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How do I stop feeling so isolated?

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Last Updated: 06/10/2022 at 7:17pm
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Saturnstars
February 20th, 2019 9:39am
Try hard to let yourself feel okay with going out to meet your friends. Maybe ask someone to come to your house for an hour or two every couple of days so you can feel more involved. Get some fresh air every day and get involved in group activities. You are not wrong and you are doing well. Push yourself out of your comfort zone when you know you will still be safe and protected. You’re not alone in this. Many people go through this feeling too, maybe even your friends or family. Don’t be afraid to talk about how you feel!
Happycowboy92
March 2nd, 2019 8:12pm
I start by getting a hobby that I like and get to know new people. Self-esteem gets better with time and you find connections with people. Don't be so hard to yourself and try to love yourself the way you are. Try to talk to people maybe you'll find people you like and they like you too. Try to find people with similar interests and you will have nice time together. You will feel that you are involved in something nice and don't feel yourself anymore as isolated as before. Just believe in yourself and don't give up on trying.
Anonymous
April 26th, 2019 6:48am
When I feel isolated I know that it is either because I feel I am not good enough to be around, or other people are not good enough to be around! So, I don't push myself to go out of isolation all at once. I start small talks with anonymous people in public, like on the bus or in a park. As I know I am not going to see that person again, I feel more comfortable. I feel I am not going to be judged, or if I am, it is not that important. I know that my feelings are not getting hurt, so it is safe to have that kind of interactions. Usually these conversations give me a good feeling that causes me to question my negative thoughts about myself and others, and little by little I grow a willingness of being around people.
fairyava
May 3rd, 2019 9:53pm
Humans are a tribal species, so we feel inclined to be around other people and feel included to feel like we are safe and secure. So many people now feel lonely, even if we are surrounded by other people on the daily. We can try to practice self-love to show ourselves that we are safe and we do not need to rely on anyone to feel like we are complete. Take yourself out, buy yourself something new, work on mindfulness. You can try reaching out to people you have lost connections with and develop closer friendships with others to fight these lonely feelings.
proudRose
May 5th, 2019 12:40am
Everyone can feel isolated sometimes, it’s completely normal! However it’s important to break this habit of isolating ourselves and start opening up to the world! My best piece of advice would be to reach out to your closest friends. Maybe you can ask them out for a coffee date, go to the movies, drive around, just do anything to get out of the house and have fun! Sometimes the best medicine is laughter so hanging out with your friends and having a laugh can be really helpful. Taking walks in nature is also very nice because you get a breath of fresh air and you can just enjoy some time for yourself
ComfortableSmiles97
May 26th, 2019 6:12am
Knowing that others are in the same position as you are can bring a measure of comfort or guilty relief. It may help you feel you are not completely alone in your pain, and there is hope out there for you; you are part of an invisible community to understand what you are going through on a daily basis. Connecting with people in real life goes a long way, whether in group therapy or through an online group chat. Receiving validation from others who understand your pain and do not judge you for it can help too. The most important validation that matters ultimately though, comes from you.
Anonymous
July 11th, 2019 3:53am
The best thing you can do for yourself is surround yourself with other people. Whether you do this by attending social events, sitting at a baseball game, or just taking up a new hobby where you can meet new people. Isolation comes from the lack of human contact or being around others. But when you try and surround yourself around other people, you will notice a drastic change. You will start to feel safer and more comfortable. It will become easier to talk to others, and interact with them. Just know that it's perfectly normal to feel this way, and everyone feels isolated at some point in their life.
Falguni4782
July 12th, 2019 6:55am
By changing your perception towards yourself & others. Why you feel that your are isolated ! First of all you have to limit your expectation from others. Just stop thinking about yourself always. Explore your hobbies. Go our and meet people without any reason. Not necessary everyone will behave or respond the way you want. But thats fine ! Just accept what world is. Go and live ! And last but not the least Help Poors and needy people. Devote some time to make the poor people around you a little better. Life is beautiful ! Live it ! Don't plan everything !
