, you can just reach out to a friend or family member and talk about anything-- how you're doing, hobbies, homework. Most people want connection, it's just hard to initiate, so reach out!
Anonymous
May 22nd, 2020 9:15pm
I imagine the faces of people I love smiling at me. I also try reaching out to family or friends (even ones I have not talked to in awhile) to check up on how they are doing. One thing that helped me greatly when I felt isolated was thinking about my goals in life and taking on new tasks that gave me something to do and feel less lonely or bored. Another way I felt less isolated was going on anonymous penpal programs where I could send letters to people from all over the world and discover new cultures and ways of life. This made me feel more connected and increased my knowledge on the diversity of our world.
Kishafullington22
May 27th, 2020 9:52pm
Maybe you can try to go out more often, try to make some friends, or visit place you know you will like, try picking up hobbies, try to at less have a long conversation with someone, try your best to not be alone so much, go to activities, it may seems weird at first but you will get use to it..maybe try talking to some of your friends again or just try your hards to cut of the habitof wanting to be alone so much onces you have accomplished that every thing will go just fine..just keep trying go out
CountlessWishesL
June 25th, 2020 1:05am
This is a very broad question which may require further information, like what behaviors do you act on that make you feel more isolated, when do you feel most that way? I believe that reaching out to people that you are already friends with can help, but if they are unavailable, making new friends or chatting with people here on 7 Cups may help you as well. If you go to school or work, you could reach out or ask others to hang out, make plans, or ask for a phone number if they are interested as well. Sometimes feeling "isolated" can involve people who are around you, like at home, or at a party or social event, but you still feel utterly alone. Other people, including myself, have been in that situation. I think that finding people who truly "get" you or seek to listen to how you're feeling could help. I hope that answer helped you.
SmilesToSmile
July 9th, 2020 10:28am
You could try to remediate the feeling of isolation by connecting with people online - friends, family, interest groups that perhaps you haven't explored before. You can also go old school :) and write real letters - whether to people you know, or as part of a penpal/postcard swap. This could help you feel more socially connected. Alternatively, start loving where you are - I don't mean that in a simplistic way, but try thinking of tasks or activities you could do to improve where you're living. perhaps there are chores you've put off, that would give you a sense of accomplishment and provide more ownership of where you are, which could help reduce the feeling of isolation. You could try cultivating a plant, or, if you have a little space (which can be as small as a patio/balcony), even a little herb or veg garden. Gardening provides a connection with nature, and can help ease negative feelings- it can be very therapeutic. I hope some of these ideas provide you with some inspiration and thought material :).
Anonymous
July 22nd, 2020 3:48pm
if I have to give you one advice that is highly effective ( from my personal experience ) is to participate in summer camps thus you meet new people experience new stuff and for that period of time you re surrounded by a lot of people from whom you re gonna learn lots and lots of skills you can also get active exercise is great for keeping you well and less stressed, but have you thought about it as a way to meet new people? You may not be able to join an exercise or sports group at the moment, but you could start researching by doing a Google search or sending the organiser an email. In the meantime, going for a walk or run with someone can be a great no-pressure way to connect.
Anonymous
July 24th, 2020 1:24am
Programs or strategies that tackle social isolation and/or loneliness may help improve physical and mental health, social support, and loneliness in older adults. Programs or strategies appear more likely to be effective when they are group-based, built around theory, include active input from participants, and target specific groups of people. Past research shows that the inclusion of social support/activity or education as part of strategies aimed at reducing or preventing social isolation and loneliness is also important, but newer evidence pushes that strategies focusing on changing negative thinking may be even more beneficial for loneliness specifically.
