What are the pros and cons of making friends online?

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Anonymous - Expert in Loneliness
November 12th, 2016 1:30pm
Online friendships are good but one should be careful and not lose themselves in the computer plus one has to make sure to not replace their real life friends with online friends. ● Pros of online friendship are :- 1) One can befriend people from different states,countries and learn about their culture and lifestyle. 2) One can learn about others more faster online since people are generally more comfortable and find easier to express their opinions and share about themselves online by typing than talking.Even a shy person can approach others easily online. 3) One can take their own time to reply and they can easily stop the conversation if they are not comfortable with the person they are talking to. 4)One can learn about the other person through their user profile if the other person likes to update about themselves online. 5)And if it's about dating online then -Attraction can be based more on personality than their looks. ● Cons of online friendship are :- 1)Lack of body language can lead to misunderstanding because emoticons don't always help. 2)To prevent miscommunication one needs to be careful of what they say. 3)An online friend can disappear overnight.One may never know who they are talking to and so providing too much information about oneself can be risky and very dangerous. 4)One always need to be careful and never let their guards down.It will be difficult to do this because friendship itself is all about trust and sharing and if you have to be cautious then I am not sure how much meaningful this friendship is going to be. 5)If they are nearby then you can meet them (... better to not go alone to meet them) but if they are too far then you cannot even meet them.(Specially it will be troublesome if it is online relationship) 6)One may get too much addicted to their mobile phones or computer and lose touch with reality.This could be very dangerous and it will not be a healthy way of living. Neither is it going to be good for one's physical health and nor mental health.
PageOfCups
July 16th, 2016 11:35pm
The biggest pro about making friends online as I see it, is the excessive amount of people online. You are sure to find at least one person who matches your interests, and it is often a lot easier to approach these persons if you are shy by nature in the real world. One of the biggest cons of an online friendship however is the uncertainty that comes along with it. People are known to be deceptive online and some carry malicious intent. You have to keep your guard up and follow safe internet behavior, which is not always easy, if the counterpart is very charismatic. Furthermore compared to a person you meet in real life, your online friend is able to disappear without a trace over night. It is even easy for them, as for the better or worse, you and your friend carry no actual responsibilities toward each other, Getting too attached to an online friend might leave you disappointed.
FrufflesDaRat
July 2nd, 2016 2:21am
I think there are plenty of both, a few pros are they may be easier to talk to, you can watch YouTube together, and many other fun online things. Examples of cons would be not being able to give real hugs, you can't do things like swimming or shopping together, and even connecting with what seems to be some text on a screen may be hard for some. Overall I think the pros outweigh the cons!
Ky23
March 22nd, 2018 2:41am
Pros: - Easy to start a conversation, less pressure when the conversation isn't taking place face-to-face - Less commitment - Greater chance of meeting someone who doesn't look like you, sound like you, or share the same experiences - Easy/fun way to spend your time (just as long as it isn't 24/7) - May be able to confide in this person more easily than someone in real life (it's easier to share secrets/tough moments through text or phone call). Cons: - Can be dangerous, you never truly know who you are talking to online (it's easy to use someone else's photos, lie about details, or even act a completely different way from your own self) - Often, someone you meet online won't be right next door, so it's long distance (which can also be a pro!) - Might find yourself remaining online or on your phone for way too much time - Social isolation, you may limit interacting or reaching out to others you run into in real life - Perhaps disapproval from parents (who are very aware of online dangers)
Tina167
April 14th, 2018 8:40am
The major con would be you never know with whom your are dealing with behind the screen it's difficult to trust peoole online just because you have pure intenstoins for them doesn't mean they have the same for you,if you talk about pros then for a time being it's good to chat with someone to kill the lonliness but again never give away too much personal details
KatMae
July 8th, 2016 11:11pm
Hey there! I think the internet is a great place to make friends, but just remember to be safe and cautious as it can be dangerous as well. The pros of internet friends would be the fact that you are getting the chance to know this person really well before seeing them or their looks. It stops people from being judgemental about looks and discriminating. The cons of having an internet friend would be not physically having them here with you to hug and go hang out with. I hope this somewhat helps you out :) If anyone would like to have a continued discussion about this topic, feel free to message me.
Grimegg
July 11th, 2016 12:02pm
Its no secret that people online open up freely to strangers. Its easier to open up to someone when you cannot see them. You do not feel direct intimidation and your mind creates its own image of how a person looks or talks depending on their chat conversation. The obvious bad part is clearly that you cannot be sure who exactly is behind the that screen, and I also personally believe that body language is extremely important sometimes.