Imhere4you247
August 17th, 2019 6:34am
Feeling isolated is generally not a good feeling, even if you prefer being alone most of the time. What I've learned is that the best way to stop feeling isolated, is to stop allowing yourself to isolate yourself. Often times when I feel alone I have realized that I put myself in the situation. I can put myself in this situation by ignoring friends and family when I'm feeling down, avoiding going out, or even by making myself unapproachable. Many times this is done in order to protect myself as I have bad anxiety. One way to prevent myself from isolation is to talk to a trusted friend or put myself out of my comfort zone. In order to stop feeling isolated you must realize where the source of isolation came from and how you got to this point.
HopeIsAHealer
September 14th, 2019 12:39pm
I think the first step to ending isolation is to show up for yourself emotionally. Embark on a journey of self-discovery until you become familiar with your authentic self and can identify your needs, values and purpose. The next step is building healthy boundaries. Start by setting them for yourself. How can you stay in your integrity? How can you honor yourself? Decide what you love about yourself and where you would like to go. What kind of people will enrich your life. What qualities are you looking for in friends. Once this comes into focus, start reaching out to others by pursuing activities that you love. Seek out people whose values align with yours and slowly start to build bridges.
Anonymous
September 19th, 2019 4:33pm
Isolation is an awful thing to experience and it is difficult to feel like you're on your own in this thing. You can first try to recognize whether it's most likely due to your external environment or internal. If it's internal, you can try to accept that, yes, you do feel isolated and it is valid to feel that way regardless of the number of people you surround yourself with. What isolation means can be different to each person including you. Try to understand what it actually is and recognize the root of it. When you do figure it out, you are free to do what you think is the most ideal way to overcome it in your own pace and terms.
Anonymous
September 22nd, 2019 10:59am
Call a friend, bond with a family member, read a book and discuss it online. I think according to ROBERT WHITAKER of ANATOMY OF AN EPIDEMIC fame, a best-selling book, the key to happiness is human interaction. That is so, so, so very important, yes. according to ROBERT WHITAKER of ANATOMY OF AN EPIDEMIC fame, a best-selling book, the key to happiness is human interaction. That is so, so, so very important, yes. The most important human interaction is with family, then friends, then others. If you do not have family, then friends, neighbords etc etc. Try it. Spend time doing gardening, even if indoors in winter.
wildghostmemories
November 1st, 2019 9:31pm
How you feel is a feeling and while they can be overwhelming it is important to remember that your feelings are not you. I know it can be really hurtful and painful to feel this way and even though it can be difficult to accept you are no alone in it. It is very normal to feel isolated and connection can sometimes be difficult but you deserve to feel safe, supported, and heard. Have you already looked at the 7 cups guides on Lonliness, Anxiety and Managing Emotions? Those can be really helpful in reassuring yourself about your current feeling and reframing them into more positive ones.
Anonymous
November 2nd, 2019 1:49am
The fact you're thinking about that is a good start , it shows you want change and you want things to get better. The best way to get yourself out of that enclosed environment is to go outside and try and do something like finding activities you enjoy such as football , tennis , or even just going out for walks with your friends or something small. It's also important to consider where and when you feel isolated and try and figure out why you feel that and maybe even discussing it with a family as one mind is better than two sometimes.
Prisha123
November 14th, 2019 6:23pm
Try to be happy with yourself first. It's very important to know your worth first. Spending time with yourself will not only help you gain self love but also help you overcome the fear of being isolated. The next step you can try is to talk to people. Give your time to people who actually mean something in your life. Talking to negative people only harm you. Try to stay with people you spread positive and have a positive impact in your life, this will help you have and maintain a healthy life. Going outdoors and taking a break sometimes also helps. I hope this helps you. :)
Anonymous
January 1st, 2020 4:19am
Try new activities. It may be hard, but it will be worth it in the long run. Join a sport, music group, or a school club. You will be given the opportunity to make new friends and connections. Any joining, you will also learn team working skills to help you in later life. Also, you can start to go out with family. Instead of saying no to going to dinners, say yes. See how it goes. You will most likely connect with family that you never thought you would. Your relationship with your family will then soon grow and grow.