StarhawkeMystery
July 29th, 2020 10:00am
Loneliness is not quantified by the amount of time we spend alone, but rather by how we feel about the time we spend alone. Cacioppo defines loneliness, as “perceived social isolation, or the discrepancy between what you want from your social relationships and your perception of those relationships.” Feeling lonely can trigger thoughts that we are unloved or unlikeable.Loneliness is not quantified by the amount of time we spend alone, but rather by how we feel about the time we spend alone. Cacioppo defines loneliness, as “perceived social isolation, or the discrepancy between what you want from your social relationships and your perception of those relationships.” Feeling lonely can trigger thoughts that we are unloved or unlikeable
Anonymous
July 31st, 2020 11:35pm
For starters maybe you need to ask yourself why you feel isolated in the begging and why you are doing so… has something bad happened? Did u not find people who are similar as you? Etc I understand you might be feeling anxious and maybe even sad and it must be really hard I went through something like that before but you always need to ask yourself why and what you really need and see how this helps maybe you just didn’t find a place that matches your personality and how you go it’s different then what you usually go to
AfroLatino1959
August 5th, 2020 10:18pm
Reaching out to friends, and family. Tapping into your personal interests. Finding a hobby, even doing some volunteer work. This Pandemic has caused a lot of isolation. We have some great resources on line that will help with feeling not so isolated. Finding chat rooms on line with topics that interest you. Getting out of your comfort zone. That is huge. Trying different things with help you combat that isolation. What worked for me was helping others. It got me out of my head not worrying about my stuff all the time. Get out of the house take a walk, or just drive your car for some fresh air.
Anonymous
August 16th, 2020 3:04am
During quarantine, it can definitely feel like you're being forcefully distanced from the rest of the world and your friends. It often helps me to call some school/work friends and check up on them regularly, contact family members through various communication outlets, and frequent activity on social media. If seeing the outside world isn't working, sometimes it can also be good to take advantage of the isolation. Turn the negative word "isolation" and look at it in a much more positive way, seeing it as a time for individual growth. Mental health is a tough thing to deal with, especially when you have to worry about going out and interacting with others. Take this time to develop different calming exercises to help you when you're unable to isolate in a later time.
lunaalistens
August 16th, 2020 7:36pm
surround yourself with things you love! if you can't be around people, take the time out of your day to figure out what you love. once you figure that out, notice all the things around you that you love! it could be your favourite pillow or even your favourite fidget toy. recognize that there are many things around you that comfort you and help you feel less isolated. it's better to notice all the good things in life so that you know that you don't always need a big group of people to make you happier! but don't forget, you are loved and people do care about you.
Anonymous
August 22nd, 2020 10:33am
1) Find your hobbies and engage in it - Baking, Drawing, Reading, DIY, Cooking, Working out, Digital art, Knitting, Coding, Pottery, Jewelry Making, Learning a new language etc. 2) Find your goal and dream. Evaluate how are you going to achieve it. - it can be going to university with scholarship, traveling to a country 3 years later, knowing how to cook, able to draw like the artist you admire of. 3) Force yourself to take care of yourself - Healthy meals, hygiene/skincare routine, excising, etc. 4) Reconnect your old friends and families. If you don't have any of them, try volunteering or just being outside. 5)Embrace what you feel and your feelings are valid. 6) Trying out new things - dish(Brazilian, Japanese, Georgian, Russian, Malaysian etc), beverage(tea/juice/beer/etc), new genres of music/books/movie, new salt scrub/skincare routine/bath bomb/face mask etc. 7) Reduce your usage of social media such as Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Linkedin. It often leaves you feeling like you have not achieved anything, you have no friends, you are not dating with anything, etc. Stay away from social media and start doing your things.
kat101love
August 29th, 2020 6:35pm
Are you involved in any clubs? Try looking for groups that are around you, or social events to attend and meet some new people. You could try and reconnect with old friends, or, if you can't meet in person- facetime//zoom call them. You can do fun activites over calls like paint, workout, or just talk :). Maybe try some volenteer work. It will help you feel like part of the community and you will be helping people in need. That also gives a sense of accomplishment. Try a new hobby. Look up some of your interests and see if anywhere around you provides classes. Then you can meet people who think similarly//have some things in common with you (ex- pottery, book club, acrobatics, yoga) Hope this helps :)
colorfulFireworks7866
August 30th, 2020 5:44am
it is normal and common to feel that way. some things i do to stop feeling so isolated is to get active, go for a walk or do a workout or something to distract yourself and to keep your mind healthy. Another thing i do is write down my feelings and thoughts and i feel like that helps me understand more and i find hanging out with my dogs makes me feel not as lonely and distracts my mind. But just to let you know your not lonely and they'll always be people out there going through the same thing. hope this helped!!