Anonymous
August 7th, 2016 12:49pm
Pros: - You literally have access to your online friends anytime, anywhere (as long as you have Internet there, of course). - There's absolutely no limit to the different backgrounds and beliefs of the friends you make on the Internet, so it's easier to find friends whose interests match up with yours. The backgrounds/beliefs of your in-person friends might be limited a bit by geography, so you might feel that you relate to the experiences of an Internet friend more. - There's no pressure to schedule get-togethers or meet-ups (which might wind up being expensive/stressful among busy in-person friends). - Lessens anxiety about how your physical appearance, dress sense, verbal/facial cues, body language, posture, etc. might affect a friendship - Good way to make friends if you have social anxiety that makes speaking to new people in person difficult. Cons: - It's very easy for a "friend" to pretend to be someone who they are not, so it's a lot easier to get scammed/manipulated by someone online than in person. - No means of physical contact if you need it (like an in-person hug). - Can't do some of the activities you can with in-person friends (grab lunch/coffee together, give each other a lift to somewhere, etc.) - Less commitment/responsibility than an in-person friendship. Theoretically, you could always log out of the Internet and never log back in or only show up like once every few months or so without any real consequences, whereas for in-person friends, you need to take the effort of meeting up in person every so often in a way that doesn't conflict with anyone's schedule...and you understand that you might run into them at a time when you weren't prepared to or planning to somewhere like the grocery store (although: some might see a friendship with less tie-downs and obligations as a pro). - It's easy to come across as one kind of person but Be another on the Internet, so if you actually do run into your Internet friends in person, there's always a chance that they won't actually be anything like their online personas, which can be disappointing. - People often feel like they can be more blatantly rude and disrespectful on the Internet, and while the friends you make on the Internet may not be rude/troll-ish/spam-posters, you'll probably have to sort through a few such people to find your Internet friends.
TheaLovegood
November 18th, 2016 12:02am
I've had several dear online friends for years now, and these are my personal conclusions. Pros: They are friends. The fact that they live far away from you doesn't change your feelings, nor theirs, if you grew close. I have a close online friend who I started talking to back in 2011. I was very depressed back then, and I didn't have too many real life friends. Then I met Derek, who lives all the way in Northern Ireland, and as it turned out, he was also depressed. But he had that never dying sense of humor which I needed, as I soon realised. The way he'd make things sound funny, and his wit would make my day much better and lighter, despite daily anxiety and stress. And I had the kind of interests and topics I liked talking about that made his days better, despite a family tragedy and health problems. I didn't even have Skype, nor a good PC. Just a phone and messages, and we messaged each other every day. Message by message, and he got to know me better than my family, and one or two friends I had at the time. And I got to know him. Today, when I think of 2011, that online friend is one of the brightest memories about that year, not just because not many pretty things happened at the time, but because meeting him was a great thing, and would remain so even I had twenty great real life friends back then. He'd still remain a great memory, because our friendship was great. And it still is, in 2016. Even if we get to talk once a month, the closeness will always be there. And so will the gratefulness. My other online friends of who some are quite close to my heart live all over the globe. One lives in Africa, and I am in Europe. Another one lives in Hollad, another one in Germany. Once I had one from India. That's another great thing. I got to get to know a person that I in normal conditions would never meet at all. Thanks to online friendships, I met an African and his way of life, his different ways of living, a brand new world of a person from a completely different continent. Getting to know people who live so differently than you and becoming friends with them is a rich blessing and a rich experience. Cons: You can become such great friends that the distance becomes a painful thing to remember. You can't be close to them and offer them a hot cup of tea when they need it. Also, the danger of the Internet urges you to be much more careful when trusting someone, so that's something to care about. You only get to see the side of them which they choose to show. But it can happen with real life friends, too. That's one more common trait of both friendships. Online friends are just people whom you haven't hugged yet. :)
Anonymous
June 24th, 2016 4:55am
I can only imagine how you are feeling. I think you can always talk with all that people via other social media. The new reality is that now you can make new friends in other places like here on 7cups.
keera4299
November 9th, 2016 6:48am
The pros of making friends online is they can only know about you as much as you tell them. The con to making online friends is you don't know if they are truly who they say they are.
Anonymous
July 9th, 2016 7:20am
Some of the pros is that your friends transcend geographical barriers, but cons can be that you might be talking to someone who isn't who they claim to be.
Moshi9915
July 9th, 2016 2:44pm
One of the pros in making friends online is that you make bonds with people you meet and can feel their support no matter how far away they are. The cons of making friends online may be the lack of information you have on the person, which can lead to a dangerous path if you are not careful.