HarshYogi
January 10th, 2020 3:19pm
Sometime, it would be useful to learn about patterns on when and why we get a feeling of isolation. In my case, if there if I get 3-4 blank days without external triggers (from business or guests or friends), I start feeling isolated. But coming to the point, yes, I have felt many a time the same and following has worked for me. 1. Always keeping some backlog tasks that do not require much preparation and I can engage immediately. Example, watering the plant, or organizing the book or even coming to 7cups.come and helping others. 2. Pick up a pen/laptop and start writing. Silence or feeling of isolation also is a great opportunity to look inward and get some great answers of life. 3. Leisure walk, if the climate is conducive. I hope this helps.
SpaceDino
January 30th, 2020 8:35pm
Start with small steps. Can you send a text or message to someone? Call an old friend or family member? Make plans to grab a coffee? If you feel like you don't have anyone to message or make plans with you could join a group chat here on 7cups or message a listener. Just reach out and say hello! I also find it useful to step outside and go for a walk when I'm feeling isolated. Make eye contact with people and nod, hold the door for someone, buy a coffee if you can afford. Even a small amount of human interaction with strangers can help.
Anonymous
February 9th, 2020 11:56pm
For me personally, I was able to stop feeling isolated by opening myself up to others. I often felt alone in the things I was experiencing and thought that no one else was going through the same things that I was, so no one could understand me. However, by getting to know people, and slowly telling my story to those that I trust, I was able to open myself up to the world and feel less lonely. Now, when I feel negative emotions, I know that someone is always there to listen, and I am not scared to reach out to others.
Anonymous
February 14th, 2020 5:45pm
By starting to love your own company this way you will never feel isolated, there is nothing more empowering in this whole world than starting to love your own company. Also when you get away with idea of being part of a group or crowd and identify yourself as a complete individual without anyone else involved , you will never feel isolated, you should never give yourself permission to feel isolated because of people who don't even matter . Self love is the key and that is the most important aspect of a person's life all together. This is what I believe.
Kali4now
March 7th, 2020 7:31pm
I have made the experience that other people usually also feel isolated. Not all of them. But more than one would expect. So when I feel lonely I send messages to friends who I haven't heard of in a long time, asking how they are doing. I treat them with the same compassion and care that I am currently really wishing for and usually a surprising amount of love and kindness and deep connection is coming back. It is so much easier to receive what you need if you show people around you that you are also willing to give that. This is the only thing that becomes more and more, the more you share it.
sereneEars5668
March 11th, 2020 4:54am
One way that I coped with isolation, particularly isolation that I couldn't practically do anything about was learn to reframe loneliness in my mind. I was not alone, I was with myself. Me, with all my complexities and idiosyncrasies and experiences. I realized that I could surprise myself, time alone felt welcome. How would I react in a certain situation? How do I feel about this topic I really haven't thought much about? How quickly could I learn a new skill? You are not alone when you are with yourself, because you are a multitude of different kinds of people coming together. Get to know them!
Anonymous
March 15th, 2020 2:25am
Isolated or lonely ness is one of the biggest problem which majority people are facing. And feeling been isolated will make your mind very weak and it will allow you to develop negative thoughts and get depressed. Always remember our mental health is very important for us. No one will be responsible for our own thoughts or actions hence always keep your self involved in any activities, prepare a time table. And also try to love your self more. When you love your self more you will never feel isolated. Because we must accept and enjoy our own company first. Always move your self or connect with only those people who bring the best in you. And motivate you with positivity. And never allow your brain to think negative.