Anonymous
October 14th, 2020 9:43pm
By asking this question I believe you're well on your way to connecting with someone. The first few steps are the hardest, and you've done so much to come here to seek an answer to this question, so I want to start by celebrating this achievement! The subcommunities are a great resource if you're interested in creating connections with people who have similar interests. Or, joining regularly occurring group chats might be a good place to start. You can also message Community Leaders for additional support or for help navigating the resources 7 cups can offer. Outside of 7 cups, you might be surprised how much good a regular walk outside can do!
randomme101
October 24th, 2020 12:00pm
It must be hard feeling isolated especially when that feeling's new to you. We sometimes feel like we are alone even if we are with others or in a crowd. We feel like we don't belong there at all. But sometimes, we feel this way because we often try to be someone we are not. We try to fit and hide our true selves. Perhaps if we can only find the confidence to show who we really are, we wouldn't feel isolated. Also, try doing things that truly makes you happy it'll be hard but it'll be worth it.
littlekangaroo99
October 29th, 2020 8:29pm
I found it best when I wouldn't try to not feel isolated. As stupid as it may sound the less you care about it the more relaxed you are going to be and the better you will be able to engage with others. That being said it won't be benefical to just not care at all. In the meantime you can focus on the smaller steps towards your goal to not feel isolated anymore. You can practice your social skills like speaking louder and clearer, making eye contact and smiling more. That will make you more aproachable so that it will be easier to get in concat with new people and reconect with friends you might already have.
Sentriase
November 19th, 2020 5:03am
Embrace the world. Go on strolls and explore the neighborhood. Explore around parks and places that have lots of people. Hop online and play a game or join a discussion of your interest. Entertain yourself and provide your opinion to communities. Share what your personal experiences. Ask for advice or even give advice to people. Think about those you care about connect with them as much as possible. Help those in need. Travel around the world and learn about different cultures. Visit animal shelters and make a friend. Bring happiness to those that need. Create your own community online by sharing a common interest.
HelpfulCam2000
November 21st, 2020 9:54pm
The best way to feel less isolated is to reach out someone who you think cares about you. It can be anyone from a teacher to a parent to a friend, but usually just reaching out to them and letting them know you are struggling can start a conversation. Other good ways to feel less isolated include reaching out to people you might work with or go to school with and just seeing if they need a friend. Sometimes the best way to have a good friend is to be a good friend, and being a good friend always starts with listening. Engage people on what they like or ask them about themselves and pretty soon you will have made a friend.
CupidtheKingofLove
December 2nd, 2020 1:02pm
Try to distract yourself. Listen to music or read something or watch a movie. You know even in a group you can feel isolated too. And it hurts badly. So what we can do is that keep ourselves busy. Do things we love and enjoy. It could be anything from taking care of a pet to just taking a walk. It helps if you keep your mind busy and take care of yourself. If you think about things like feeling distance and lonely then it's just hurting yourself. If possible keep yourself busy and do things your interested in like learn cooking or whatever you enjoy. It sort of helped me so I believe it can help others too.
Anonymous
December 27th, 2020 12:11am
Whole world is in front of us. To be honest, a big part in our isolation plays technology. I overcame feelings of isolation by turning off my phone and computer for some time, I started reading more, and spent time with my cat. In short - I lived. I started living when I turned off all the electronics in my house. I found meaning in things. I played on guitar and wrote songs. I kept in mind that people are isolated right now, just like me. I kept in mind that everything gets better. Sometimes it takes 5 years, but it does. All I had to do to realise this, was turning off my devices for some time. All I had to do to live, was getting rid of my phone. I know that´s extremely hard to do, but taking, for example, a week pause helps. And everything is possible. :)
Anonymous
December 27th, 2020 6:34am
To stop feeling isolated is a big ask and yet a small ask in a pandemic. We can text, email, videochat, PM/IM, etc. And yet, we don't always truly *connect*. It can feel isolating because we are sometimes literally isolated by fear, or by real needs to quarantine. But we ARE connected. Sometimes a meme might help us feel seen/heard, or finding an unusual online community that understands you where you can vent or ask questions. Sometimes it's about reaching out to someone by phone, slipping a friendly note under a neighbor's door to see if they are isolated and need a snack or an errand. Or, of course, reaching out on 7 cups. But do reach out, be brave, and remember that we are more connected than isolated.