Pegasus80
July 13th, 2016 1:42pm
One of the pros of making friends online is that you have someone to talk to. Sometimes it's easier to have an online friend to talk to about things that maybe you don't want to discuss with people who are close to you in real life. You also get a different perspective of things when you only know them online. One con would be not having the ability to hang out with them. You might share some common interests and be unable to share them together.
MaxCaverly
July 31st, 2016 3:50pm
Pros: You can find really good friends who you can relate to and talk to, they're usually easier to talk to then people irl etc. Cons: They might not act like they usually do, and they might not be who you think they are. It's also easier for them to lie on the internet, but that has only happened to me once and I've met so many friends online. I highly recommend getting internet friends, they're the best :)
Anonymous
June 24th, 2016 2:45am
You can always make friends online, you can try using different websites, and meet new people. I know the friends you made are not easy to forget, but they won't forget you either, so making a new social account would sound good :)
Anonymous
July 9th, 2016 3:44pm
Pros. Of course getting many friends. And they can't judge. Cons. They can lie, some cyberbullying.
JustTryingToHelp1031
July 13th, 2016 6:51pm
Pros- •there is a larger range of people so you can meet people who have lots in common with you Con- They may or may not be who they say are. I don't say that to scare you, only you never know.
FluffyCottonSheep
July 24th, 2016 2:38pm
I feel like its easier to talk to people online about things i wouldn't dare to talk about in real life. I might be too nervous or shy around others in real life which makes it easier online. And if you have many in different times zones you will always have someone to talk to P.S. You don't need to look okay either, they wouldn't know if you look super tired or didn't shower for days :P
Anonymous
August 1st, 2016 3:30pm
Pros: •more easy to talk to •will be there for you more • can help you with things Cons: •could be a fake person •or a scammer or hacker •more dangerous so you have to be more cautious
janicenotfromfriends
June 21st, 2016 3:51pm
The important thing is that you remember these friends. There are loads of people in this world and you can make new friends. I know it isn't easy but you can try 🙂
ilovehelping
July 22nd, 2016 3:48pm
There are many pros and many cons. Pros include facilitating the helping of others and overcoming distance and time barriers. This can be in the form of making the other laugh, or lending an ear to their problems. BUT, without any clue of their intentions, exploitation of one or both sides is a very real possibility. In my humble opinion, making online friends is like eating chocolate, where moderation is key.
proudMist94
July 23rd, 2016 8:55pm
You can make very good friends who understand but also meet some very bad people who will try to force you into things or stalk you
Marianne1234
July 30th, 2016 12:57pm
Pros - You will not be judged as they may not know who you are(depends on what is said). Cons - Socialism is by face to face contact and may not say real things about themselves.
skylerraber1234
August 2nd, 2016 12:28am
The positives of having an online friend is that you can talk without the uncomfortableness of seeing another person face to face. This helps people sometimes open up to you better because they can't see you're facial expressions. I feel the con of having an online friend is that you can't physically let someone cry on you're shoulder and let someone experience you in person. Also, you might find out they are not who they say they are which can be disappointing.
ComfortingForest
August 3rd, 2016 12:14am
Pros: Its easier to be your self, and find people that are like you and into things you are, like games or music. You can also make lots of friends since there are probably many people into things you like. Cons: Your not face to face so its not always the same as being with a friend in person.
KimHereForEveryone
September 21st, 2016 2:55am
The pros: you can develop relationships on a blank slate and that other person only knows what you want them to know. You are able to anonymously tell people whatever you like without being judged. Online, the world is your oyster. You can make friends with similar interests and experiences but can also make friends with people from all over the worlds. The cons: you have to be careful with information you share in online relationships as it can make you vulnerable and trolls could take advantage of that
Anonymous
January 21st, 2019 12:14am
The Internet is a great way for making new friends from all over the world, and you can do this literally in your bedroom without the need of travelling. However, although "internet friends" has lots of advantages, you must not dismiss the disadvantages as it could put you in serious trouble. Some of the pros and cons of making friends online include: Pros: 1. You are able to meet people from all around the world, people of different cultures. 2. It helps when you’re feeling lonely and need someone to talk to 3. You can make a lot of friends and not worry about your physical appearance Cons: 1. Catfishing (someone who pretends to be someone else online) is a serious issue 2. Sites such as dating sites are normally used by criminals 3. Increases your chances of being deceived by criminals. They would try to gain your trust before asking you for money or other items of value to help their or someone’s cause
Christiana77
June 25th, 2016 9:37am
Make new friends. Move on and continue to be yourself. I'm sure you can still make some other friends.
Anonymous
June 30th, 2016 9:29pm
The pros of making friends online would be that you could talk to them easily since you wouldn't be talking face to face, the cons would be that you'd never know who you were actually talking to, whether it be a 13 year old girl or an older man.