MLHG
March 28th, 2020 9:16pm
If possible, you should look at your life critically. What could be causing this? Without knowing a cause, you can not know a solution; this goes for any problem, ever. However, it is very possible that you can not identify a cause in your life. This is a case where you should speak to an expert. Find someone you can trust to give you skilled and thoughtful insight, and describe your problem (in this case, feeling isolated), and your life. They should be able to help from there, however, you will have to trust them and be willing to execute suggestions that they make to minimize that isolated feeling, though if you truly doubt their suggestion, you have no obligation to follow through.
HilaryNg
April 4th, 2020 6:02pm
I've personally felt this way many times in the past. I do not know the specifics of your life but I know that isolation can be one of the most devastating human emotions. We all go through it, and we all know it sucks. I think one way you can combat this is to talk to someone you trust. This can be anyone - a friend, a parent, a therapist, a 7 cups Listener, etc. I find there are always good people out there waiting to listen. You need only reach out. This brings me to my next point. A large part of this isolation, I've found, is low self-esteem. We feel isolated because we feel abnormal in some way. We judge ourselves and our problems as unimportant, and we don't talk to others for fear of being a burden. It is important to take a step back, breathe, and know that you are valid and that your emotions are valid. You are entitled to your feelings. Another way I've also dealt with isolation is by focusing on things other than myself. I personally love music - and the beauty I've found within it has the power to bring me in touch with the positivity of life. Nature is also powerful. You can go outside and just look at the sky, or admire human architecture, or even grass.
MonicaQu
April 12th, 2020 6:28pm
There are times in life when you feel isolated for example, when a group of friends exclude you or you don't feel important to them. It is a feeling that is hard to stop and I guess an idea would be to when you feel confident in yourself then, you feel sometimes that it doesn't matter what others think about you. So I guess some ideas on how to stop feeling isolated could be speaking openly to people around you about what you don't like. Sometimes they don't realize it. Other times, people might do it with intentions so you think they don't deserve you as when someone isolates you, it would be their problem. Stay confident or talk openly about your feelings.
BestMotivationer
April 16th, 2020 7:38pm
Great question! You can come to 7 cups and start talking to people here without disclosing private information. If you want, you can also start by joining communities that has your interest. By doing this it makes it easier for people to talk to you because you have something that you both like in common. Feeling isolated may deal with you feeling that you have nothing to talk about with people or feeling like no one wants to talk to you. This is also where groups come in. Yes, there are time isolation is good but having someone to talk to is also good. In conclusion, try 7 cups group chats and communities, find a something your passionate about to talk about and when you’re ready join public groups in your area.
Anonymous
April 19th, 2020 5:56am
Consider what gives your inner happiness like reading, watching movies , writing, sketching , cooking , gardening, exercising and do that . Else best is to look for a new hobby. Learn something new, improve your skills set for job. This way you will feel as a part of activity and never be isolated. Do keep this is mind people have said books are once best friend. Adopt a pet, once you get a pet and start taking care of it you will never feel alone and pet will become your loyal friend. Feeling isolated or not is all up to the person if you want you can be engaged and if you don’t want you will always be isolated.
Anonymous
April 22nd, 2020 8:59pm
Everybody feels isolated at times. You can try to connect with people who share similar interests. If you are feeling isloated even when you are with people you should find a different way to occupy your time. You could take up a new hobby such as gardening, reading or even binge watching a tv show to take your mind off feeling isolated. You could even take up an online learning course. I got over the feeling of being isolated by adopting a dog. Just do what makes you happy don't think about feeling isolated. Keep your mind and body healthy.
TheresaMorris26
April 23rd, 2020 3:05pm
I've found that by making a list of all the people I need to connect with helps with not feeling isolated. Each week I make an effort to text, call, or email as many people on my list as possible. Also, I have found writing letters to a friend or relative helps as well. By starting a mail chain gives me something to look forward to each week. Also, receiving a letter in the mail is a mood booster because it's not bills, or spam mail, but something happy and positive. It's hard right now stating connected in a time when we have to be disconnected. However, connecting to people virtually or in reality is important.