Youngadultsupport
January 15th, 2021 12:37am
I can relate to this! Covid has affected so many of us in terms of isolation. The ways I deal with the lonely and isolated feelings are participating in mindfulness guided meditations on YouTube, coming on here and connecting with a fellow peer, calling a family member or Skyping with a friend. It is especially hard for those with a lack of support and that’s what 7 Cups can help with. Many people are isolated right now so it is important to know and understand that you are not alone. Social media has us comparing the best versions of our lives. It’s hard when it seems like everybody else has an amazing group of friends to talk to. Understanding that social media is not accurate and taking breaks from the apps can also help.
Hunterbukowski
January 31st, 2021 8:09am
To avoid feeling isolated I call friends or I also gain new hobbies and skills to keep me occupied and always busy I also have a baby who keeps great company and always wants to hang and play others may want to do online gaming or read you can go outside as well or contact people on seven cups so you have someone to talk and have listen to you so you don’t feel alone there is always someone there for you and to help if you ever feel alone. I personally enjoy the quiet alone time I get when I can
Anonymous
April 8th, 2021 2:47am
You can try to reach out with friends and acquaintances from your past, join a gym or a local group related to your hobbies and interests, start to talk to people you see everyday in your routine (for example that person that serves coffee everyday). If you are isolated at home because of the COVID-19 pandemic, you can try to reconnect through the internet with people from your past and with people that you don't know but are in social media groups related to your interests, so you can talk about common interests and try to get a meaningful connection so you feel less isolated.
Anonymous
April 17th, 2021 8:48am
For some people getting risk of isolated need the help from other people like friends, relatives,... I personally also believe that this is really a good way. However, I am even more convinced that we can stop feeling lonely on our own. Without the support from others, we can create own happiness by doing things we would love to do. Have you ever tried to watching films, shopping, learning, cooking,.. on your own? I myself have experienced that kind of feeling before. And i would say that it is even better than you could imagine. So just give it a try one day and you can figure out by yourself. I hope people who read this reply happiness in life!
Yourstruly14
May 2nd, 2021 12:43am
Well, it really depends on the type of isolation you're referring to. Do you isolate yourself from other out of disinterest or maybe fear of bad impressions, anxiety? Are you being forcefully isolated, alone in a room? Or do you feel misunderstood and lonely when surrounded by family or friends? No matter which it is, I know it can be very hard and lonely to be so isolated. Besides making effort to communicate with people and get better at it (which I know can be very intimidating and scary), getting to know and like yourself better is best done alone. When you have a higher self-esteem and sense of self-worth, being by yourself will be easier. You build these things by self-discovery, knowing what you like and don't like in food, style, people, and areas of practice/work, doing things you love daily to show yourself you do care about how you feel. The love you give to others should always first be given to yourself. As you do these things, being alone will be easier and when you do reach out to people, your sense of self will aid you in builder stronger and overall better relationships.
WatercolorSunrise
May 20th, 2021 9:17am
I believe we are all in a very difficult situation right now as far as being responsible in regard t covid-19 and being responsible for our own mental wellness. We cannot go out and mingle at this time like we once would have and it is unhealthy as well to isolate ourselves and only see the grocery clerk or the gas station attendant all week long. We must take the first steps necessary to not feel so isolated. That means get ahold of your friends and relatives over the net or on the phone and plan an outing where you can safely socially distance, take an extra mask or two and meet with them. At least once, even better twice or more per week at the public park, skate/scooter park/off leash area or walking trail halfway between both of your residences. If you don't want to do the hike you don't have to! Each of you bring a blanket to sit on, stay 6 feet apart and chat about whatever is up for the both of you! Talking on the phone or over text or email is good for all the days in between when there is no other choice but it cannot be relied upon to keep us well. We need to see the whites of our friends eyes! We need to be somewhere that we can safely take those damn masks off and see another person's facial expressions and smiles!! I know at this point it sometimes seems like it is more trouble than it's worth but that is the isolation and depression talking, truly! Make a point of nagging your least likely friend into making a plan like I just suggested and when the inevitable moment comes when they thank you for nagging them into meeting you at the park even though they told you no 5 times before agreeing, make them promise that they will do the same for you within 1 months time! Keep on keeping on friends, we got this! :)